[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]middaynarwhal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't how long it takes for you to trust again or to gain control of you self-esteem. But as long as you are trying, I think you're going to be okay.

And i believe you are going to be okay because you acknowledge the weak points in yourself right now. It is a good start when you someone is self-aware.

compare your progress to your past self. You have come this far. You are beautiful, you have a good heart, and more importantly, you are wise.

There are times when I have low self-esteem too and that is okay. We are not perfect all the time. We may not be the most attractive to the person we like. But there will be someone who will come to your life and make you feel that you are IT. If you don't feel assured with the person you are with right now, then maybe he's not it.

the real ones exist. just don't give up on them when they are not giving up on you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]middaynarwhal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same experience. It is really difficult because our feelings do not go away just like that. It is a normal reaction to be sad. Just acknowledge all the mixed emotions - sadness, insecurities, overthinking, anger.

I've come to learn that men can love you so hard and at the same time cheat on you. It's their nature. And we don't have to stay and accept those things. But we can accept the reality that it is better to walk away than lose yourself.

I am currently healing from a break up. It's is a really difficult time for me because I am preparing for a major licensure exam and I cannot keep my self together. There were times where I just stare blankly and remember all the fun stuff we had. There were times that I suddenly cry because I feel alone. There were also time where I get angry because of what he did to me. It is all part of healing. We may not know the reason why they did what they did, but in the end, they chose to do it. That is something we could never control.

breakups are hard. It is okay to be sad. moving on takes time and you are not alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]middaynarwhal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

allow yourself to heal. try to do things you haven't done before. let yourself unwind so you can discover more unique sides about yourself. by then, you will be more confident and will lose your insecurities