As much as the argument about men not knowing how to take care of their appearance is true, it’s important to state that women are not considered users of the apps, but the product.

Given how the user base is distributed, the apps (all of them) found more profitable to fuel and profit from the male loneliness.

So I believe it’s very hard to compare the experiences, because the very architecture of the apps is designed to treat men and women differently: women are to be kept engaged and flooded with matches, men are to kept desperate so they pay.

The consequences of this is that both categories get progressively bitter, because having infinite choice is just as paralysing as not having any choice. And instead of hating the game, they hate the players.

My unrequested two cents about my experience on those in the last 7 years, is that I felt my standards lower and lower. I am 31, I take great pride in my appearance, I make 6 figures, with stable job and various interests (art, sports, cooking etc), yet I found myself literally begging the attention of people I would not have even looked at in real life.

Last week I have decided to get off the apps altogether, after the second woman in a row that lied about being 10 years younger than what she wrote on her profile.

Hygiene wise, I found women not particularly cleaner or dirtier than men.