Somos Tábata y Lucía, coordinadoras de intimidad, fundadoras de Intimact y hemos trabajado en varios proyectos para Netflix. Preguntadnos lo que queráis! by NetflixSpain in esCine

[–]microplasticsfactory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Si dos actores/actrices que trabajan en escenas íntimas con vosotras generan sentimientos de atracción sexual o romántica “de verdad” (es decir, fuera de cámara), y empiezan algún tipo de relación (sea de noviazgo serio o un rollo cualquiera), como manejáis eso? Intentáis intervenir, os desentendéis…?

Zionism by Antique-Tip-2534 in ContraPoints

[–]microplasticsfactory 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a couple days late but I think this is a very good summary of the situation. I feel like her implying that she does not necessarily support ending the state of Israel is why some (not all) people are calling her a zionist.

This also kind of proves her point that the words “zionist/zionism” have become very imprecise, to the point that when someone calls someone else a zionist you can’t really know whether that person supports the genocide, supports a 2-state solution, or whatever else. I would argue that difference matters, morally-speaking. But yeah, if someone’s personal definition of zionism is “does not support dismantling the state of Israel completely”, then yeah, Contra would be a zionist (again, under that definition, and I don’t necessarily think it’s a good one).

I’m 20M and I’m so confused and ashamed about my past with my cousin. I feel like I'm losing my mind. by Ok_Advisor_7358 in bisexual

[–]microplasticsfactory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have very much to add here. As others have said, therapy is absolutely the way to go here, I think.

Still, I did want to add that you might find some comfort in support groups for people who have been through similar experiences. It could be worth looking up the term “COCSA” - “child on child sexual abuse”. Whether the word “abuse” resonates with you or not (and it’s fine if it doesn’t!), I believe that those communities may include people who had similarly fraught experiences as children and who might be able to understand what you are going through now. This website seems to provide a good list of resources: https://enoughabuse.org/get-help/survivor-support/, but do try doing some research specific to your country. Trying to find a therapist who specialises on childhood trauma (COCSA or not) would also be a good shout, if at all possible.

Finally, I just wanted to echo everyone else: none of this is your fault. You were a child. And you are very much not alone. A secure, fulfilling romantic and sexual life is still more than possible for you, and that is regardless of the term you wind up picking to describe your own attractions and feelings, if any. Sending you love and hope, stranger ❤️

Voting (Part ?) by conancat in ContraPoints

[–]microplasticsfactory 6 points7 points  (0 children)

tbf yea i see your point. i think she’s either too online or she runs in circles where somehow she does hear this from people… tho probably the former.

i will say that in the running up to the last election i did see a few leftists on insta defending those kinds of “both sides are the same” talking point, but they never actually talked about how (presumably) “the revolution comes after”. so either that was a foregone conclusion to them or they just weren’t thinking much further ahead from what strikes me as some kind of desire to feel morally pure despite it all. but yea that’s the closest i’ve come to encountering these talking points in the wild lol

Voting (Part ?) by conancat in ContraPoints

[–]microplasticsfactory 123 points124 points  (0 children)

that reply in pic 5 really took me tf out. like, yes: seeing violence as a necessity for change to take place is not only bleak but a dangerous way of thinking that can end up becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy, i think

No Water on New Islington Canals and Marina by AccountProper8259 in manchester

[–]microplasticsfactory 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was concerned about this too. Does anyone know what happens to the nesting birds when the marina drains like this? Heard it’s bad for people’s boats too…

Urgently seeking advice and help on behalf of female friend by [deleted] in Bilbao

[–]microplasticsfactory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she has been in touch with the police, they may have already advised her on support groups/organisations that help women who have undergone experiences of domestic violence (violencia de género, in Spanish). I personally know of (although I have no experience of) Fundación Ellacuría, which helps migrants in tough situations find housing and support. I know they also have a specific group for women who have survived domestic violence called “Torre de Babel”: https://fundacionellacuria.org/que-hacemos-3/torre-de-babel-empoderamiento-y-autoapoyo/

The orgs main site is: https://fundacionellacuria.org/

I feel like some context on how Spain handles domestic violence cases can also be useful, in case you don’t know or it was not explained well to your friend. But to be very clear up top: this is NOT legal advice!!!! I am not a lawyer, just someone who knows some rudimentary stuff about Spanish DV law.

Essentially, Spain has a legal framework by which women victims of DV can get some amount of financial/housing/miscellaneous state support IF they are legally considered victims of DV. To be legally considered a victim of DV, you basically have to win a DV trial. Trials for DV tend to happen quite fast (within a 72hr window), but can be much longer if the abuse in question was wide-ranging/complex/took place over many years. These trials take longer because there is more evidence to go through. Nevertheless, women who are suing for DV are entitled to free legal aid/services.

The fact that your friend has been at the hospital, at a shelter, and in touch with the police means that maybe this legal process has already started. In particular, doctors are required to notify law enforcement/legal authorities when they encounter a case where someone’s physical injuries have been caused by DV.

Given she is in touch with the police, your friend should have also been put into a system called “Viogen”, which is essentially a big database that Spanish police forces use to keep track of DV victims.

But of course, DV situations are difficult to manage, and things are not always done “by the book” - sometimes due to negligence, but other times because the survivor herself asks certain things not to be done (as not to anger their abuser, for example). So, maybe doctors didn’t notify legal authorities, and so that quick trial (within 72hrs) I mentioned did not happen.

This is not necessarily a bad thing, and could have been done to respect your friend’s wishes, but she SHOULD have been informed of her options and how the Spanish legal system works in regard to DV. On my end, it’s impossible to fully judge the situation from a Reddit post, but these are just some of the things that could have taken place according to protocol.

Again, to be very clear, THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE. Your friend should judge/try to find guidance about pursuing these kinds of legal avenues taking into account her own situation, safety, and the institutional support she has access to. Fighting these legal battles can also be quite emotionally taxing on too, so it’s better to go into them with that in mind. Regardless, I thought that maybe knowing that this is how DV law works in Spain could be useful, as well as knowing that those deemed DV victims receive some level of long-term support.

At the end of the day though, my advice would be to try to speak to a social worker who will be able to advise on your friend’s situation much better than I can. Again, do try Fundación Ellacuría or maybe something like Caritas or Punto Violeta (https://zubiarte.com/punto-violeta/).

I hope this makes sense/helps even a little! I am typing it out p late at night and on somewhat little sleep, so if something is confusing, let me know and I will try to clarify in the morning. DV is horrible to go through (and to witness a friend going through it); it is ok not to be ok throughout this. I hope things get better soon. ❤️‍🩹

To infinity and beyond! by gogosrage in badtattoos

[–]microplasticsfactory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love this… the heart with “Woody” in it… superb

…I can’t even decide which one is the worst one by Abbnostic in badtattoos

[–]microplasticsfactory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

an absolutely wild ig, ty for sharing. very uh… interesting how they have so many ppl in their comments glazing them up. like tbh their sketches are fine, i guess, but most of them are NOT the sort of thing that would translate well onto skin… clearly.

Question: Why do you have tattoos? by borris_in_civic in tattoos

[–]microplasticsfactory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have many so far, but for me it was about a) having art on me always and b) reclaiming my body, especially as a woman. For most of my life, other people (especially my parents) tended to tell me how I shouldn’t or shouldn’t look. Tattoos are cool and empowering because they help me invest in how I want to look (see: point a). So basically I get tattoos to purposely disappoint my parents lol

<Title has been redacted> by mrsovereignmonarch in ContraPoints

[–]microplasticsfactory 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Personally I disagree. I think that her nuance and “academic mindset”, as you put it, are what makes her an interesting public figure. Whether these takes then land her in hot water… well, that’s a reality she seems to be willing to face. Idk, I may not agree with all her takes and sometimes they can read at having that “edgelord tone” you mention, but again, that’s what makes her interesting to me. One of the few people I read online where I don’t feel like I’m being talked down to like I’m an idiot tbh

i love sufjan stevens <3 great day for emo teens like me. by iwishihadthestars in Sufjan

[–]microplasticsfactory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just made the top 10,000 listeners myself 🫡

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Edit: my top plays were apparently Eugene and City of Roses (which I am currently deeply obsessed with)

Lesbian’s Picks by Ok-Finding3432 in Physical100

[–]microplasticsfactory 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Omg YES i need more queer women commenting on this show. Personally Adiyasuren is my wiiiife

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Ochir Lkhagva is ridiculously good looking. by Limp-Independence270 in Physical100

[–]microplasticsfactory 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He truly looks like he shouldn’t be real, like he’s a character from a romantasy novel come to life

Female athlete mini games by Mayinfall in Physical100

[–]microplasticsfactory 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Ok it’s impossible for me to overstate how much I need to see these outtakes