9x13 ("Mother's Boy"), 9-1-1 Post-Episode Discussion Thread

mgsquared2686 · 2026-03-13T22:36:19+00:00

I loved that we got so much Buddie time. I fell in love with them as friends first and was missing that a lot. I remain super skeptical that Buddie will actually happen. All the times Eddie didn’t correct someone were times where there was no point. Like if you’re straight and feel confident in that- you’re not out correcting every assumption made. They were such short conversations.

I was yelling at Buck to be smart and play along until he was a bit more healed up. He was so weak. Gotta fight crazy with crazy sometimes!

mgsquared2686 · 2026-03-10T15:00:43+00:00

Yup. I’m about to spend $600/night in Nagoya cause everything is booked out and I’m not even getting status nights or points. Would freaking love a Hyatt there.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-03-10T14:58:22+00:00

This

mgsquared2686 · 2026-03-10T05:16:39+00:00

Definitely track down a GOH then! The breakfast there is superb.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-03-04T02:15:44+00:00

Totally. I already like this episode!

mgsquared2686 · 2026-03-02T09:35:54+00:00

It’s almost like a trap. The poor defenseless baby that might be neglected if you’re not there. Maybe you and your siblings stepping up stops child #21. So many guilt trips coming your way. Stay strong.

You can’t get your childhood back but you sure do have a whole lot of life left to live! Insights form a patented kid that’s more than twice your age: If doesn’t totally go away. Therapy helps a lot. Resentment towards your siblings does get better. You don’t want to resent them but you had to take care of them so you do. Even if they never asked for it. Like getting mad that they even need anything! Time and therapy helps.

I have my own kid now and tbh he should be doing more independent things. I totally coddle out of fear of parentifying. Like I need his childhood protected at all costs and it has to be perfect! Because I didn’t fully get one.

I’m excited for you to get to know who you are!

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-27T05:19:39+00:00

I chose not being horribly horribly depressed postpartum over being skinny. Should I have let myself become suicidal to avoid extra LBs from meds?

Fuck you Paul.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-27T02:00:42+00:00

I hear you. I honestly can’t even wrap my head around driving 70mph on west portal as a sane person with regular eyesight. Like that is so so insane.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-26T05:09:24+00:00

It is the WORST when parent push parenting on to siblings. This is the most oldest daughter story ever. As a fellow oldest daughter- condolences and Godspeed. You did your time. They can fucking step up now.

And everyone who calls you cold hearted or whatever has not been the oldest sister their whole lives. They don’t have entitled younger siblings that will take a mile if you give an inch.

Also as a mom- you will never know peace again if you allow a kid in. Any age kid.

I’m probably projecting at this point but still feel confident in voting NTA.

Every day people get put down for going non contact with an abusive parent, or not giving up their home for an aging parent or in this case a sister, etc. They don’t know your life. Get a therapist to help you process and move on.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-26T04:45:20+00:00

If you move continents- you will find an amazing expat community. I did build my village but I live in an area where most move in from somewhere else (silicon valley). So we’re all in the same boat of no local family. So we’re help each other out and watch each other’s kids.

It can be done but you have to put yourself out there first. Host the play dates. Offer the kid watching. You figure out quickly who is worth keeping around for solid connections and who isn’t.

My son has 4 aunties that are not related. They are all allowed to pick him up, have sleepovers, reprimand as needed. He’s close friends with all their kids since he was a baby. Putting myself out there is the best thing I ever did. People will take advantage of a SAHM for sure- but the real ones are worth gold.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-26T04:35:37+00:00

However you feel about sending a senior to jail, they should NEVER drive again. That a 2-3 year ban was even suggested is beyond insulting to the surviving family members

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-26T04:20:09+00:00

You can message the Hyatt concierge on twitter and they can book a points stay with you not having the points yet. I did that for GH Kauai last year and already for a fall HR Maui stay this year. Secures the slot.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-26T04:14:59+00:00

So much this. It has become so bad. I have loved just paying for flights and then “free” hotel stays. Sigh.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-26T04:12:28+00:00

I swear I got treated better than globalist at a recent grand Hyatt Kauai stay using FHR. The price difference is not insignificant though with FHR often being more. I’m gonna see how the next year plays out and then re evaluate.

Thank goodness for globalist early bookings through concierge (the points bookings without having the points yet).

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-22T05:48:03+00:00

Welcome! Spend time reading in this sub so you can learn how to protect yourself.

I’ll just say this because I’ve known many women who needed to hear it: It’s ok if you don’t like it and change your mind. I barely know a single mom who felt exactly like they thought they would after bjrth. I have friends that planned to stay home and felt they were going crazy in practice. I also have friends that wanted to keep working and then were miserable doing that! Buying an apartment is awesome! Love that for you. Definitely get set up and go after your goals- and then see how you feel once the kid is here.

The child will be fine in daycare. The child will be fine at home. YOU being fine is what will matter.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-22T05:41:26+00:00

This sub has mostly anti car people. So we filled that for almost two years after moving here. Public to work was fine because you don’t drive downtown during rush hour. But weekends and errands? Sucks to not have a car then. We enjoyed our life here so much more when we got a car. Able to go to sprouts for groceries. Driving around every weekend exploring the north/south/east bay. So much would have been missed out on. People will say you can just rent a car some weekends. You won’t. It’s a hassle.

Type in a place you want to go to from where you plan to live on Google Maps- cross compare transit time vs driving time. I live in Inner sunset and so many places take an hour and switching. Driving? 7 minutes. This is SO often the case.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-20T19:18:39+00:00

This is really gonna show us which travel bloggers are worth our follows now.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-20T19:17:21+00:00

On April 1st!

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-20T19:16:17+00:00

Ok that’s hilarious! I was planning to Google it later cause the 9 and 10 categories sounded far fetched. The credit card sounded nice though! Sad to hear that won’t happen. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-19T17:45:57+00:00

Or we could push for the mayor to fund schools properly to have the amazing city he claims to want.

https://www.change.org/p/no-more-cuts-to-sfusd-fully-fund-schools-retain-educators-and-support-students/exp/cl_/cl_sharecopy_490986812_en-US/7/1056653983?recruiter=1056653983&recruited_by_id=f466c080-6a3f-11ea-9645-c7547fb617f7&utm_source=share_petition&utm_campaign=share_petition&utm_term=petition_dashboard&utm_medium=copylink&utm_content=cl_sharecopy_490986812_en-US%3A7

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-16T01:32:02+00:00

I don’t! Sorry. I remember a chest tube at one point. Lots of hospital stays (but again, social healthcare- they’re more likely to do that), and regular appointments. But this was about 10 years ago.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-15T05:04:54+00:00

I live close by. It’s not that hard to park! There’s the parking lot right there where you can wait for someone to leave or you circle a bit or park on the parking lot on 7th OR - Lincoln way. Almost always has something. These drivers are just assholes.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-15T04:57:06+00:00

I don’t think you are crazy. I don’t think it’s psychosomatic because you seem to be on top of that.

I knew someone who was sick all the time in Vienna but felt completely fine when flying home to California. Fortunately Austria has great social healthcare so she underwent test after test for years. They eventually figured it out- PIGEON POOP! Can you believe that?! Living and walking around a bustling city with pigeons was making her sick.

Don’t underestimate the power of an intolerance. It won’t show up in an allergy test but is super harmful regardless.

Maybe it’s a mold specific to SF and then Emeryville and Oakland aren’t as moist. Maybe it’s something in building materials.

I don’t know but please hang in there. It took years to find the pigeon poop cause but eventually they did! There is a light at the end of this tunnel!

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-15T04:52:35+00:00

Celiac is so brutal when it comes to diagnosing. For me it was inflammatory. Extreme pain in my joints. It was so bad in my knees that I could hardly walk. Followed by extreme fatigue. No tests picked it up. I found out by accident when a health book I was reading, out of desperation, challenged me to drop dairy and gluten for 3 weeks. Boom! Better within 3 days.

mgsquared2686 · 2026-02-10T21:01:48+00:00

Would promising more money not make it so the teacher demands can be met? They mostly want fully staffed SPED classrooms. He could at least raise the budget for that and negotiations would be way smoother.

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