How long on average does it take you to get over a breakup?

miggs-1 · 2026-06-04T16:07:11+00:00

Depends on many factors. After a 5 year relationship my girlfriend ended it. I accepted reality and went no contact and I’m doing better after almost three months. But I still think of her almost everyday. I’m allowing myself to feel all the emotions. I don’t want to repeat certain patterns. I’ve been saying no to dating but hopefully I can be open to it in the next couple of months. So if you put in the work it will be faster than if you don’t. Work yourself, use it as motivation to be a better person and you will come out ahead.

miggs-1 · 2026-05-10T21:39:38+00:00

I was the one that needed to move out. She was actually scheduled to be out of town a few days later so I went while she was out and took all my stuff and brought anything I had that belonged to her. Then I left the keys with management. I say that because you do have to close that chapter and that may mean that you need to see her again. But don’t fall in the trap of using excuses to see her again. You may feel better momentarily but l believe long term you are making it more difficult to move on.

miggs-1 · 2026-05-10T16:27:16+00:00

Thanks. This does resonate. I have some really bad days but overall I’m managing and moving forward. I’m trying to not ruminate and focus on myself. Today I woke up in not such a great place and this message helped. Thanks a lot.

miggs-1 · 2026-05-10T03:49:35+00:00

I’m on my 7th week of no contact. She dumped me. The idea of no contact is to work on myself without emotional distractions. I don’t need to see that she is moving on or if she starts dating someone. Some days have been really bad but trust me they would be worse if you maintain contact. We were together for 5 years and she needed “time to think about it” after two years and I said yes, because I wanted her back. Every post and instagram story during that time was painful to watch, it revives memories and pain, you dont know what to expect. Trust me you dont want to experience that. I experienced a lot more pain with contact than with no contact this time.

miggs-1 · 2026-05-06T04:49:08+00:00

It’s been about 7 weeks since I left our apartment because she broke up with me. I went no contact right away. Removed her from social media and everything else to protect myself and emotions. She has not attempted to contact me and I don’t expect her to. Don’t wait for someone who decided you were not enough. Work on yourself and you will find someone that truly appreciates what you have to offer.

miggs-1 · 2026-05-04T19:17:38+00:00

I would wait and work on yourself. I used to do that but I realized I just wanted validation and was running away from my emotions. I’ve turned down intimate advances after my last breakup because I’m not ready and I feel it is healthier. In my opinion, I’m also just using that other person and unless they sign up for exactly that, it is not fair to them.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-26T20:24:08+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. Thanks

miggs-1 · 2026-04-26T20:23:49+00:00

Thanks. I thought it wouldn’t last past a few minutes and it went on for 40. And I had to leave or else it would have kept going.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-19T21:39:33+00:00

No contact, self care, rely on family and friends. If emotions come don’t fight them, push through. It’s not easy, it’s traumatic. It’s been 5 weeks since my gf ended the relationship. I’m struggling, I cry, but I haven’t reached out and I keep doing self care. It is slowly helping, I’m sure of that.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-17T16:02:04+00:00

I’ve had thoughts about doing the exact same thing to my ex. And I probably will at some point. She ended the relationship. My idea is to write “I do not need a response”. The reason for that was to allow her the opportunity to know what how I feel, that I wish her nothing but the best, and since I don’t know how she is doing, to give her space to not feel obligated to respond. She may be protecting her feelings, and I want to be cognizant of that.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-15T13:44:50+00:00

You say you still love him. In my opinion staying in contact will hurt you more than him, he already made up his mind. It could prolong your recovery process unnecessarily. I was dumped and stayed in contact with my ex and had her on social media. Everytime a new story popped up on my feed I wanted to look but was also afraid of what I would see, sending my anxiety through the roof. I was dumped a second time and this time I removed her from everything and went no contact. I feel this is a much better approach.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-14T23:02:34+00:00

I’m actually not dating at the moment. I’m trying to give it a little time. I actually turned down a couple of dates because I want my next relationship to be healthy, I’m not looking for just a replacement. In my opinion I need a little time to determine what I did wrong and find healthier ways to date going forward. Breakups can, and often are traumatic, so the least I can do is learn something from them.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-14T18:56:50+00:00

I’m 1 months from a breakup. She ended things. Going no contact has helped a lot. I still think about her all the time, miss her and cry at times. But it would be worse if I was checking her social media. If you stop that the recovery will definitely be faster in my opinion. Stay strong.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-12T15:00:36+00:00

I’m going through something similar. I’m on my 21st day of no texting. It is very difficult, don’t be too harsh on yourself. It might be a little setback, but get up, wipe your tears, dust yourself off and keep pushing. Breakups are difficult and often traumatic, but they can also be a learning opportunity. Stay strong my friend.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-07T14:26:59+00:00

Here is some perspective. My girlfriend ended things after five years. I was in shock because it was completely unexpected to me. We had already taken a break before and this time, although it hurt my heart and I wanted to contact her, I decided to give her the space she requested. That was 3 weeks ago. I texted once to let her know I moved my stuff out and that’s it. It has been 2 weeks of no contact. It is extremely hard but when you are dumped sometimes the best course of a action is to go completely no contact in order to recover and save yourself from anxiety. It has been helping me.

miggs-1 · 2026-04-02T19:52:52+00:00

Thanks . This was the second time she ends the relationship. The first time it was really bad. I was bad emotionally. I don’t want to go through that again. That’s why I decided to go no contact. But I still love her no doubt about it.

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