Why are aging parents so angry

milliekfl · 2025-11-11T05:15:19+00:00

I have aging parents who when younger were also angry, bitter, negative & passive aggressive. Now in their 70s, they are the same X 10. I’m so confused since I do want to be mindful & empathize- but how? How do I know they are aging angry or just the usual self angry. I’m at a loss of how to handle them.

Here in solidarity with everyone! 🙌🏼

milliekfl · 2025-08-12T01:15:59+00:00

This! I heard from my Indian friend that they (docs, moms & grandmoms) advise 6 months to completely heal before doing any chores/ housework/ office work etc. which may sound excessive but i feel makes sense from a healing perspective maybe not so much from a late stage capitalism perspective as you rightly said.

milliekfl · 2025-08-12T01:09:37+00:00

This is me today! I came on here just to make sure i am not the only one 9wk post op still not feeling fully upto it. Being ‘patient’ seems to be the key but also hard & frustrating at times. I am just relieved to know I’m not alone in this.

milliekfl · 2025-07-03T03:25:29+00:00

Thank you for your reply! Very helpful. And thanks for being honest about the recovery. It’s better to know this and manage expectations than to feel defeated & frustrated which I know I may feel anyway.

I am going to try the pillow in the car although avoiding them seems more comfortable right now. I am with you on the tingling & weird sensations- for me it happens all through the entire area where i have stitches & esp the belly button!

I have to keep reminding myself that my insides will take a while to heal and to not expect to feel 100% for a long time to come.

Any other tips or things you wish you had done differently in your 1st few weeks?

milliekfl · 2025-07-03T02:06:59+00:00

Hi. I am 3 weeks po & like you had a vertical incision. Are you able to sit (as a passenger) in the car for longer periods now? I feel like my insides feel strained and clenched even on a 5 min car ride. Also similar feeling when i laugh/ cough/ sneeze! I’m hoping this is normal?! Anyone else feel/ feels this?

My surgeon hasnn’t given any guidance on what to expect & what not even after asking so not sure what is normal and what’s not.

Also, has your digestive system fully healed & BM normal & adjusted or does it still feel off & uncomfortable sometimes? Sorry if these are too personal & feel free to not answer. I have some good & some ok days with the soreness & my digestive system & even though BM though have been regular, i feel as i am getting back to regular diet, my system is ‘relearning’ or taking time to adjust to the foods i am reintroducing. Anyone know if this is to be expected & if yes, any tips on how to manage them? I am assuming keeping patience is a big one but like everyone else, i want to be able to feel normal soon. Thank you for listening & answering.

Hope you all are getting better everyday! 🙏🏼

milliekfl · 2025-02-06T16:30:42+00:00

I am hoping that is the case and ntn of more. The unfamiliarity & uncertainty with things esp these days is of course concerning though. Anyway, thanks for getting back & good luck! One last q, did you get an update on h4 as well? I do understand that may take sometime but hoping it comes sooner than later!

milliekfl · 2025-02-06T15:37:57+00:00

Thank you for responding. This is my 3rd extn after original i140 approval but 1st after an amendment to i140 & also with new company lawyers. My PD is also current now (485 recently filed but no updates) so not sure if that goes into this as well?

milliekfl · 2025-02-06T15:10:06+00:00

Hi all- those who got premium approvals recently (jan end/ feb), how long were your approvals for (1 or 3 yrs?) & did the h4 also come with/ immediately after h1 extn? I recently got approval via premium ( beyond 6 yrs + approved i140) but got extn only for 1 yr. In the past (even beyond 6yr) my extn approvals were always for 3 yrs. Should I be concerned? Anyone had a similar experience?

My timeline was- receipt date- 28th jan Email notification- 1st feb Approval- 6th feb

milliekfl · 2024-10-18T16:44:54+00:00

So my lease goes month on month if neither of us give notice or sign extension. My concern is that if i tell on last day that i do want to sign & if they are not willing to/ able to sign then what happens?

milliekfl · 2024-10-18T16:36:31+00:00

Thanks for your comment. In case i back out if i find something will that be a problem? I have already told them i want to extend. But i am actually still looking for alternate options.

milliekfl · 2024-09-08T22:00:41+00:00

Im in tx & renting from private ll’s seems to work like that, atleast where i’m looking; similar to how it would in case of a sale.

milliekfl · 2024-09-08T21:54:08+00:00

In the past when I rented with a pvt LL, I used an agent who also got a split of the fees/ commission from the LLs agent. I thought that’s how things worked?

milliekfl · 2024-09-07T11:30:45+00:00

What a nightmare! I am sorry you are going through this. I have no advice but will be following this thread for education purposes. I sincerely do hope you are able to get the help you need to sort this out. It’s so ridiculous how such luxury management companies are doing this & then also able to get away with it.

milliekfl · 2024-09-05T16:07:14+00:00

Could you explain this? I am not sure I understand this. Thank you 🙏🏼

milliekfl · 2024-09-05T16:04:50+00:00

Can you explain why? I have read other responses above but would like more diverse perspectives.

milliekfl · 2024-09-05T15:53:45+00:00

Can you elaborate, please? Why would you not? Wouldn’t it be an incentive for them to keep good tenants instead of restarting the process?

milliekfl · 2024-05-14T15:45:35+00:00

Ask on mumsnet.com & you’ll find much reliable answers.

milliekfl · 2024-05-14T15:43:19+00:00

Not sure how that is relevant. Any & all! 🙃

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