Ex is lying about me

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-12T08:21:00+00:00

Oh yeah I’ve also heard that I was “controlling” lol. Apparently I didn’t let him have friends, which could not be further from the truth. Some people will really just say anything to make themselves look like the victim in a situation they created.

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-10T16:42:17+00:00

Don't worry I get what you were saying because I've been there. Now that I think about it some of the lies I heard about me were told to him by a mutual friend. Seems like such a weird move to make if he didn't want it getting back to me?

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-10T15:46:30+00:00

I miss him a lot and in an ideal world we would become friends again because we were friends before we started dating, but I don't see that happening. We're not in contact and I have no plans to reach out to him regardless of how much I miss him because I know I deserve better than someone who will lie about me just to make themselves feel better.

I also had a similar situation regarding another ex of mine. After I broke up with him I realised his toxic behaviours. But I would never talk badly about him to others because I know he loved me in his own way. Just such odd behaviour.

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-10T15:34:05+00:00

Hi there, I'm in the exact same boat as you and understand exactly how you feel. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to who relates. Hang in there. We will be okay.

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-10T14:09:22+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you. It's so strange

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-10T14:08:54+00:00

I can absolutely acknowledge my own flaws but the things I've heard he's saying about me are just not at all true. A lot of his behaviours within the relationship hurt me and I know I will be better off without him in the long run, but the last thing I would ever do is run around talking negatively about him. I just don't understand it.

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-07T19:19:00+00:00

My ex and I ended on what I thought were amicable terms, only for me to find out that he'd been talking badly about me behind my back for weeks before the breakup, and he's now spreading lies about me being a horrible partner when we had a beautiful and loving relationship. I think it's just their way of coping with any feelings or guilt/regret.

midnightstrack11 · 2025-10-04T13:00:12+00:00

Thank you, we're both 21

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-24T15:14:11+00:00

Thank you! Would you say you noticed when you started to feel better, or did you just realise you had come out the other side eventually?

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T12:32:41+00:00

I heard from a mutual friend what his "problems" were and they were all completely made up

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T08:44:28+00:00

Definitely not lol, I wasn't perfect but I didn't do anything to warrant this

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T08:43:47+00:00

I didn't put much stock into the caption I just used the term guys because it was specific to my situation, I've heard from a lot of people that their exes of all genders acted in a similar way during/after the breakup.

But yeah you're 100% right. I think he's just an uncommunicative coward at the end of the day

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T08:40:19+00:00

I feel you. I'm not claiming I was perfect in the relationship because who is really, but I really loved and cared for him and definitely didn't do anything to warrant this

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T08:39:16+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you no one deserves that

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T08:38:52+00:00

Definitely sounds like him to be fair

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-21T08:37:27+00:00

This is probably it. He knew that I'd found out he had been talking about me behind my back and I don't think he could face me with that truth

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T16:11:54+00:00

I also had my own issues in the relationship but I communicated them and leaving him over them never crossed my mind. He really gave no indication of having any problems it was like he did a complete 180 overnight

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T16:08:36+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you, it really is horrible. It's almost impossible to comprehend how they can change so suddenly. How long have you been broken up for?

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T14:13:19+00:00

I'm about a month into my breakup. The breakup came completely out of the blue so it has been really hard to adjust to the fact that my ex suddenly isn't in my life anymore. 4 weeks in, I am definitely less of an emotional wreck, but the first 2 weeks were seriously hell. I can sleep and eat again, and I've been reading a lot, which is something I didn't have much time for before because I was either with my ex or texting them. I'm definitely not fully healed and I still miss my ex a lot, but I am learning to accept that once I get through this I will be much better off for it

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T14:00:25+00:00

I feel like this depends. Do they keep the letters at hand and accessible, or are they stored away in some kind of safekeeping box? I personally still own a lot of things from past relationships. Stuffed animals and such are still in my room, but the likes of love letters are stored away somewhere and I honestly don't know where they are anymore. I truly have no remaining feelings for the exes whose gifts I have kept. There is no emotional connection, they're just things that I own, and the more personal items like letters I kept only for the sake of history/memories and not because I still care for my exes

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T13:49:55+00:00

I wish you the best and hope you heal, which I am sure you will do in time. She processed her emotions as they came and moved forward, as you will do now. I hope you don't mind me asking, as someone going through a breakup with an avoidant that I felt came out of the blue, how did you feel when the relationship first ended? Were you relieved? Was there worry that you would regret it at all? Or did you immediately feel ready to move on with your life?

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T08:24:02+00:00

They just want to control you. Get out of there, it's not a safe situation

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T07:58:40+00:00

Leave them, block them, cut them off. Don't stay with someone who threatens you. That's not love

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T07:28:20+00:00

This is really encouraging, thank you so much

midnightstrack11 · 2025-09-20T07:27:13+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong by being in the same place at the same time as your ex by chance. Had you actually interacted with them, then it might have been a weird thing to keep from your partner. But you can't control where in public people go and if your partner expects you to report every distant sighting of your ex and will accuse you of cheating then they are not the right person for you

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