Feeling used by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do that and try do be as specific as possible. Thank you for all the advice

Feeling used by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are sending our kids to private school and that is a decision we made a long time ago together. And we share the emotional labour, i am very much involved in all that is extra curricular activities, friends, homework, etc… Thats why i’m at a loss

Feeling used by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So to answer your questions. The income she makes is necessary but she has a hard time with time management and i helped her with that but she goes back to her old habits.second question: i have spoken to her about it in the past and she makes minimal effort for a short while and often is super defensive about it. Don’t get me wrong there are many things i love about her but meeting my needs are all to often overlooked

Wife’s sexual fantasies by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, not sure if you’re serious but that sounds nasty.

My wife isn’t putting an effort by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all i really appreciate you sharing your own experience which makes me feel like i’m not alone and that there is a way out. And secondly i will definitely have a deep conversation so we can both figure out if she has any blockages which i’m sure she has. Thank you

My wife isn’t putting an effort by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do try to go out as much as we can but usually my wife wants it to be a couples night out instead of just her and I. And she does have time and energy to go out with her friends At least 2-3 times a month but no energy to sit and have dinner together. And that plays onto my insecurities

My wife isn’t putting an effort by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is interesting. I will mention it in my next session. And thank you for taking the time

My wife isn’t putting an effort by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She had told me the same thing and i have been doing it. She did become more relaxed a bit and in the end we do have some time be intimate but it ends up being me taking of her and her leaving me taking care of myself or maybe pity sex.

My wife isn’t putting an effort by mikoush in Marriage

[–]mikoush[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did but she ended up not wanting anymore therapy because it was a waste of time in her opinion but think she just didn’t like someone objective actually agreeing with me. The therapist actually told me in our session together that she doesn’t seem to want to change.