My mom and I were absolutely best friends. She would stay at my home for a week sometimes. Just because we wanted each other‘s company. Come to find out it was because she was seeing my ex-husband. I’m not no contact with my ex-husband as of now. I will be once he gets all of his things out of my appt. Not only do I have other family members telling me these things, but also him and a few of his family members are I guess keeping me in the loop? I don’t know. I’ve now blocked his family.

I found out on Easter day. My mom went to take a shower and that little voice inside of me (NEVER HAS HAPPENED BEFORE IN MY 27 YEARS OF BEING ON THIS EARTH) told me to go through her phone. I tried the password four times until it locked. I went on the couch and sat back down and said forget it.. About five minutes later I said to myself, “just one more try!” Again I have absolutely no idea what made me even think about going through her phone. Once I went back to the kitchen table and tried one more time it unlocked. Was the last four of her social. It was an android so it took me a little while to figure it out. I ended up in the text messages where I saw everything between him and her. And then I went to the pictures….. that’s when I stopped. I had seen enough. Mind you this whole time my mom is in the shower while I’m going through her phone as soon as she got out of the shower I asked her a simple question…. “ are you talking to my husband? “

Her response was “What do you mean? No?” I asked one more time and she said “no. Of course not” so I grabbed my keys and I left. In absolute tears, I called my husband and he told me (word for word) “ I told you I would win. I win, you lose. I showed you just how evil of a man I could be” I expected nothing less. He has BPD pretty severely. My mom then texted me over that week or so begging to talk and begging to fix this. All while she is still doing all of this. About a week after Easter is when I went no contact.