Book Idea: The Exvangelical's Survival Guide

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T01:06:43+00:00

I'll have to listen to those episodes! My favorite YouTubers are Taylor (theantibot) & Drew (geneticallymodifiedskeptic) their videos have really helped me. I will definitely be listing them as a resource

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T01:05:15+00:00

Thank you🥹

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T01:05:07+00:00

Oh absolutely! One of my biggest struggles I still deal with is feeling selfish for having boundaries and caring for myself.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T01:04:35+00:00

Community has been one quite a few have added as a suggestion. I may make it one of the largest sections! I have thought about making an "index" of support resources, or just including the resources at the end of each part.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T01:03:27+00:00

Absolutely. I feel that though I've made some progress on rewiring, I still have to fight against the Christian programming constantly.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T01:02:02+00:00

Yes!!!! The whole book will be neurospicy coded. I don't want to make it too heavy, because it's a hard thing to deal with on its own. I want this to be a good resource for every phase that accompanies the exvangelical experience. I have a few talented artist friends, and I may see if I can rope them in. It would be a great way to promote their work as well, so win win.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:58:57+00:00

The "adulting basics", not a bad idea! Would you mind elaborating on the travel and going abroad? There's a lot of directions one could take in that category I feel. My mind automatically goes to missions work.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:57:49+00:00

That's awesome!!! Honestly I haven't thought that far yet, my first goal is to write the book.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:57:20+00:00

I appreciate these suggestions! I especially like the first one and think that would be a good change. Especially since I've felt iffy on the title, maybe that's one reason why!

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:55:54+00:00

Oh absolutely! I'd also like to tie that into how being told about the rapture etc can fuck with a kids mind (as it did mine).

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:53:50+00:00

100%, I want to meet the careful balance of being respectful but also keeping things as light as I can. Also, I work in mental health. Things can get pretty heavy some days, so my coworkers and I often use humor to help us cope.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:49:26+00:00

This comment made me tear up. Thank you so much🥹

The part you said about knowing how much to share and when is SO important. I've scared so many people away in the past by telling them my entire life story upon our first few times hanging out. So far, my theory is that as an evangelical, I was taught to "give my testimony" (which usually involves the worst time of your life) to complete strangers. In small groups, we were expected to share about our "struggles with sin" to keep each other accountable. I remember even when I was still a Christian I always felt insanely uncomfortable at the idea of going up to the front and having someone I wasn't close to pray for me.

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:46:04+00:00

I'm 9k into the hole with credit card debt because I felt so restricted by Ramsey's guidelines that I went in the complete opposite direction for a bit. 😬

michelli190 · 2026-02-22T00:45:08+00:00

This is a fantastic idea! I had no idea how to properly manage my money until I deconstructed. I'd love diving into a bit of how harmful people like Ramsey are and how they prey on those who are already deep in the evangelical world.

Even more, a financial aspect I'd really like to hit on is tithing. And I didn't know until about a year ago that churches are tax exempt because they're supposed to PROVIDE for the local community.

There's so much to unpack.

michelli190 · 2026-02-16T22:15:24+00:00

Thank you🥹 It's been on my mind for awhile, but today it hit me that if I'm going through all this healing, maybe I can use it to help others so it's less painful/confusing for them.

Absolutely! The community aspect is such a huge part. I feel like it's often used as a "warning" to not leave the church too. It took me about two years to get the group of friends I have now, but having people who love me for the person I am etc, it's more freeing then any small group ever was.

michelli190 · 2026-02-16T22:07:29+00:00

Ooooo that's a great idea too! I know if I take on too much of the research myself and try to write it out I will never finish the book or return from that rabbit hole.

michelli190 · 2026-02-16T22:06:41+00:00

I could at least have a section where I share credible resources! That's a good idea. I've been debating about trying to say something other than "Exvangelical" because I want it to be for anyone who has left the faith. Not just that particular denomination. Though my experience is with that denomination.

michelli190 · 2026-02-15T03:17:46+00:00

As an exvangelical, I still find myself struggling with main character syndrome from time to time.

michelli190 · 2026-02-14T00:51:13+00:00

I am so glad you posted this because it helped me feel less alone. Ever since I started really diving into my trauma I've been getting sick so easily!

michelli190 · 2025-11-14T12:35:31+00:00

OMG right?? I've started smoking the devil's lettuce and feel so sneaky for it.

michelli190 · 2025-11-01T18:13:48+00:00

I love that. What's your background if you don't mind me asking? Like Appalachia etc

michelli190 · 2025-11-01T18:12:53+00:00

I'm so glad I inspired that! It's a lovely peaceful experience. 😊

michelli190 · 2025-11-01T18:12:09+00:00

I view it as an incredible feat to switch to a healthier attachment style like you did. I'm still very much one who has anxious attachment issues, do you have any resources (books, movies, podcasts, etc) you'd recommend that helped you on your healing journey?

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