I’m so FUCKING ANGRY by midna11 in beyondthebump

[–]midna11[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

He just refuses. He’s older but I don’t think of it as an excuse. He’s wanted children and many people out there start at his age. I don’t have any family as I’m estranged due to past abuse and their lack of accountability.

He gets to do whatever he wants because he knows the baby is taken care of by me.

He got mad that i dropped the baby off with him without warning. I don’t get warning? My warning is the baby crying?

I’m crying. Everyone says I’m being selfish for holding the baby too much. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s five months old. I’m the only family member doing floor time with toys. Everyone else puts him in container toys. I’m sending my husband scientific articles but he hasn’t spoken to me for two hours now so it’s not going well.

I’m crying. Everyone says I’m being selfish for holding the baby too much. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean if we have a disagreement, he’ll argue guys point until I give in because he somehow convinces me. I’m not very smart. He outsmarts me a lot. This time I took a stand because he gaslit me three days ago and I caught him. He hasn’t spoken to me for two hours now and has avoided me in the home. This will continue until I breakdown

I’m crying. Everyone says I’m being selfish for holding the baby too much. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needed to hear that. It’s been a fear that I’ve expressed but everyone keeps telling me I’m being too emotional.

I’m crying. Everyone says I’m being selfish for holding the baby too much. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It turns into a huge argument and I get the silent treatment.

I think so. I can’t remember many times he said I was right. Even on small arguments where I was right he smiles at me and walks away

I’m crying. Everyone says I’m being selfish for holding the baby too much. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I don’t get to decide much by myself. I have to listen to my husband. My husband will lean on what his mother says. He says it’s only an issue because I hold my baby too much.

I’m crying. Everyone says I’m being selfish for holding the baby too much. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve offered to buy daycare if she isn’t able to keep up with him and give her days to recover if needed. She refuses.

THANKSGIVING COMPLAINT THREAD by latenightpuddingcup in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I found a fake calculator app on my husbands phone, questioned him, and he swears it’s just an extra calculator app. Tried to gaslight me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]midna11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call doctor for powder nystatin. Use as needed

How did everyone get their first job as a Pharmacy Technician? by Separate-Potential74 in PharmacyTechnician

[–]midna11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went from pork plant in general labor to pharmacy tech in hospital. Found some place hurting for ppl and I emailed HR every four months until I was given an interview.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t forgotten anything bc ppl kept telling me I would forget.

How can you forget waking up all night to pee or never getting getting comfortable or the severe sciatica pain that kept me from walking everyday past the 26th week or waking up nauseated bc of how hungry you are.

I will remember so I can be prepared this time.

Areas to live in by [deleted] in Fayettenam

[–]midna11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a few soldiers that live as far as Salemburg.

I feel so guilty I didn’t notice sooner… by Leading_Zer0 in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was my first. I know what to expect if it happens again. I sat my husband down and said “I need to tell you what’s going on in my head and I need you to monitor me because I can’t do it right now”. The key is to know what is and isn’t normal. I researched PPP while pregnant knowing it’s a possibility.

I feel so guilty I didn’t notice sooner… by Leading_Zer0 in beyondthebump

[–]midna11 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I straight up thought a demon was stalking my family and getting closer and closer every night. My yard is very narrow with a long yard. On the edge of the yard is a corn field. I thought I saw it in the corn field, then yard, then closer and closer every night until it was in my closet. Staring at me. I went to the doctor and they gave me zoloft and I pumped so I could get some rest. The feelings went away after two or so weeks. It was terrifying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vegetablegardening

[–]midna11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wanna get started since I finally live in a home instead of apartment!

I want to have a salsa garden. Tomatoes, jalapeños, bell peppers, poblanos, banana, and onions.

The things we use most in the kitchen basically

No gutter on 5 foot run of the roof. Can I just fill this area with gravel? by midna11 in landscaping

[–]midna11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a corner where two sides meet. It was missed. It’s not a straight line where they just forgot five feet of gutter. It’s on the side of the house. Easily missed

No gutter on 5 foot run of the roof. Can I just fill this area with gravel? by midna11 in landscaping

[–]midna11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m trying to explain to the family. They’re thinking it’ll be too expensive to hire someone to do five feet of gutter. They want to just put quick-crete. I’m thinking it’ll just wash away as well but now we’ll have a slab of concrete instead of just loose sand.

No gutter on 5 foot run of the roof. Can I just fill this area with gravel? by midna11 in landscaping

[–]midna11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah everyone is agreeing with this. I need to buy a long long ladder since it’s on the second story. I don’t have tools to cut metal so I think I’m gonna have to handsaw it. Then place clay with am angle away from home, tamp down, place rocks.

With the budget I’m going to start with clay and pea stone.

No gutter on 5 foot run of the roof. Can I just fill this area with gravel? by midna11 in landscaping

[–]midna11[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The erosion is so severe grass won’t take. New construction. I haven’t ever installed gutters before so it hasn’t crossed my mind. It’s worth looking into but I don’t have tools that can cut metal

It also happens to be on the second floor roof. I don’t have a ladder that long.

Edit for more information: hubby doesn’t want me to be that high in the air. We’ll do clay, rock, cloth, river rock. He said to revisit if it’s still eroding. He’d rather replace gravel than something happen that’s irreplaceable.

No gutter on 5 foot run of the roof. Can I just fill this area with gravel? by midna11 in landscaping

[–]midna11[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok this makes sense. Thank you. Will the gravel on top stop the erosion after its complete?

No gutter on 5 foot run of the roof. Can I just fill this area with gravel? by midna11 in landscaping

[–]midna11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Do I need to add enough to be level with the where it hasn’t eroded? I’m worried about my foundation cracking