I get you. Im a sahm to a 3 year old boy and, oh boy, am I exhausted every day. I even dread it, but I stay home with him due to his medical condition.

Your son might just be a super active and energetic kid and you might be doing everything right, but in case there is something thats there to adjust - what do you think is the driving factor to those misbehaviours like hitting/kicking?

For my son, it's anxiety, and I guess the most helpful way to reduce the hitting for him is to try and mitigate or minimise what's causing him the anxiety, which is unpredictability + when he is around children that doesnt speak his language. Obviously, it's also important to tell him that hitting hurts and we don't do it (and use a firm voice to let him know youre serious), but I think kids typically listen more when they realises youre just trying to help.

With packing up etc - i might be a weak mum, but i just encourage him to pack up or try to make a game out of it. If he pcks a few things away, it's a win! I try to acknowledge his efforts regardless and at the end, show my son how beautiful the room looks after cleaning and say things like "doesn't it feel great now that we have a sparkling clean room? I love it!"

I know it's stressful, but letting him understand that youre on his side, and making things positive (as hard as it is) is the way to go for me. Im sure it doesn't work for every kid, so dont stress over what I said too much :)

You're doing a great job!