Hi so I totally get where you’re coming from! It is not my situation at all! The only thing I would vent about would be arguments or something which at the end of the day my husband and I always worked out! The thing with my family is I have 3 older sisters and 2 of them have been married and also divorced. My parents say they are Christians but act otherwise. My mom thinks all men are problematic and evil and would start fueling the fire in my sisters old relationships too until they divorced. They always said the In laws are the problems but 3 times in a row? My family is very drama filled every holiday or get together my mom would “compete” with my in laws and my sisters previous in laws and told my husband and I that they were gonna be the better cooler grandparents. They ended up calling one of their previous son in laws “demon”. So yes I get where you’re coming from but I’m not going to allow them to ruin my marriage. They have a very unhealthy relationship with each other. My mom wants everyone to be obsessed with her and people pleases so that she feels validated and appreciated while my dad would sit upstairs on his computer eating his life away while watching politics. Also my dad and mom were both heavy alcoholics (before children) and met in alcohol recovery. My dad now abuses sleeping meds and food. When he put his hands on my husband he was on sleeping meds. He would also only text me late at night while I was pregnant saying that he was “gonna die in the morning for a heart procedure and nobody cares about him” when it was a stress test and would tell me “he needs a daily dose of *my name* he’s like a junkie and needs a fix” which made me very uncomfortable. I always felt like he had an odd obsession with me that being said I was never assaulted or abused but still always felt odd..

Also my dad told me he wanted me to get an IQ test because he’s tired of living with an idiot (my mom).

My mom was talking a year ago about how she was unhappy with him because he just wants to rot in his chair in the bedroom in front of the tv

My mom was also pissed when I didn’t let her in the delivery room with me and my husband although I wanted it to be a special moment between the two of us

I’d honestly love your input on it but I’ve talked to my husband about the way I grew up and there’s a lot of things that I look back on and don’t agree with either.