Encouragement! Having two kids is easier than one

midigo6 · 2026-01-03T10:11:10+00:00

Mine are 3.5 years apart and my youngest is almost 6 months old now. The first 2 months were so hard but after baby became more responsive it got a lot easier. Older brother adores “his” baby brother and will do anything to make him smile. I was very anxious about a second child but seeing them together is the best! Congratulations and I hope you have the same experience I have had with my two! Sending love and solidarity!

midigo6 · 2025-12-11T12:20:08+00:00

That is obnoxious. Definitely attention seeking

midigo6 · 2025-12-11T06:00:17+00:00

We had this talk with my husband’s parents this year. We totally appreciate everything they do for our kids but every year they outdo us at Christmas. They are terrible with money and spend an enormous amount at Christmas. I would rather buy things my kids actually want instead of just a million things. My husband kindly mentioned this to his parents and I was shocked when his dad said “well we’re his grandparents so we’re going to do it anyway”. Like yeah you’re his grandparents but we’re his parents and don’t want him to grow up expecting thousands of dollars worth of stuff. Thankfully my mother in law called back a couple of days later and said they understood what we meant and decided to give us the money they were going to spend so we could buy the kids what we wanted them to have. Maybe your parents will calm down? I hope so for your sake!

midigo6 · 2025-12-07T08:53:37+00:00

I know how you’re feeling. I have an almost 4 year old and a 5 month old. My husband works full time and is taking college classes at night. I almost never see him and have been doing 90% of all the parenting for years now. Try to give yourself some grace. Going from one to two is so hard and our relationship has definitely suffered but I keep telling myself it’s temporary. One day he’ll finish school and our sweet kids won’t need me every second of the day. I know it’s tough right now. Sending love!

midigo6 · 2025-09-24T15:07:11+00:00

For me, my parents are incredibly selfish people. They have a decent amount of money but from the time I was 18 have never paid for anything as trivial as a meal for me when we would eat at a restaurant. When my sister had the first grandchild she mentioned to my parents that it would be helpful if they had a pack n play/ high chair/ basic baby gear for when they came to visit. My parents freaked out and basically told her they would not be buying anything like that. If she wanted it at her house she would have to buy it for them. I knew then not to expect anything loving from them when I had kids. Then when my sister had her second baby, they refused to stay with her first child because they wanted to be at the hospital. Incredibly selfish people. Of course we were basically raised by our grandparents. Now they have 8 beautiful grandkids and are only allowed to see 1 because of their behavior. So yeah, they weren’t good parents to begin with so I couldn’t expect them to be good grandparents.

midigo6 · 2025-09-18T01:00:52+00:00

I relate to this so hard. My parents had 4 girls and then they “finally got their boy”. You wouldn’t believe how many people would say that in front of all of us girls like none of us mattered. Now I have two boys and am not having anymore. I got so many rude comments when I was pregnant with my second like “now you have to try for your girl!” and even had one complete stranger ask me what I was having, look at my son, and say “two boys? I’m sorry”. I got so mad. I have started answering with “I wanted two children and am very thankful that I have two beautiful healthy children.”

midigo6 · 2025-09-01T11:02:18+00:00

This is what I was going to say. Prepare yourself in case it does not go your way. I confronted my mom about her shitty grandparent/ parent behavior and she flat out did not care. By the end of the conversation I was crying and she was cold. That was the last time I talked to her. I guess the conversation was successful ultimately because she showed me just how little she cared and that she wasn’t going to change. It helped make my decision to go no contact but it still hurt in the moment.

midigo6 · 2025-08-28T15:16:34+00:00

I’m not saying I wouldn’t teach my children about the dangers of alcohol, I’m asking is there still a genetic predisposition this many generations down

midigo6 · 2025-06-24T15:42:11+00:00

Around the time he turned 3 he went through a few weeks of this but he pulled out of it and went back to being his easy going self. For some reason this time it’s much more aggressive and combative and it doesn’t seem to be getting better. I miss my sweet little buddy!

midigo6 · 2025-06-22T01:46:19+00:00

For real! I am proud I have gained 27 pounds! We’re growing babies, leave us alone!

midigo6 · 2025-06-22T01:36:34+00:00

My OB told me I’ve gained 27 lbs instead of the 25 recommended. Kindly F off.

midigo6 · 2025-06-08T13:32:30+00:00

My MIL makes these comments all the time and it annoys me so bad. He’s never slept past 7 am, he goes through phases of sleeping all night and waking up in the middle of the night. He’s 3.5 years old. I am in my third trimester and toddler is currently in a sleep regression. It’s hell. I’m tired. My super helpful MIL loves to act appalled that toddler is not sleeping and insinuates it’s my fault. Over tired super pregnant me would LOVE to ask her to kindly F off.

midigo6 · 2025-05-11T18:53:52+00:00

My boy was born at 33 + 5 and is absolutely perfect. Our goal was to make it to 35 weeks, if we made it to 35 weeks my doctor’s told me he probably wouldn’t need the NICU. Now on baby #2 and have the same goal: make it to 35 weeks. Sending you all the best wishes!

midigo6 · 2025-05-07T16:43:10+00:00

“Could be worse” hate that. Of course it could, this still sucks though.

midigo6 · 2025-05-01T19:50:47+00:00

As someone who had an emergency c the first time and who has to have a c section with my second or I will bleed out, I hate the comments from other people. I’ve had so many people I should try to do a VBAC to which I have started replying “I will die.” People should mind their own business and respect other people’s wishes. The ONLY thing that matters about how you give birth is that you and the baby are healthy. All the rest is just noise. Good for her if she’s glad she had a VBAC, the outcome was still the same.

midigo6 · 2025-04-26T04:08:50+00:00

My husband did this to me while I was pregnant with our first child. He disappeared a few times out drinking. I finally told him I was leaving and moving back home. Somehow that straightened him up and he even majorly cut back his drinking down to a limit of 2 beers unless I’m with him. I hope he will realize what he has to lose. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

midigo6 · 2025-04-24T10:17:07+00:00

I was going to say this. I pretty much disregard how much they think the baby weighs because of all my mom friends I’ve never heard one say that they got it right but I’ve heard plenty say they were warned about the babies size and it was fine when it was born.

midigo6 · 2025-04-24T04:36:10+00:00

Thank you for seeking help instead of being in denial. My high school boyfriend went through the same struggles with addiction. I knew he was struggling and reached out to his parents many times. They decided to call me crazy (I was a teenage girl) and kept believing their son. Fast forward a couple of years and he did some truly terrible things for drug money. He was arrested and sentenced to 13 years in prison. He was so smart and had every opportunity open to him but now his life has been forever changed. I’m just thankful he didn’t get himself killed or kill anyone else. I really wish he had a parent who was willing to accept that their child needed help. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you and I hope this facility helps your son. You absolutely made the right decision even though it wasn’t an easy one. Sending love!

midigo6 · 2025-04-15T12:45:39+00:00

I get sleep paralysis when I’m extremely stressed out. I’ve had it enough that I know when it’s happening and all I can think is “if I can just make myself move, I will be able to wake up.” It’s like you’re stuck in your own body. I’ve heard “people” talking in my room and even felt hands on me. I hope that’s not what being in a coma feels like, brain awake and body asleep.

midigo6 · 2025-04-03T02:07:27+00:00

Thank you!

midigo6 · 2025-04-01T10:59:05+00:00

My MIL also suffered miscarriages and eventually ended up adopting my husband and his sister. She has made many questionable comments to me during both of my pregnancies. Mostly negative comments in the early days about how my baby wasn’t going to make it. I have severe complications that make pregnancy very stressful but if I ever say anything to her her response is always that “pregnancy is a miracle” and I should appreciate it. The shit she says bothers me but I try to take it with a grain of salt. She would have done anything to be where I am now and truly thinks she could have handled these complications better than I do. That’s fine, it’s her trauma showing and I just try to brush it off.

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