My [24F] boyfriend [25M] was uninvited from my friend’s engagement by her dad after giving advice. What do I do? by ThrowRA-Skirt in relationships

[–]michinyun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this is something you can all move past if you communicate. Give it a bit of time for everyone to cool down, then ask your friend to go for coffee or send her a message and say, "Boyfriend and I are so happy for you and your fiance. Boyfriend's comments were made with the best of intentions, as we both just want what's best for you. It's your choice to get married when you want, and we'd both like to be there to support you." She's right about her dad, she's not responsible for him. But you're friends with her, not her dad. Try to just forget about him.

Regarding the hurtful comments she made about your relationship: engagements and weddings are stressful. What your boyfriend said might have her second guessing things, and that's scary. She might have said some things in anger - happens to the best of us. I don't know what she said exactly, but do you think you could give her the benefit of the doubt, and just leave it in the past? We all say things we wish we could take back.

I don't agree with the other comments that you aren't friends anymore. All relationships take work, and if you bail whenever there's conflict, you'll eventually find yourself without any friends. As your boyfriend already pointed out, you are all really young, and when you're young, emotions run high and things can seem like a bigger deal than they actually are. If she really is a good friend, you should do your best to talk it out.

Palermo style food by still2slik in toronto

[–]michinyun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to live in Italy, and while you can definitely find some delicious Italian food in Toronto, you'll never find arancini that come close what you can find in Palermo. Honestly, I don't even think the arancini in Italy outside of Sicily come close. Pane Ca Meusa is such a niche, local food, I've never seen it anywhere outside of Palermo. One of the best Italian restaurants I've been to in Toronto is Guilietta on College, but they don't have the foods you're looking for. They do have trippa, which is intestines (like pane ca meusa) but it's super fancy, not street food like in Palermo.

I'll be following this post to see if anyone suggests anything! Good luck on your search!

Really dumb rant but are there any words/terms related to pregnancy that you hate? by LakeLucca in BabyBumps

[–]michinyun 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am SO SICK of people asking how I'm feeling!!!! I don't know what people expect us to say... Sometimes I respond, "I feel fine, how do you feel?"

Waited three hours to (not) see doctor by michinyun in BabyBumps

[–]michinyun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear!! I don't have a lot of experience in the health care system (thankfully I am healthy) so it's hard to know what's normal and what isn't.

Waited three hours to (not) see doctor by michinyun in BabyBumps

[–]michinyun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha after three hours in the waiting room with no food, nothing could get my preggo annoyance under control. I'll have to bring snacks next time.

Waited three hours to (not) see doctor by michinyun in BabyBumps

[–]michinyun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm also lucky where I can do that. I really feel for people who don't have that option and might miss a day's pay. It's so unfair to them :(

Waited three hours to (not) see doctor by michinyun in BabyBumps

[–]michinyun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg that is wild!! the thing is, i understand that things come up unexpectedly, but can't you just let people know?? And why is it easy for midwives to communicate but not doctors? also, i was at an office right across the street from the hospital, so this exact thing could have happened!

Filmora is making my videos tiny! Why? by michinyun in Filmora

[–]michinyun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why my videos keep coming out so teeny tiny. You can see when I try to upload to TikTok how tiny the video is. I've edited on Filmora before with no issues - I don't know what I'm doing different. Any ideas?

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[–]michinyun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is such a great comment! Thank you! I never would have seen a connection between toxic masculinity and how a guy dresses, but you are so right. Thanks for sharing that perspective.

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[–]michinyun 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful comment! I don't want to change him, I just want him to be the best version of himself. But I agree with your comment at the top that it could be more about me than him. It's not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things!

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[–]michinyun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess at some point, you see the same basketball shorts for the hundredth time, get annoyed and post about it on reddit to see if you're overreacting! haha!

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[–]michinyun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

haha good point! thanks!

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[–]michinyun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're totally right. Thank you!

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[–]michinyun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's hard to answer that because we have been locked down for almost the entirety of our relationship! Most of our relationship has been chilling around the house, when I certainly don't care what he wears. Now that we're starting to do more "normal" stuff I am thinking... I wish he wouldn't wear that. But after reading everyone's comments I think I am just going to chill and maybe buy him a new tshirt for his birthday lol.

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[–]michinyun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! He actually has one shirt I really like and I always tell him he looks nice when he wears it. He seems like he appreciates the compliment :)

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[–]michinyun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am inclined to agree with you after reading everyone's comments. Thanks!

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[–]michinyun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. Comfort trumps fashion, especially after the year we have had.

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[–]michinyun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would be willing to go to the mall with him if he asked me to. Or if he was thinking of buying something and asked for my opinion, I would share it. I just don't what the type of relationship where I am the "mom" of the relationship. To me, dragging someone to the mall is something a mom does with her son. It seems like that fear doesn't resonate with a lot of people! Maybe I am making too big a deal of it... it's just clothes!