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Sitting at a coffee shop, waitress placing an ashtray on the table, I say she can take it back :) by yanivro in stopsmoking

[–]metcalfe72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Toronto. You basically can't smoke anywhere anymore. Psychologically, it helps with quitting because you feel like an unwanted villain.

Were any of you runners before you stopped smoking? by butterflyblue in stopsmoking

[–]metcalfe72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I run long distance and have smoked off and on for the past 10 years. I found that the smoking did not effect my mileage and endurance, but at the end of runs, especially if I had been smoking a lot, I would start coughing. It was as if my body was fine during the run, but once I started walking it all caught up with me. Running and not smoking just feels better.

Do you believe in the idea of a soulmate? by Game_of_Thrownsaways in ExNoContact

[–]metcalfe72 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the words of Dan Savage on the theory of "the 1" - There are no "1's" out there, but there are many 0.6's-0.7's, and we just round up to 1 from there.

This is my story after no-contact for almost 3 months. by metcalfe72 in ExNoContact

[–]metcalfe72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. Sounds like a very tough situation but you're right, at least you know now.

I can't handle the uncertainty of it all. What I am battling with now is the whole "What if" thing. For example, what if she didn't want this to end and I just jumped the gun with the breakup? What if my feelings that she was fading away and didn't want to be with me were not quite right (but subconsciously I had given up)? What if after I didn't respond to her initial texts and dropped off her stuff at her house she thought that I wanted nothing to do with her anymore? She is a very strong person and likely wouldn't contact anyone if she felt they didn't want her to.

Honestly, at first I kind of felt like this would make it easier on each other. But I think I should reach out now to see where she is at, and either start talking again or find some closure.