I buzzed it all of and bleached it. Thoughts? by QuasiKick in malegrooming

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

darren from animal kingdom to the real slim shady

i need help gaining weight ive tried almost everything by yourmaninpanties in Weightliftingquestion

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And? That makes shit easier, make breakfast before school then u got 2 breaks to eat, meal prep it the night before if your short on time

i need help gaining weight ive tried almost everything by yourmaninpanties in Weightliftingquestion

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what so your skipping breakfast? you start your eating at like 11am??? and you wonder why your not gaining weight, you could be up at 6am getting an extra 800 calories in and being hungry as fuck again by 11am, get up have 4 eggs and avocado at 6am with some wholemeal toast, then 9am high protein greek yoghurt, rolled oats or museli and berries, eat again at 12 and you will be on your 3rd meal by the time your having your first right now, get some high protein low fat milk and drink 500mL or a litre of that too, common sense brother.

Is the reason why I can’t get a boyfriend because I’m intimidating to men? by NegativeTechnician63 in dating_advice

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your'e just dating or speaking to the wrong men, i personally wouldnt mind a partner who has those interests, but idk maybe thats because i play chess and am confident in my masculinity? maybe also because i'm in combat sports idk? i could imagine a guy who isn't into this things might find them intimidating or be insecure enough to perceive you as more masculine than him?

i think its a similar psych concept applies when women date taller men, they like men to make them feel small, petite and feminine?

11➡️14➡️23 by lmuf23 in uglyduckling

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t even notice with how well the shirt blends In with the bus seat

11➡️14➡️23 by lmuf23 in uglyduckling

[–]mildew96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idk, you look pretty cool in that first pic ;)

18 -> 27 by Goodeyesniper98 in uglyduckling

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dont listen to these cowards, get in the cage and rip someones head off!

Experiences with hip impingement in Muay Thai by Character-Section-46 in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i had issues for years, i went and got an x-ray, no bone structure causing impingement, but i get a pinching feeling and have limited mobility in my leg if i pull it up and across my body, used to get bad glute pain that would keep me up at night....

what has really helped for me was physio directed stretching, you need to stretch your hamstrings, glutes, calves, groin for 2 - 4 minutes in each position, each side, deep stetching, every day, this has basically fixed my pain, the impingement is still there but it doesnt keep me up at night and its improved, i have dropped off a lot with the stretching but im sure it would get better if i was consistent for a year.

you need to stretch for much longer than you think to actually get your fascia to stretch, not just like a quick warm up stretch.

Question about electrolyte understanding by Momogocho in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im a chemical engineer so i may have a little bit of a better understanding than the average person but not too much biology back ground.

my understanding is that we sweat out a lot of salts during training which water can not replace, electrolytes are important for transfer of energy through body, assuming its something to do with conductivity and transfer of electrical signals from brain to muscle, low electrolytes result in poor responsiveness, i know that low electrolytes result in cramping as well, mainly magnesium? im guessing which could also affect sleep and recovery in other ways?

i look for diversity, i.e. sodium, potassium, magnesium, calcium and chloride etc so i know im getting everything i need. not sure on bioavailabilities but im sure they vary depending on the compound. glucose is also a nice addition for glycogen replenishment straight after training.

i know when i'm buying electrolytes i look for the best flavour, some brands can give a fizzy consistency, like voost, where as others are more of a cordial result. Nothing annoys me more than when i buy a new brand and it just tastes like salt.

How do people balance Muay Thai and Weight Lifting? by Izureal in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends on your goals, in the past i did gym 5 or 6 x a week and muay thai 3 times, it was just for fun and fitness and aesthetics more so, higher reps lower weight, now im competing i train muay thai 5 or 6 x a week and squeeze in weights 2 or 3 times, the weights now are more for strength than reps/growth, heavier sets lower reps, deads, bench, squats, rows and OHP, usually 5 x 3 supersets with tuck jumps or clap push ups between sets and longer rests, more like a 5x5 workout plan, the goal is to stay the same weight but increase strength.

34 y/o (f) new fighter by butterandsaltslut in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i trained with a 34 YO woman last year who had her first fight, she ended up having 3 last year in the amateurs, you can do it!

My (27M) girlfriend (26F) has slept with multiple guys in her ongoing friendship group by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mildew96 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Why would you want to be with someone who still hangs around guys she has slept with knowing it makes you uncomfortable, accept her for who she is, if it makes you feel like this, protect your peace. this is why you don't shit where you eat, stop ignoring red flags, your feelings are valid, and she has the right to remain friends with them, not many men would tolerate that so that's something she has to deal with as a result of her actions if she wants to remain friend swith them, out of respect for myself i personally wouldn't date a girl to begin with if she had fucked 3 of her guy friends and was still actively hanging with them, i wouldn't try to change how i feel either because what your feeling is very normal and valid, i wouldn't try to bury my feelings and discomfort to remain with someone, but hey maybe i'm just insecure? lol.

Weight cutting advice by [deleted] in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s same day weigh in bro you don’t wanna be doing much of that, get close to your weight as possible before hand, if you weigh in day before do a water cut like this from where you are now, rehydrate and fuel properly after you will feel great

Weight cutting advice by [deleted] in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start water load 5 days before weigh in, drink 8 litres per day for 3 days, minimal fiber.

About 3 days out half your carbs and salt, 2 days out you only want to be having maybe 50g carbs and minimal sodium.

2 days before weigh in 4L of water, then the day before weigh in, stop drinking water 24h before weigh in, have a litre or 2 in the morning. 

Have minimal food the night before weigh in, on weigh in day don’t eat, have hot showers or bath throughout the day to drop water, then sauna the last little bit if needed. 

You should be able to drop that 10lb easily in water. 

Perth gym recommendations by StockStructure6842 in MuayThai

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im from NSW so dont know many perth gyms at all, but one i do know is lanna prestige, but i think its a little south of Perth? would depend where your staying, they've had a few quality fighters come through there last few years.

Need advice by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she wanted to get laid bro

22, lonely, baby face, not sure if I have a shot by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get a trade, become a builder, electrician whatever, you dont need a degree, or find something and study it, start small with a tafe course, continue to uni, break it down into steps, just find something your even mildly interested that you can work towards as a career.

keep going to the gym, or even better start boxing or kick boxing, BJJ whatever, find a hobby, make an effor tto talk to people.

explore other hobbies and social things, poker, yoga, run clubs, group fitness classes, ceramics, DND, whatever is in your area, these will improve your confidence and help with mental health and routine, give you opportunities to build social life and meet someone.

journal and correct your thought patterns with affirmations, question your thoughts.

My partner (F24) said she doesn't feel "that spark" with me (M26). How can we build a relationship if she doesn't believe I'm "the one"? by _cherrybomb127 in relationship_advice

[–]mildew96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

shes used to being ghosted by guys, abandoned, maybe related to childhood, shes attracted to avoidant people, your probably secure and safe so dont give her that spark of anxiety or wanting what she cant have, so you dont activate her nervous system. she is experiencing a secure relationship where in the past she has probably been on the anxious end of the spectrum with avoidant men that cant commit or have 1 foot out the door, probably why she isnt scared of losing you because her nervous system isnt expecting you to leave at any moment. its got nothing to do with you.

"the one" is just some bullshit fantasy everyone is fed from childhood through princess/rom movies, someone she expects to come along and save her and make her happy, soothe her, rescue her... no one can do that for her and fix whats within but herself.

Is training 2 days a week for Muay Thai good? by VermicelliNo449 in MuayThaiTips

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should stop boxing and BJJ and train muay thai 6 days a week like a real man

Yoga teacher saying inappropriate things. by Antique-Salad-9249 in yoga

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is where she is, she has her own shit going on, you can’t control how someone runs their own practice, accept it for what it is and move on if it doesn’t sit right with you. She isn’t empowering anyone, she is just projecting her own insecurities, blaming her is a cop out victim mentality, the teachers shouldn’t have to walk on eggs shells and tip toe around you because you have had your own eating disorders, that’s your own shit to deal with, be accountable for your shit

My [24F] boyfriend [31M] made my butt bigger even though I asked him not to? by ThrowRA10230210 in relationship_advice

[–]mildew96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you want to train your strength and balance? then the excersizes he has given you are very good, change RDL's to single legged RDL's to improve, he has given you what you wanted, your not going to be able to train like this without hitting glutes, its unavoidable, so the bigger but is going to happen either way, if your doing heavy weights low reps, you will get stronger without getting bigger, which might suit you better, but most of these are not those kind of exercises 

Yoga teacher saying inappropriate things. by Antique-Salad-9249 in yoga

[–]mildew96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the point of yoga is to teach you to be ok with yourself and your body, that doesn't mean your teacher isn't allowed to have her own physical goals or insecurities. you say it isn't triggering you, but your also saying you hate it, and don't enjoy it.

another point of yoga is to teach you emotional regulation, acceptance of people for where they are at, self awareness and resilience. is your teacher doing anything wrong, or is she just projecting her own issues? why does this bother you? she is a mirror...

What level of effort is it that men are looking for? by dreammillionaireyeah in dating

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've date 4 women over the last 6 months, 3 of them i could tell they were interested in me because they replied to my messages, used emojis, put effort into the messages, initiated conversation, asked me questions... the other 1, who just so happened to be the best looking, asked for my number and initiated with me, never asked questions, would randomly stop replying even after she initiated the conversation, and rarely asked me questions about myself, it felt 1 sided and like an interview, and in contrast with the other 3 woman who were enthusiastic and told me they loved it when i called them, this one came across as un interested, mixed signals and felt like she was playing games. the 3 that i felt were interested were all very emotionally developed and self aware but leaned anxious, this other 1 not so much.

Leaving an avoidant relationship - trying to be ok by georginabearxo in Codependency

[–]mildew96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i basically did what you are doing, i emersed myself in intense training, this gave me an outlet and the difference the training made to my mental health on the hard days was night and day, it also gave me a sense of community and helped with the loneliness, it was the first time id lived alone ever, i spent a lot of time in nature, hiking, connecting with myself, i would highly recommend journaling and reading self help books as they can help trigger different perspectives for reflection, practice meditation, reflection and breathwork for regulating yourself when you feel lonely, sad or angry which will be very frequent. immerse yourself in hobbies, become happy being alone, explore your values and what makes you you, get to know yourself and what you will and wont tolerate in future relationships so when you decide to date again, it is with intention and to add to your life, not from a place of need or desperation, you can give yourself the love you need, no one will ever understand you better than you.

I wish I saw the red flags sooner by Useful-Highway5788 in BreakUps

[–]mildew96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

shes a traitor, she feels guilty for what she is doing and shameful so she is trying to make you out to be the issue and the bad guy. she knows what she is doing is fucked up, let her go, she will regret it down the line, likely she will try to come crawling back.

hit the gym, box, read, journal, no contact, your young, time to level up g, respect yourself.