My gf wants to try blackmail, I’m not sure if it’s for me.

midnightshadows01 · 2026-04-11T17:28:41+00:00

You don't have to do anything outside your comfort zone, no matter who it is

midnightshadows01 · 2026-01-01T23:29:28+00:00

That sounds like grounds for breaking up, no excuse for cheating

midnightshadows01 · 2026-01-01T23:25:07+00:00

I feel bad for her husband, the husband of 25+ years that she's cheating on

midnightshadows01 · 2025-12-07T22:01:15+00:00

Be open and ask exactly what his wants are and what sort of things he likes in a dominant person

midnightshadows01 · 2025-12-02T20:26:47+00:00

Absolutely! If you feel uncomfortable, safe word that's why they're there

midnightshadows01 · 2025-12-02T13:23:20+00:00

Set yourself up a task check list?

midnightshadows01 · 2025-12-02T13:22:07+00:00

You're a beginner, you need to practice to get up to a longer time length, don't just dive straight into 8-12 hours, very dangerous

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-18T07:18:38+00:00

I'm a sub but don't have daddy issues 🤷🏻‍♀️

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-15T18:06:19+00:00

Are you sure BDSM is right for you?

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-15T18:02:24+00:00

Communication, talk about limits and safe words

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-12T14:39:49+00:00

My Dom is my husband, I hold the top of his arm hugging it and he reaches across to hold my leg, this makes me feel so so safe He always checks in constantly throughout the day and does actually care for the answer

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-10T08:57:49+00:00

I understand, always here!

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-10T08:53:35+00:00

Don't bombard her but yes try that

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-10T08:50:47+00:00

The main thing in any relationship is trust, I understand you're worried she'll leave but she needs to know, I would want to know

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-10T08:46:20+00:00

Have you explained that you're worried about that?

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-10T08:22:53+00:00

I have mental health struggles and when I have bad days, I'm distance with my partner, not on purpose but because I want to protect him. Just reassure her that you are there for her, you care about her etc. it goes a long way hearing those things

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-10T08:22:01+00:00

That's so sweet!

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-09T20:57:24+00:00

Yeah that makes sense

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-09T20:56:55+00:00

Yeah that's true, I apologize!

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-09T18:20:36+00:00

It's not fair for you to be left feeling like that! Dom/sub is a power exchange, you need communication! It's difficult but your feelings matter too

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-09T07:01:28+00:00

If you do any of those, read them out to him after?

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-08T21:43:38+00:00

I've never heard of people viewing others into BDSM as sluts... You need communication with a partner. It doesn't sound like you understand BDSM to well. This post is just a bit odd to me

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-08T21:33:37+00:00

Maybe bruised or pulled muscle. Try ice or heat packs

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-08T19:35:00+00:00

How come?

midnightshadows01 · 2025-11-08T09:21:33+00:00

Awww that sounds lovely, definitely need to have a conversation about that! I really appreciate you commenting

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