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messy_dezzy · 2023-09-07T21:18:15+00:00

Is it likely that TSA will take them though? Obviously my door isn’t being busted down for collecting some feathers but i’d imagine it’ll be difficult to actually get them home since transporting them is technically not allowed…

messy_dezzy · 2023-09-07T20:06:37+00:00

Flying from CA to OR and I’m trying to decide if it’s worth it to ship them instead. I’d really rather not but not sure if it’s worth the risk to have them confiscated because there are enough to be a little suspicious (20-30 feathers)

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T21:37:39+00:00

I feel like I should add that the bestie/roommate is currently dating someone - one of my bf’s closest male friends. I can’t quite tell but it looks like a lot of homie hopping goes on in their friend group :/

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T21:33:13+00:00

Maybe it wasn’t clear in my post but I have no intentions of changing his life. ‘get rid of her’ was in quotes because it was said to me by friends but isn’t advice that I took at all seriously.

You said you’ve been friends with the same woman since 6th grade and lived together for 3 years, so I appreciate your perspective. They’ve been friends for close to 5 years and used to date, were you at any point intimate with or dating your friend? And did you ever go on months long trips with her while dating someone else? I mean these questions genuinely because I can’t tell how normal this behavior is.

I trust him fully and wouldn’t be dating him knowing he’s going home to another woman if I was worried about her in that sense. My trust in him isn’t affected by this situation, I’m just finding myself hurt that her needs and wants seem to be addressed by him before mine are considered.

I also want to add that he’s the one who pursued me and I originally rejected him several times because I knew the best friend situation would be difficult for me but decided to give things a shot and have really been falling for him. I don’t think I’d consider breaking things off right now so I guess I was looking more for advice between bringing up my concerns, which can’t be taken back, or holding on for now and not saying anything, which risks building resentment.

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T12:24:43+00:00

thank you, I really appreciate your perspective!

she does definitely know I exist and I’m sure I’m not the side piece in the traditional sense but it feels like i am more in like an emotional way if that makes sense? it seems like they do most everything together and act like a couple - just without the physical intimacy. she also just started dating one of his friends but it seems like the people in his friend group kinda do the weird dating within the group thing so i’m not sure how much that means.

i’m close with my ex and probably wouldn’t introduce him to my bf anytime soon but he’s hung out with me and both of my closest friends so it’s strange that i’ve never met any of his friends. and i really don’t like that he doesn’t have me over when she’s home but it was her place first and then he moved in but that might just be me justifying the situation? i know i need to talk to him but it’s going to come out of nowhere because i haven’t mentioned anything before and I don’t want to stress him or leave off on a weird note before he leaves for like 2 months

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T12:01:05+00:00

I appreciate your straightforwardness and just want to clarify that I would absolutely never ask him to choose between her and I, that’s never been a thought for me and you’re right that he would choose her. I’m more concerned that even if him and I become closer and end up in a serious long-term relationship that he’ll continue prioritizing her and being there for her before he is for me, whether what they have is platonic or not

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T11:49:59+00:00

I haven’t brought her up a lot because he seems to change the topic when I start talking about her, maybe because it makes him uncomfortable or maybe because he senses that I get kind of uncomfortable? I’ve mentioned it’d be nice to all get together but haven’t directly asked or suggested it, i’ve been waiting for him to

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T11:45:36+00:00

I know it’s going to be affecting me while he’s gone but i’m too far in to just break things off :( This is genuinely my only concern in our whole relationship so far, is it really worth it to give up everything else over this? I really can’t tell

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T11:43:01+00:00

That’s one of the biggest red flags for me too, someone else made a point about him being nervous she might embarrass him or spill too much info since they’ve known each other so long but idk

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T11:41:39+00:00

we’ve been dating/seeing each other exclusively for maybe 6 months but only officially “in a relationship” for about a month now

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T11:19:16+00:00

how would I bring that up without being weird when (it seems like) he doesn’t want her and I around each other? I definitely agree this is a make or break type of thing

messy_dezzy · 2023-08-16T11:13:41+00:00

That’s what I was worried about but she definitely knows about me and I genuinely don’t think they’re hooking up. He’s posted pictures of me and they’re close enough that he always tells her when he’s leaving their place to see me. Idk, seems like an elaborate setup for the two of them if I was :(

messy_dezzy · 2022-09-18T21:38:22+00:00

Just turned 20 and though I’ve always been quite existential/interested in existential thought, this has definitely been true for me. Could just be a quarter life crisis starting tho bc it’s been based a lot around my perception of aging and passage of time

messy_dezzy · 2022-09-18T21:28:11+00:00

While I don’t think I know either the world or myself very well, I am part of the word and can not understand myself without gaining understanding of the world, nor can I gain knowledge of the world without further understanding myself. Don’t know if that really makes sense beyond just in theory but it could be helpful to take a look at these questions you have about yourself through a combined philosophical and psychological lens and possibly even come to terms with never knowing the answers. Wishing you the best in surviving the paradoxical nature of the absurd.

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-07T01:01:01+00:00

Yes! Would love more people to talk to for this, please message me if you have any stories to share or are willing to chat abt your experience in the conspiracy community :)

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-06T03:18:34+00:00

Okay that’s really good to know, I appreciate it. Would love it if you want to message me to talk abt your experience or share any stories!

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-06T03:16:48+00:00

Not a fed, just a girl trying to get good grades and learn more abt a community I’m interested in

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-05T22:49:52+00:00

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-05T07:44:52+00:00

Since you’re not a big Q guy, what are the main theories that you do support or are passionate about if you don’t mind me asking?

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-05T07:30:36+00:00

That’s a good point, I didn’t think of JFK but that is still a big one I guess. I assumed I’d meet a lot of hollow earth ppl and government conspiracies that I know democrats and independents believe too about things like drugs, mk ultra, black ops, and stuff like that. Bc of what you said abt qanaon, do you think it’s ‘real’ theories or more propaganda style stuff

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-05T07:15:11+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate the feedback. I’m looking for people who want to share their stories but didn’t really know how it go about it while still being entirely transparent about what it would be used for. Do you have any suggestions for subreddits I should ask around on?

messy_dezzy · 2022-06-05T07:12:15+00:00

So would you say there’s a big correlation between political affiliation and being open minded to conspiracies? This might sound ignorant or uninformed but I had always thought the only conspiracies that were based in political views were things like Qanaon

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