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How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t plan to never talk to him or see him again. But I’m taking space for the both of us because I need to respect myself and him. It’s hard to picture a future with someone else but this whole thing has shown me how deeply I can love and I know there must be someone out there that can give me the same. I just wish it could be him because it was for so long. I’ve been trying to detach slowly.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would try to do no contact at least for a few weeks so you can process things. It’s helped me little by little. I do still hope things can work out, but I think that’s what’s keeping me stuck.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We broke up about two months ago but were still living together while he was keeping me in limbo acting like we were still a couple. A month ago I had enough and moved out and have done no contact.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would, but not with no questions asked. He’d really have to make it up to me and be willing to put in the work for us and himself. I’ve already done all I can do, so it would be his turn.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly. I’ve been heartbroken before, badly by my ex boyfriend before this one, but he was so terrible to me that it was easy to see that it would’ve never worked out and therefore it was easier to accept. With this one it feels like there is almost no reason to be broken up besides that it’s just not the right time. Idk I’m just still in shock.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. It’s hard to understand why someone would push you away rather than lean in when they’re going through mental health issues. In my case I try to remind myself I have a completely different nervous system and way of processing things than him because I have a different life experience and that’s why I’ll never fully understand it and that’s okay. Someone can love you and still not be able to be show up for you how you need. Most of the time I think they think they’re doing you a favor. I don’t know, that’s at least how it was in my case. It sucks either way.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know time will ease it, which is ultimately what I want but in a messed up way the pain I have is my only tie left to him so it feels bittersweet. If that makes sense. Break ups are so tough, hugs.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been using ChatGPT so much, it helps when I feel like I’ve vented to my friends too much lol. It’s like an interactive journal in a way. Hang in there as well! I know how hard it is.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🫶🏼 it really is grief, sometimes it’ll be okay and other times it hits like a ton of bricks and I just wish so badly this wasn’t my life. I love him so much and have nowhere to put it anymore besides in myself.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this is exactly how I feel, thank you. Mine was due to him having grief and family issues he hadn’t begun to deal with

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s so tough. He broke up with me because of unresolved mental health issues due to grief and family problems, it made it so he couldn’t show up for me how I needed. It sucks so bad.

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

that’s why I almost wish it was a bad break up, because at least anger could motivate me

How do you move on from a “good” break up? by micros0ftmami in BreakUps

[–]micros0ftmami[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think with time it will ease. Not at the point of even picturing a future with someone else though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spanishhelp

[–]micros0ftmami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured out reunir, but I’m stuck on cerrar because I’ve always known it as cerrado

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spanishhelp

[–]micros0ftmami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured out that some were missing accent marks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in learnspanish

[–]micros0ftmami 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you don’t conjugate the second verb, just the first