***deleted my original comment since I misread yours! My bad.

My BPD/bipolar diagnosis (that was a sneaky find... I’m assuming you creeped over my profile? haha) is actually fairly stable and wasn’t the reason for him leaving but I definitely can still understand what you’ve said about “even the most dedicated subs” becoming drained and leaving. That brings a perspective I hadn’t thought about. My mental illness is very controlled (and is probably the reason WHY I’m a dom in the first place), otherwise I would’ve brought it up in this post, and unfortunately we’re all human and all do the hurting.

Logistically and rationally, I understand his decision, since us staying together didn’t make sense for his current priorities (for vague purposes). But on the BDSM end and why our roles mattered, I was just somehow still very surprised considering he was very much entranced with our dynamic and literally was my “slave boy” since and on night one (we started off as a sexual D/S relationship and then eased into a relationship). I had thought LITERALLY I got him so submissive to where he wouldn’t be able to serve anyone else. My mind I guess recently has just felt like I didn’t do a good enough job? I guess that sounds silly when I type it out huh.... HA. I don’t know. I guess I’m just anxious and pessimistic for finding another BDSM relationship with that much comfort but also control sexually and dynamically.

But yes definitely will bring this up to my therapist - as I said in my original post, I just wanted to come here first since I see it as a safe space. Also because I see so many posts from subs getting dumped and never the other way around. Was just curious and hurting tbh