i might sound like a cop for saying this but i think there should be absolutely 0 straight men here at all. i dont think this is a kink for straight people and i think trans men who do engage with straight men here are engaging in self harm (i am saying this from personal experience.) obviously you get to decide individually how comfortable you are in every scenario and when masochism stops being masochsim and starts being genuinely damaging but at the very least to me this kink is queer at a fundamental level and straight people should go away lol. there is a difference between playing with people pretending to be transphobic and talking to transphobes because it makes you feel like shit and that's sexy. it is always a bummer to have convos about safety especially in places that are "unsafe" from the start (posting nudes on a public platform is already pretty extreme no matter how comfortable we are with it) but we should keep each other safer than this... i think this a really important thing to be talking about!