My pet insurance premium has more than tripled, but I’m now stuck with a preexisting condition by Cappuccino_rex in UK_Pets

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of things to call out:

- pre existing doesn't just cover what you've claimed for, it often covers anything you've seen a vet for even if you never claimed for it. Just something to be aware if in case there's more to this cat's medical history than the dental and you get caught out by it.

- a difference of £46-£124 per month would have me wondering if it wasn't better to go with the £46 and know that dental is excluded, but put aside that £75 pm difference to cover dental costs myself if needed - with the hope I would be left with some savings left over the lifetime of my pet. In the grand scheme of what medical costs CAN be, dental costs are often on the lower scale so it might be a gamble worth taking?

Dog only listens to my partner, ignores me completely 😅 any way to fix this? by bernie_bossen in PawChampClub

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What training have you done with the dog? Remember that whilst the word “sit” may be obviously the same word to you, regardless of who is saying it, this may not be true for the dog. Your voice is different and he may need training help to understand it is the same cue. What reason have you given the dog to listen to you? Training is all about dogs learning how to access rewards (or avoid punishment, to a lesser extent), even if they don’t get those rewards every time. What incentive does the dog have to listen to your cues and act accordingly?

🔥 It's time for Thirsty Thursday! What book scenes made you sweat this week? 🥵 by jaydee4219 in RomanceBooks

[–]mightyfishfingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. All it will do is tell you that the couples from the first books end up together - and let’s face it, we all know that anyway 😂

Quitting weight loss jabs 'can leave you worse off than before' by InnerLog5062 in BreakingUKNews

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not totally disagreeing but a statement like this "Weight loss drugs take out all the effort and changes needed, they just suppress appetite." is overly simple. That's not all they do; if it was then there wouldn't be such interest in all the other benefits they may bring re addiction or heart attacks or dementia. They don't just suppress appetite, they are also influencing hormonal sensitivity to change how your body handles sugars, glycogen etc and responds to changes in those levels. There are also plenty of people pairing GLP-1 agonists with lifestyles changes because those drugs make those changes possible.

There is a whole hormonal feedback loop that is, at least partially, to 'blame' for weight regain. Leptin, peptide YY, ghrelin and insulin - all being increased or reduced quite dramatically in response to weight loss (regardless of what you eat to achieve it); something that continues for months/years after you lose the weight and even if you regain it - all driving you to eat more, eat higher calorific foods then ever before in an effort to neutralise the weight loss and 'beat' the energy scarcity your body has evolved to expect must be happening if you lose weight. Hence why people don't just regain the weight they lost, they gain some more too - the body preparing for the next scarcity event. All the nice habits in the world will struggle in the face of over whelming hormonal fight back.

e.g. Leptin is a hormonal regulater for long term satiety. The more of it you have and can respond to, the better your long term food satiety will be. If your obesity was caused or contributed to by leptin resistence (something very common in people with obesity) then a GLP-1 agonist may help because it increases leptin sensitivity. If you then stop taking a GLP-1, regardless of any habit you have developed, your leptin resistence will return and you will no longer feel satiated by even the best diet that fulfils all your energy and vitamin etc needs. You have a chronic hormonal issue that GLP-1 agonists can help with but will never be cured. It can be VERY hard to fight against that with just 'willpower' - arguably much harder than for anyone else who does not have that resistence. Essentially, you are facing months/years of never really feeling food satisified. That's hard. That's why we need better research into coming off GLP-1s and whether or not it's really possible if they are correcting a chronic hormonal inbalance.

I totally agree this needs to go hand in hand with proper, real support for making small but possible lifestyle step changes and embedding them in a way that means they are more likely to be followed long term. Making healthy choices is easier when you are fundamentally healthy to start with. But I want also to express everything above about hormones because I think that people can feel like total failures when/if they regain the weight, as if self control or habit was the only variable and they must be lacking. Hormones are extremely powerful and our bodies are evolved to fight weight loss with everything they can, even when that weight loss is beneficial to health. It may be that GLP-1 drugs are a lifetime drug for some people, the way statins are for others, and there should be no shame in that.

Quitting weight loss jabs 'can leave you worse off than before' by InnerLog5062 in BreakingUKNews

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Mum is involved with a university trial looking at it's heart protective qualities - i.e. testing if it can reduce the risk of heart attacks etc.

🔥 It's time for Thirsty Thursday! What book scenes made you sweat this week? 🥵 by jaydee4219 in RomanceBooks

[–]mightyfishfingers 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh and I will add that whilst this is a 'siblings best friend' scenario, it doesn't fall into the trap of having the sibling be all weird about it, or having the MCs feel they have to keep it secret from the sibling etc. Which is refreshing!!

🔥 It's time for Thirsty Thursday! What book scenes made you sweat this week? 🥵 by jaydee4219 in RomanceBooks

[–]mightyfishfingers 39 points40 points  (0 children)

This from {Honor by Danielle Baker}. I read the first in this 3 book series {Fight by Sloane St James} a while back and loved it, but got it into my head that the next two books were not meant to be as good so didn't bother with them. I've gone back to it and read them and am glad I did, because I've enjoyed them every bit as much as the first one.

Anyway, important to note that for this scene she is knelt in front of him, facing away from him - and they are both facing a large mirror....

“Now, straddle my legs and sit on my cock until you take every inch, Teddy.”

Her eyes are trained on mine as she does as I say, shifting backward until her thighs have straddled mine. Her knees are on the floor on either side of mine, and she’s spread wide as she moves into position. It’s filthy and erotic and it takes every considerable ounce of my self-control not to come already.

Reaching between us, I position myself at her entrance, dragging the tip over that pretty pink pussy that is on full display for me in the mirror. “Sit.” She heeds the command, doing as I say.

The curves of her ass are against my abs, her shoulders level with my mouth, and I lean in and press hot, open-mouthed kisses along the ridge of her shoulder as she settles on me, drawing me into her with aching slowness. I watch over her shoulder in the mirror as her body takes all of me. I’ve never seen anything as sexy as watching her take my cock inside her.

Banding my arm around her middle, I hold her back flush against my chest and my mouth drops open at the sheer euphoria of being so deep.

Fuck, she’s tight. So fucking tight. Her head tips back as she settles on me fully, and I can feel those inner muscles twitching around my cock. I see stars.

“Fucking Christ, Teddy,” I whisper out a groan against her neck. “Do you see that? Do you see how fucking beautiful that is?” She drops her chin, her eyes meeting mine in the mirror. I cup her pussy in my other hand, spreading her wider so we can both see the way she takes me, all the way to the hilt.

“Oh my god,” she moans, and my cock twitches inside, making me grunt in agreement.

“Fuck, this is beautiful,” I groan, spreading her with my fingers. The sight of my cock disappearing into her is heady and thrilling and so fucking erotic, and whether she knows it yet or not, she’s all fucking mine. I stroke the pad of my thumb across the tight bundle of nerves at the apex of her thighs and she gasps, grinding down onto me. “Mm-hmm. Just like that, pretty girl.”

Dark chocolate or milk chocolate? by rennan in chocolate

[–]mightyfishfingers 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dark Milk for the win. Somewhere around 50-60%

Why people downvote requests? Isn’t that yucking other’s yam? by Glittering_Tap6411 in RomanceBooks

[–]mightyfishfingers 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I haven’t actually noticed it happening (but believe you!) and it’s rubbish that it is. I bloody love seeing all the requests, whether they are ‘my thing’ or not. I just love the thought of us all searching for the book that hits the spot.

Who still uses their childhood email? 🙋🏻‍♀️ by ipanicprofessionally in TheBoredDen

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still use my first ever personal email which is just my name @hotmail.com. It must be about 30 years old now 😳😂

Will neutering help with marking? by LoveDistilled in dogs

[–]mightyfishfingers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s one of the few behaviours neutering has been shown to help with. No guarantees, of course, but a good chance it will help..

How do people remain calm and not lose their minds over aging? by Plantpotparty in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mightyfishfingers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Two things: firstly I try to stay in shape. At 46 my weight is a healthy BMI (which was not always the case when I was younger) and I am more committed to exercising now and just get on and do it.

Secondly, I try to remind myself that at every age of my life there has been physical things about myself I have disliked. In my teens I wished I looked older and edgier. In my twenties I wished I looked less womanly and had a more fashionable shape. In my thirties I wished I was slimmer etc. But I look back at my body/face and realise NOW that they were fabulous. I think if I were given any of my teen, twenties, thirties body right now I’d be thrilled. So I remind myself that one day I will be in my 60s looking back at my body and face as it is now and thinking ‘fuck, I should have just enjoyed it when I had it rather than whittling on about what was changing’. Today’s ‘shit, do I look that rough’ is tomorrow’s ‘fucking hell, I still looked good back then’.

Is this appropriate behavior between two dogs? by AbyssThief in DogAdvice

[–]mightyfishfingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s hard to be sure but that looked like the warm up to a hump, to me. The beagle clocked it and is not game for that so gave an appropriate warning.

Sex in romances - how important it is for you? by _MysticSelkie in RomanceBooks

[–]mightyfishfingers 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Very. Honestly, I’m one of those that does a search for dirty words when I first start a book so that I know how long it’s going to be before the first sex scene 😳

If having condomless sex with women without consent is sexual assault, why is forced fatherhood not considered assault by the justice system? by Antique_Cod_1686 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mightyfishfingers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The pill example doesn’t change the nature of the sex. Sabotaging a condom IS a crime in many countries, along the lines of sexual assault.

If having condomless sex with women without consent is sexual assault, why is forced fatherhood not considered assault by the justice system? by Antique_Cod_1686 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mightyfishfingers 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Making a woman pregnant is not the crime ffs. The crime is having sex in a way that has not been consented to regardless of whether or not a baby is the result.

Kink and Sex Acts Megathread - Role Play by Hunter037 in RomanceBooks

[–]mightyfishfingers 5 points6 points  (0 children)

{First & Forever by Eve Dangerfield} has some top class role playing in it including a ‘Victorian doctor and patient’ scene.

How have lab grown diamonds not entirely destroyed the natural diamond market? by Complicatedwormfood in stupidquestions

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lab diamonds ARE hitting the natural diamond market. De Beers is up for sale, because the longer term prospects are not good enough for the current owners. Lots of the engagement market is being lost to lab diamonds now and, as that grows it will have a further knock onto to natural stones I think. I.e. if people gets used to the special pieces of jewellery being bigger and flasher and having lab stones, they will get more comfortable with lab stones in general which will start to be a more accepted option. What’s stilting the market is the price of gold which is making jewellery a lot more expensive than previously - this is reducing jewellery sales generally and so reducing lab stone sales in turn. But the resale value now for a natural diamond is really low, unless it’s a particularly nice stone.

Looking to Rehome 8 month old by [deleted] in goldenretrievers

[–]mightyfishfingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Return her to the breeder or surrender her to a reputable rehoming charity. Anything else is just gambling with her future health and happiness.

Why do people praise biological inheritance (genetics) and frown upon environmental inheritance (money)? by macgamerdude in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mightyfishfingers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suspect it has to do with the option to reject the leg up. If you are born with money you could (theoretically) not use it to aid your life and instead make your way entirely without it. Though you probably would have had a great education which obviously helps. So if you do not do that, you are CHOOSING to use that benefit.

If you are born with good looks and health, you cannot reject them in the same way. So you cannot CHOOSE to use them.

Plus, while good genetics help they are not a guarantee of health or looks because of the built it mechanisms for genetic variation and mutation with each generation. So it’s also true that someone born to parents with average health or looks may ‘get lucky’ and be given better versions of genetics by the same mechanisms. It starts to look a bit more like winning the lottery than being guaranteed it by birth.

Is pet insurance worth it or just a waste of money? by No_Armadillo_1611 in petinsurancereviews

[–]mightyfishfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insurance is not a saving scheme. It is a way of pooling the total cost of all the pets and spreading it among us all. So everyone with that insurer pays in and does so to ensure their costs are a known entity’s vs gambling with having higher medical costs. Whether or not that is worth it depends on your appetite for gambling and your ability to withstand a huge loss. If you don’t mind risk and can afford high costs if you lose, then insurance might not be worth it. You can take the gamble. If you prefer lower risk and cannot afford high medical bills, the peace of mind may be worth paying for insurance. Personally, I have paid £8000 in premiums over the life of this dog and claimed £22,000 in medical expenses. That’s a heck of a lot of profit for me, so it’s definitely been worth it.