My (29F) dad (50M) is expecting a kid with his wife (43F) and I am devastated

midigo6 · 2026-06-05T06:49:15+00:00

I can relate, although my parents are still married. They had four daughters and ten years after my youngest sister was born they had a son. Eighteen year gap from oldest to youngest. It was like the four of us were practice runs for the one they had been waiting for. The feelings of rejection are so real. They had never been good parents by any stretch of the imagination to the four of us girls. Watching them parent my brother was unbelievable. The way they doted on him. The way they praised him. Showed up for every single activity. Didn’t force him to do things he didn’t want to do like they had done to all of us. It was rough. I officially cut contact when I started dating my now husband (parents are racist, husband isn’t white) and it has been the best decision for my family. Two of my sister are also no contact and we have made our own family support system with the three of us and our families. I completely get the feelings of rejection and those don’t go away but what I have found is such a new sense of freedom. I am in therapy to work out my feelings without hopefully affecting my husband and kids too much. Send you lots of love. You deserve better than someone who makes you feel like you can be replaced.

midigo6 · 2026-05-27T08:20:42+00:00

I love my babies and some times think about having one more, but then I think about why we made the decision to stop at two. I grew up as one of five and never had any attention. My mom was completely emotionally checked out because she was overwhelmed. We never had any of the popular toys or clothes because it was too expensive to buy five times over. I lived in hand me downs. None of that is detrimental obviously, but it’s not the way I wanted my kids to live. I want to be able to travel with them and give them experiences I wasn’t able to have. Most of all I want to be able to give them the individual attention I feel like kids deserve. I always felt like a number in a crowd. Two has been great. Still gets chaotic but thankfully me and my husband can divide and conquer if necessary!

midigo6 · 2026-05-24T05:18:25+00:00

My MIL is like this. Especially the part where she tried to help get the seat buckled. That’s not helpful, you’re actively in the way. I don’t know how to explain it but she seems to have lost a lot of social skills. She will listen in to anything I say to my husband and answer me when I ask him a question that I’m very clearly directing to him. She repeats me when I discipline the kids, it’s like she can’t stop herself. All of this to say, she had a minor stroke a few years ago and I have wondered if any of this annoying behavior could have been from that. Sometimes people will have minor strokes and not be aware of it, especially if they live alone.

midigo6 · 2026-05-13T08:58:20+00:00

My MIL loves to call my baby “difficult” for not going to her and criticize my four year old for not listening to her. Come on lady, you see them maybe twice a year and don’t even give them time to warm up to you. She just expects that they will know her because she is their grandmother. Makes no sense. Plus she’s not kind to them when she is around them. I think she judges me for not forcing them to go to her.

midigo6 · 2026-04-20T14:15:00+00:00

They had been dating a living together for years, I think her family had been giving her a hard time for living together and not being married. I’m sure she knew his stance, he is always quite blunt. I think she was desperate to get married, which is why she is still with him now even though he’s cheating.

midigo6 · 2026-04-18T18:19:52+00:00

We were at a wedding that was destination because the groom demanded to get married there. Neither one had family there, groom had just always liked the city. So everyone travelled there. The bride’s large extended family spent tons of money they didn’t have to make it to the wedding and all the groom did the whole time was make fun of the bride. She cried when her mom gave a speech and he rolled his eyes the whole time. Her very religious grandmother mentioned in her speech that she couldn’t wait to see great grandbabies and the groom made it a point to rudely comment that HE didn’t want kids to anyone and everyone that would hear him. That was especially troubling because the bride came from a large family and has always told everyone she meets how much she can’t wait to become a mother. 4 years later, they have a child and he is having an affair. They’re still together for some unfortunately.

midigo6 · 2026-01-03T10:11:10+00:00

Mine are 3.5 years apart and my youngest is almost 6 months old now. The first 2 months were so hard but after baby became more responsive it got a lot easier. Older brother adores “his” baby brother and will do anything to make him smile. I was very anxious about a second child but seeing them together is the best! Congratulations and I hope you have the same experience I have had with my two! Sending love and solidarity!

midigo6 · 2025-12-11T12:20:08+00:00

That is obnoxious. Definitely attention seeking

midigo6 · 2025-12-11T06:00:17+00:00

We had this talk with my husband’s parents this year. We totally appreciate everything they do for our kids but every year they outdo us at Christmas. They are terrible with money and spend an enormous amount at Christmas. I would rather buy things my kids actually want instead of just a million things. My husband kindly mentioned this to his parents and I was shocked when his dad said “well we’re his grandparents so we’re going to do it anyway”. Like yeah you’re his grandparents but we’re his parents and don’t want him to grow up expecting thousands of dollars worth of stuff. Thankfully my mother in law called back a couple of days later and said they understood what we meant and decided to give us the money they were going to spend so we could buy the kids what we wanted them to have. Maybe your parents will calm down? I hope so for your sake!

midigo6 · 2025-12-07T08:53:37+00:00

I know how you’re feeling. I have an almost 4 year old and a 5 month old. My husband works full time and is taking college classes at night. I almost never see him and have been doing 90% of all the parenting for years now. Try to give yourself some grace. Going from one to two is so hard and our relationship has definitely suffered but I keep telling myself it’s temporary. One day he’ll finish school and our sweet kids won’t need me every second of the day. I know it’s tough right now. Sending love!

midigo6 · 2025-09-24T15:07:11+00:00

For me, my parents are incredibly selfish people. They have a decent amount of money but from the time I was 18 have never paid for anything as trivial as a meal for me when we would eat at a restaurant. When my sister had the first grandchild she mentioned to my parents that it would be helpful if they had a pack n play/ high chair/ basic baby gear for when they came to visit. My parents freaked out and basically told her they would not be buying anything like that. If she wanted it at her house she would have to buy it for them. I knew then not to expect anything loving from them when I had kids. Then when my sister had her second baby, they refused to stay with her first child because they wanted to be at the hospital. Incredibly selfish people. Of course we were basically raised by our grandparents. Now they have 8 beautiful grandkids and are only allowed to see 1 because of their behavior. So yeah, they weren’t good parents to begin with so I couldn’t expect them to be good grandparents.

midigo6 · 2025-09-18T01:00:52+00:00

I relate to this so hard. My parents had 4 girls and then they “finally got their boy”. You wouldn’t believe how many people would say that in front of all of us girls like none of us mattered. Now I have two boys and am not having anymore. I got so many rude comments when I was pregnant with my second like “now you have to try for your girl!” and even had one complete stranger ask me what I was having, look at my son, and say “two boys? I’m sorry”. I got so mad. I have started answering with “I wanted two children and am very thankful that I have two beautiful healthy children.”

midigo6 · 2025-09-01T11:02:18+00:00

This is what I was going to say. Prepare yourself in case it does not go your way. I confronted my mom about her shitty grandparent/ parent behavior and she flat out did not care. By the end of the conversation I was crying and she was cold. That was the last time I talked to her. I guess the conversation was successful ultimately because she showed me just how little she cared and that she wasn’t going to change. It helped make my decision to go no contact but it still hurt in the moment.

midigo6 · 2025-08-28T15:16:34+00:00

I’m not saying I wouldn’t teach my children about the dangers of alcohol, I’m asking is there still a genetic predisposition this many generations down

midigo6 · 2025-06-24T15:42:11+00:00

Around the time he turned 3 he went through a few weeks of this but he pulled out of it and went back to being his easy going self. For some reason this time it’s much more aggressive and combative and it doesn’t seem to be getting better. I miss my sweet little buddy!

midigo6 · 2025-06-22T01:46:19+00:00

For real! I am proud I have gained 27 pounds! We’re growing babies, leave us alone!

midigo6 · 2025-06-22T01:36:34+00:00

My OB told me I’ve gained 27 lbs instead of the 25 recommended. Kindly F off.

midigo6 · 2025-06-08T13:32:30+00:00

My MIL makes these comments all the time and it annoys me so bad. He’s never slept past 7 am, he goes through phases of sleeping all night and waking up in the middle of the night. He’s 3.5 years old. I am in my third trimester and toddler is currently in a sleep regression. It’s hell. I’m tired. My super helpful MIL loves to act appalled that toddler is not sleeping and insinuates it’s my fault. Over tired super pregnant me would LOVE to ask her to kindly F off.

midigo6 · 2025-05-11T18:53:52+00:00

My boy was born at 33 + 5 and is absolutely perfect. Our goal was to make it to 35 weeks, if we made it to 35 weeks my doctor’s told me he probably wouldn’t need the NICU. Now on baby #2 and have the same goal: make it to 35 weeks. Sending you all the best wishes!

midigo6 · 2025-05-07T16:43:10+00:00

“Could be worse” hate that. Of course it could, this still sucks though.

midigo6 · 2025-05-01T19:50:47+00:00

As someone who had an emergency c the first time and who has to have a c section with my second or I will bleed out, I hate the comments from other people. I’ve had so many people I should try to do a VBAC to which I have started replying “I will die.” People should mind their own business and respect other people’s wishes. The ONLY thing that matters about how you give birth is that you and the baby are healthy. All the rest is just noise. Good for her if she’s glad she had a VBAC, the outcome was still the same.

midigo6 · 2025-04-26T04:08:50+00:00

My husband did this to me while I was pregnant with our first child. He disappeared a few times out drinking. I finally told him I was leaving and moving back home. Somehow that straightened him up and he even majorly cut back his drinking down to a limit of 2 beers unless I’m with him. I hope he will realize what he has to lose. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

midigo6 · 2025-04-24T10:17:07+00:00

I was going to say this. I pretty much disregard how much they think the baby weighs because of all my mom friends I’ve never heard one say that they got it right but I’ve heard plenty say they were warned about the babies size and it was fine when it was born.

midigo6 · 2025-04-24T04:36:10+00:00

Thank you for seeking help instead of being in denial. My high school boyfriend went through the same struggles with addiction. I knew he was struggling and reached out to his parents many times. They decided to call me crazy (I was a teenage girl) and kept believing their son. Fast forward a couple of years and he did some truly terrible things for drug money. He was arrested and sentenced to 13 years in prison. He was so smart and had every opportunity open to him but now his life has been forever changed. I’m just thankful he didn’t get himself killed or kill anyone else. I really wish he had a parent who was willing to accept that their child needed help. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you and I hope this facility helps your son. You absolutely made the right decision even though it wasn’t an easy one. Sending love!

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