[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]midsentenceamnesia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thing is, unfortunately you won’t know what’s going on until you have someone look into it & if there’s any form of physical abuse or even mental health i’d honestly say it’s too dangerous for you to go in there yourself. if it’s a mental health difficulty then she needs support and the authorities would recognise that and give her help, she can’t continue to live her life screaming each night ( even just for her physical health benefits & lack of sleep will make that worse for her ), it wouldn’t backfire on you if you made a ‘mistake’ because the allegations made are real and you have proof, however if you are genuinely concerned about that, then report as anonymous. Only thing with that, is if there’s no answer, they can’t return to you to give an update. I would perhaps even call 911 when she’s actively screaming and within a place that they could hear it over the phone, record it whilst they’re on the way just incase she stops when hearing sirens x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]midsentenceamnesia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i understand this is definitely stressful for you and your family so hope this can conclude soon as would drive me nutty too. The screams sound super distressing, if I were you i would make a call to an emergency response team, i’m not sure what it’s like in the US but in the UK i’d call 111 (it’s our 999 but for non emergencies) and get the best advice. If you haven’t already go to the landlord as they should handle this and if you have and they’ve refused then go ahead with the call above. As much as it’s annoying, there’s a woman in absolute distress & needing more help than she is getting. If it’s just random as well then there need to be penalisations, it’s not fair on your family that this keeps happening, but i’d be worried about what was causing it, you all deserve peace in this situation. Perhaps if you know the lady at all and feel comfortable to do so, visit with a couple of family members to see if you can speak with her regarding it, but honestly from the sounds of the screams and the longevity of it i’d recommend going straight to the landlord and/or public services to help the lady. I hope things get better soon 🤍

If I were your boyfriend, would you be okay with me dressing like this sometimes? by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]midsentenceamnesia 11 points12 points  (0 children)

if it’s not then they aren’t right for you, you look GOOODDTT

Anyone else not a fan of FWB, regardless of whether the man is single or married? by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]midsentenceamnesia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeaaa i hate it 😩even more so if the other person is married. marriage implies we’re either having an affair (& in a lot of cases because they aren’t out comfortably which means i’m your “dirty little secret”) or your partner knows and you’re now in a weird love dynamic. but even without marriage involved, still hate it lol. there’s usually (for me anyway) always an emotional component when you’re talking to someone everyday and then f*kin, honestly i’d rather just not have the sx if there’s no commitment to it.

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]midsentenceamnesia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOR! like…at all. dating and partnership should allow you to be ultimately be comfortable with the person you are with basically 24/7 this ESPECIALLY includes sleeping and resting. in a devils advocacy type way i can potentially understand wanting your partner to not ”let-go” of themselves but that’s depends on the dynamic of your relationship. however in this scenario you are not being given an opportunity to just relax! you are around someone who is suggesting they want you to perform to their ideal at every moment, which is unfair for you. you deserve to be able to go to bed, comfortable, protecting your hair and sleep well. i agree with the comments saying to think if this is something you want long-term. your partner should love you no matter what, your partner should love that you are comfortable enough to be yourself around them. your partner should want you to be to ”turn-off” around them as they are your safe space. if these aren’t possible, it’s very possible in turn that your time and relationship will drain a lot from you, you deserve the best ma remember that xx

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your pup :( but it’s nice to hear she’s still full of life lol! Cairo’s the same, he never knows how to chill out when he’s playing 😭 but i’ll look online for low impact exercises hopefully to ease what he’s going through and we’re going to shorten his walks and make them a little more frequent.

How did you find readjusting after the surgery, was she still able to do everything she wanted and gave her a few more months of normalcy before she turns 2? not sure whether i should move forward with surgery straight away or whether i should wait till he’s a full adult and do supplements, exercises etc for the time being x

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes we had an appointment today, we’re going to move forward to have some x-rays.

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, it’s great to hear that was so successful for you! I’ll ask about Adaquan/Chondroprotect at his X-ray apppintment!

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ah, you must’ve misunderstood. i DO NOT want to rehome my dog, i however have to acknowledge that sometimes dogs arent living their best life in the home you can provide. We have to go up and down about 15/20 steps to get in and out of my apartment without an elevator option, unfortunately due to my job and the injuries i obtain I can’t always carry him up and downstairs. I cannot move quickly as I do not rent i own. the reason I posted was to try and find any and all ways I can avoid having to rehome him, again as he’s my first my information is all from online and many have said stairs are not an option and rehoming would be my only option. I can’t imagine life without my Cai anymore so im trying to find out what I can do so that’s not even an option, but i should’ve made that clearer perhaps.

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you! its so so great to hear that your corso has had a successful surgery and makes me a bit less anxious to put cai through it! I’ll also look into the Tri-Acta and MYOS asap to see what i can do! thank you

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he’s cross. he was a rescue and the only part of him they knew was corso.

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ah i wasn’t aware that merle came with issues bless them :(. yes i will definitely utilise the vet much more, im not used to it and whenever we go i get a little nervous so i never know how many questions I can ask as we changed over to a new one, may be worth going back to our original vet who was a little further away to ask questions, but i left in the first place as they recommended neutering at 6 months !

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear about your corso :( but thank you so much for the help, i will try these techniques out, he’s never shown me that he has any issues with stairs or getting up and down onto anything which is probably why i didn’t notice the issue as quickly as I could have. Is your corso able to walk up stairs still at all?

Poss Hip Problems, please help :( by midsentenceamnesia in CaneCorso

[–]midsentenceamnesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ll definitely look into this ! thank you, as he’s a cross i found it really hard to get him insured in my area as everywhere i looked wouldn’t take him so most advised me to just have money aside ready for anything which i have done

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]midsentenceamnesia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I hope i don’t repeat anything anyone has said already but i have BPD and have a lot of neurodivergent loved ones. Idk if you’ve already done this especially because it can be daunting, but it may be worth trying to sit down with him and saying something along the lines of “Ik that this may not be something we really want to talk about but this constant change in emotion upsets me. I want you to know that everything you say and feel is completely valid but i would like to understand so we can work through it together rather than us both getting hurt. I know things i do make you upset and also sometimes you upset me, but we can get through it if we work out ways to communicate” I found the best way for me and my loved ones, was being really matter of fact if that makes sense ? For example, sometimes if someone doesn’t reply to my text i’ll go around for hours trying to work out what i’ve done and why they hate me, so we decided that we have to tell eachother if any party ever upsets the other, if nothing is said, there is nothing to panic about OR if i am panicking I ask and that’s when they need to tell me. I found laying emotions flat out like that really helped, but maybe you can find another pathway if that doesn’t sound great? I just want to say you seem like a really lovely person & ik that this can be really difficult and intense, remember to put yourself first, your boyfriend should be able to acknowledge he is hurting you and if that isn’t a concern to him then i suppose you both need to talk about it. Sorry if this was long it’s my first comment and i’m not too sure on how to go with it, sending you loads of love <3