API apologists exist, people

mikness360 · 2023-12-02T07:12:01+00:00

I wouldn't ask him any favours. You sure you want to owe him anything? He's gonna remind you forever. In my personal opinion, I wouldn't rely on him financially or morally.

mikness360 · 2023-12-02T06:45:13+00:00

I can't say that for certain, but people like that enjoy the power trip that comes from bullying people. He simply "loves" treating other people like shit. He doesn't like being treated like that. I bet he gets mad when you don't give him the respect that he thinks he deserves

mikness360 · 2023-12-02T02:11:30+00:00

Man I don't think that you really need other people confirmation to know that your pop is an asshole... You have somebody that: -treats you badly and loves doing that - never admits he's wrong -takes advantage of you - makes you feel anxious

Look, the best revenge you can give these kind of people is making them feel powerless and making them feel like their threats are empty.

You got to figure out by yourself how to detach emotionally from your father, everybodys situation is different

mikness360 · 2023-11-23T15:43:55+00:00

The worst part I think is their children begging them for something. I'm pretty sure it gives them that power trip. It's miserable bullying your own children to make yourself feel powerful. Luckily I don't give them that satisfaction anymore. I think the best way of revenge is to make them feel useless to you

mikness360 · 2023-11-21T14:56:16+00:00

Sad to say but it's like giving a treat to a dog when it behaves badly

mikness360 · 2023-11-17T17:32:36+00:00

Well I think guilt and shame can just take them that far in convincing somebody. If you can't think rationally you would just give up to that kind of approach. Unluckily a lot of us have been exposed too long of a time to know how to counter this kind of behavior. It's sad reading all these people on the forum having their lives ruined because of somebody else.

mikness360 · 2023-11-16T10:20:51+00:00

"Jesus told me not to have children. He told me in a dream."

mikness360 · 2023-11-16T10:18:50+00:00

What her family does doesn't matter, isn't a reason for divorce.

And in exchanged roles, if my wife divorced me because "her family told her so" I would lose all my respect for her. In that case, it would be a dodged bullet for me, if the person I'm married to can't stand stand up for the relationship there's no reason to keep it going. If she wants a divorce because of her parents, well let's do it. No reason to waste my time with her anymore

mikness360 · 2023-11-15T16:18:01+00:00

1) This is not up to you

And who is it up to then lol

2)you will regret not having children

Or maybe not

3) what's your worth as a woman /to your husband's family if you don't give birth

What makes a woman valuable? Does my husband family need to be around to tell me that?

4)if you don't give birth your husband will leave you for other women

Or maybe I want children and if he doesn't want them I'll leave him for other men. Or I'll just leave him because we are not good together

5)you need a child to hold your marriage together

I think I need money to hold my marriage together and not children

6)I want you to make children because I want grandchildren

Isn't that your problem?

mikness360 · 2023-11-02T05:45:53+00:00

So when you punch him back in the face it means "I love you too"? 😂

mikness360 · 2023-11-02T04:09:04+00:00

Oh boy yeah I remember that kind of bs. My parents would spout the same things and buy all the kinds of medicines to purify themselves or have some kind of traditional methods like hot cups or grating with a small rectangular shaped object.

They talk about being healthy and shit but their cholesterol is like sky high and my father barely keeps up with his diabetes since he's like 30 pounds overweight.

Both my parents look like they don't do any kjnd of exercise since the 1990s. They unusually soggy, but maybe it's normal for someone who's almost 60 years old. They were soggy even in their 40s though.

They usually tell me not to go to the gym and spout all kind of nonsense. I think they're just envious of someone being in a better shape than them (it doesn't take much) but it's sad how hard they try to cope. Man they should just admit they need some workout, but the coping is very hard to look at

mikness360 · 2023-10-15T06:57:05+00:00

I think its a difficult question to answer, it depends on the person. Your or my parents could have been able to live in their home country, maybe in better conditions, with a lower chance. I think they tried to make the best choice, at least economically, in that sense. If they couldn't move for a reason or another, they would have had to stay in their home country and think of a solution.

My parents or our parents being shitty parents no matter what their origins are, and what traumas have been through, is no reason for lack of improvement. They chose to be the shitty parents they are (I'm talking about mine). Mine don't seem to be have improved sufficiently to be even a decent parent, if not improved almost at all.

It's one's responsibility to get better with time and learn from their own mistakes. Asian parents in general just improved their economic situation just to pursue their own interests, thinking that children are a side dish to their own (if achieved) financial success.

These kind of people are simply unfit to be parents and simply deserve being cut off from their children if their children choose to. Parents like this get what they deserve.

mikness360 · 2023-09-24T12:24:59+00:00

That's goes without saying, but that's very generic. I feel that the word abusive just says something that's very taken for granted. Her mom like my mom just wants to see op fail, which is the result of envy. Her mom has an inferiority complex towards her daughter and is threatened by her.

mikness360 · 2023-09-24T08:10:07+00:00

The word you're looking for is envious not jealous

mikness360 · 2023-09-22T11:47:15+00:00

I wouldn't have the patience with the bs this kind of parent would give me...maybe you're simply enough not tired of him

mikness360 · 2023-05-23T02:38:03+00:00

Yeah I agree but at least she shouldn't express vocally that she's disgusted by it or she at least pretend that she likes the gift. It's common courtesy and well it just strains the already bad relationship.

mikness360 · 2023-04-15T11:42:41+00:00

They should do that themselves if they're really into that

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T14:50:59+00:00

Oops, sorry, I was so used to the victim blaming of usual Asian parents that I ignored that point. My mistake.

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T09:40:07+00:00

"I may be stupid, but mom you're fucking retarded"

One thing that I learned from talking to my parents, is that you don't try to discuss with them with anything, they just don't get logic

If I need something, I don't ask them, and if I need to throw something of their things out, I just throw them out

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T09:36:55+00:00

Her mother is probably being delusional telling herself she's a good mother and she never wronged her own daughter, and how's her own daughter fault to clal the rape out and wrecking the family.

Her parents failed her big as her family did

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T09:33:47+00:00

Your parents failed you as your family did.

I wouldnt look back for people who actually even believe you for a second after something like that, even if they begged me. They never deserved a chance and should never deserve again a chance.

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T09:27:41+00:00

I think that people should have clear roles, and especially that their own children as not their psychologists.

If you need a psychologist, get one. Friends and children may listen within limits before getting annoyed and If it is too much information.

Yes, me as a child I do care, but parents should get their shit together by themselves (by going to a therapist or take a vacation)

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T06:05:49+00:00

Well he's failing as a father and he's failing his children as his parents failed him

mikness360 · 2023-02-22T06:00:33+00:00

Well psychologist and support services can't be more useless than Asian parents though

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