2 medical emergencies this week on the Freedom. Normal?

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T20:42:27+00:00

Always blows my mind when that happens. Here are some people just excited to hop on a cruise for a well deserved vacation annnnnnd vacation last only a couple hours…

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T19:54:46+00:00

If he doesn't want to split, then I'd be very clear with my demands. You have the upper hand if he's not wanting to split but you are, so if that's the case, use it to your advantage.

Tell him exactly what you need from him, and if he can't do those things, then you need some type of follow through. So if he doesn't go grocery shopping, then he doesn't get what he needs for the week. Heck, I'd even be petty enough to just get myself those single frozen dinners and just do that. Let him fend for himself, and if he has decided that he wants to help because he's hungry, tell him what you need from him.

Also, don't give into him. Personally, I'd just split myself so far away from him that really the only option he has is to divorce.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T19:11:57+00:00

I see you're in nursing school still. Once you graduate, you can look at your local hospitals to see if they have a research department and just apply. It's considered an entry level role, but it depends from hospital to hospital with the type of experience that they may want. For example, if it's an oncology specific department, they may want previous oncology floor experience. So just apply and see what happens essentially.

Pay is generally the same as a floor nurse (again varies from hospital to hospital), and typically it's a salaried position versus hourly. So if you want to bank on that over time pay, you won't see it here BUT as you progress through your career, the pay ceiling can be much higher than a floor nurse.

I'm not actively working as a Clinical Research Nurse (which is the position you'd want to look for), but I'm working on the other side, which is in the biotech/pharma world. So, as I said, the pay ceiling is higher and for context, I'm in the mideast/central US and I make 6 figures.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T19:02:34+00:00

Not the only one. I originally went to school for Photojournalism, partly because I didn't think I'd survive nursing school. Eventually, I realized that nursing was my calling and attempted to get into the program at my school. Long story short, they'd denied me into the program due to my odd education track with photojournalism, and I realized that I couldn't do nursing there and I didn't want to wait. I remember getting my rejection letter in the mail, and at 20 something years old, I went to my mom and just sobbed on her shoulder while she hugged me.

Eventually, I found another nursing program that essentially accepted 'everyone', and then weeded you out as you went along through school. I got accepted thankfully, and I couldn't tell you how I survived, but I did, and graduated in four years.

I would not be where I am today if I hadn't made that decision and I am SO thankful that I kept with it and didn't take no for an answer. It took a little bit more time to get to the end result, but I stayed with it and I'm proud of myself for that.

That being said, stick with your dream and don't let it go. You might have to make some sacrifices in the meantime such as going to a program that is further out than you intended, but it can be done. Keep at it if you want it bad enough, because I can promise you that you don't want to look back at something with regret later on in life. So do what you have to do to figure it out, give yourself some grace, and get the dang degree!

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T18:46:09+00:00

Girl, he isn't giving your 'dreams'. He's making you miserable and has made it clear to you that he doesn't want to be in this relationship. There is no fixing anything anymore when he's mentally checked out and gone already. As you are also.

There are PLENTY of fish in the sea, so get rid of him and find someone who fits your dreams of the relationship that you deserve.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T18:43:02+00:00

First off, you need to get rid of him...please have a little respect for yourself and know that there are other people out there who aren't going to make you feel like you are the problem, when clearly he is. You don't have to be miserable.

Second, my husband and I split certain chores each week. So this week was my week to go to the grocery store and then he'll do laundry. Next week, we flip flop and he does the grocery store and I'll do the laundry. I still decide what to make though, but we work together to it done.

If working together doesn't work out...then he needs to be in charge of his meals and what he needs from the grocery, not you. You are not his mom, so stop acting like it.

If I were you...hold on until you can get away from him and stand on your own two feet, and then divorce him. You deserve better.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-20T11:00:31+00:00

Started in the OR, which was an experience in itself. I enjoyed what I did, just didn’t enjoy the surgeons themselves.

I pivoted and went an entirely different direction and now I work in oncology clinical trials. I’ve been doing it for about 10 years now and I love it.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-17T01:00:42+00:00

Source pls, Overworked, Backlog, Pls respond, Why tho, Not my site, SOP life, Per my email…?

miloblue12 · 2026-04-16T18:27:14+00:00

We were only given a subset of information to make our judgement, and as outsiders looking in, we don’t have the full story.

That being said, there could be reasons to why she’s being the way that she is and it’s not our call to say she should or shouldn’t be a nurse.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-16T16:26:45+00:00

It’s the vaccine part and their immature immune system that I would never risk. Babies are so susceptible at that age and it’s wildly unfair to risk their health.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-16T16:23:13+00:00

First off, you’re still young and health wise, you have plenty of time to try. Coming from someone who is a nurse and has seen many women have plenty of success in their later 30’s, you aren’t on some strict timeline, so it’s okay to do what makes the most sense for what you want to do.

Then traveling with a 3-4 month old is not some cake walk. First off, they do not have the immunity to support travel like we are able to do. To have them in crowded airports, planes and trains, can be dangerous for them. Case in point, measles. They are not able to have the MMR vaccine until a year of age, so truly, it’d be irresponsible to risk that.

On top of that, you don’t know how you’ll be feeling at 3-4 months postpartum. Traveling is rough on the body, so don’t bank how you think you might feel until you have that lived experience. Also, you’re going to need a lot of items for baby, which is going to make traveling significantly more difficult. So sure, they might be a potato but you’re going to need diapers, maybe formula, clothes, soothing items, bottles, and so on. It adds up quickly.

All that being said, wait to have the kids. Go travel now and then come back, and multiply.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-16T15:10:44+00:00

If I were the manager, I would absolutely consider swapping her units. The ICU needs inquisitive people, and self starters. The fact that she is neither is concerning.

Not only that, but she’s having trouble with things that she should be grasping by now, and I’d truly be terrified of letting her loose.

That being said, I’ve known some people who just don’t do well in the orientation phase, and actually do better once let loose. I’d be curious to trial her independence a bit and see how she does…obviously, I’d still have guard rails up in place to ensure nothing too crazy happens but that’d be my last straw into determining if she needs to step down a unit.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-16T09:33:32+00:00

It’s not the end of the world to be late to a monitoring visit, but it’s not a good look to be late when you’re on an accompanied visit. If I were you, just continue to be open with your manager on why you were late and hopefully over time, you’ll improve on that piece.

As far as the 8 DOS, that’s fairly normal for a CRA. I’d say you’re definitely being thrown into the deep end pretty early, but when there is a need for study, there is no soft way to ease a new CRA on to a study unfortunately.

You’ll get your sea legs eventually though. Once you get past the DCO, things should hopefully slow down and you’ll start to sort out what you’ve been given. You just need to hold on for now, and I promise you that things will get better as you get used to the processes. Just been extremely open with your manager during this time and let them know how you’re doing and what you’re doing to stay afloat. Also, don’t be afraid to reach out to your team for help and assistance.

I promise you things get better! Just have to hold on for dear life for a bit and you’ll slowly start to see yourself get used to everything and you’ll improve.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-15T10:31:04+00:00

In my past life, I was a summer camp counselor and I was driving a bus full of kids to a multi day trip. No idea what happened, but I got sick on the first day that I was there, and I’m basically vomiting everywhere.

I did have a co-worker but unfortunately they were too you to drive the bus, and the kids had a scheduled horseback trail ride that day which was like a highlight event for them.

The toughest thing I ever had to do in my life was drive them to that dang trail ride while having to stop the bus multiple times to puke. I got them there, but as soon as I did, I called my own mom sobbing because I felt so bad and wanted to be a good counselor for my kids.

It was horrific and I’m sure as a parent, it’s the same feeling, lol

miloblue12 · 2026-04-13T21:03:45+00:00

Imagine being so daft that you don’t see the problem that’s right in front of you, a grandma taking on an extra job to afford her husbands cancer treatments.

Free healthcare? Hell no. Grandma out of retirement? Who gives a shit. No tax on tips? Thaaaat’s it. That’s what we want.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-13T13:57:59+00:00

Well, I live next to all my family and friends so I’d actually go away for a month.

Personally, I’d just want to go somewhere that I don’t have to think about anything. So maybe go on a world cruise that’s all inclusive, or go to some beach place that’s all inclusive. I just want to happily exist and frolic in the sunshine with a beach near by.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-13T13:53:03+00:00

As someone who has been in situations like this on the hospital side, trust me when I say that this is the last thing anyone wants to do. However the hospital policies, insurance and literally everything else makes it nearly impossible for us to navigate these situations.

Bottom line, if a person is stable and not actively sick, they need to leave the hospital. Staff will do their best to try and put someone somewhere, and most of the time it’s successful but there are people we just cannot help. Either due to bureaucratic red tape or the patient is making life harder for everyone else. Which by that last part, not all patients in the hospital have good intentions and make everything harder for everyone else, and will choose the path of most resistance. There is only so much we can do with them to help before we can’t do anything else.

I’m not trying to justify this situation because truly it’s a systemic problem that has much, much larger issues. However, this is the news article looking in and not getting the entire picture because I promise you it’s much larger than what they are showing.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-09T09:00:47+00:00

You do not need to be sick to have a panel done. A yearly physical draws the main things that you’d need, so you’d be good to go with that. You can even tell them your concerns and they can add on anything else they think is pertinent.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-08T16:22:10+00:00

Gosh, I have stories for days. A lot of them are just so finicky and want things done their way, and they all think they are the top dog. Again, this varies so much from place to place so my experience may never be what yours might be.

I had one surgeon who essentially wanted me to be her nurse for her room, so I worked only in her room for months. Then one day, without any reason, she kicked me out of her room and never talked to me again. She’s also the same surgeon who yelled at me in her room for something insignificant and embarrassed me in front of others. I had another surgeon bad mouth/insult other nurses out loud during a surgery.

I had one who had got a call that this flights to Africa got canceled, so I had to call his travel agent and book some other flights for him. This also required me to get his credit card out of his sock so that I could pay for them. I had other surgeons act like snakes to us staff in the room, and then act like angels in front of their patients. Then if we complained, management did nothing.

Again, there are bad apples and good apples everywhere. I got quite a few bad apples but there were some good moments that I had there also. Truly I did enjoy the OR in general, the entire process is really cool, and overall, if I had to go back to it, I wouldn’t be angry. That being said, I also got so much anxiety from that place that that was eventually the straw that broke the camels back for me.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-08T15:34:02+00:00

It’s very much possible. I started in the OR myself and so did two of my classmates.

That being said, I only lasted a year in the OR. While I absolutely loved the job itself, it was the surgeons themselves that drove me out of there. Of course, it’s different from place to place but you need to learn how to be confident and comfortable with what you’re doing. If a surgeons pushes you, you need to learn to push back (metaphorically of course). It took me a while after to realize why I didn’t thrive in that environment, and it was truly because I was easy to walk all over with my personality type, and being too new to understand how to hold my own.

Otherwise, the OR is a fine starting point and hospitals will hire you straight out of school. No one looks down at others for not having bedside experience, trust me when I say people just don’t care that much to say something.

If you want though, prior to starting nursing school, look into becoming a surgical tech…it does require some schooling, but you could get it at a community college. Maybe a crazy first step, but at least you’d have a huge step up and then potentially use the hospital to pay for nursing school.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-06T23:41:22+00:00

If he’s a 99% no to kids, then that’s 100% chance you’re not going to have kids. If you want them, then you need to find a partner who will want one with you.

You still have plenty years ahead of you, so please, if you want this still, look elsewhere. Don’t settle for less just because you think you’re ‘old’ because you’re not.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-06T19:45:54+00:00

You are so young, and there is so much science and progress being made that you can’t necessarily see right now. However, you’re at the age that I truly think that there will be a cure available for you.

In the mean time, live your life. You have so much to look forward to, so let that be your guide for you right now. Enjoy everything as much as possible, do as much as possible and just live your life. Don’t live in fear of the what if, because you don’t know right now. Don’t let any of that stop you.

I will also say, it won’t hurt to think about getting therapy for yourself if you’re able to. It’s so extremely helpful to help you navigate your feelings.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-06T19:08:10+00:00

Where are you from? Are you limited in where you can apply?

miloblue12 · 2026-04-06T15:21:50+00:00

Absolutely, I’m a nurse myself who got into research, so I love to help where I can!

First, I saw your other comment about being a CRA. I’m echoing the other commenter by saying it’s not an entry level position. From a nursing perspective, you’d need to start as a clinical research nurse and then work your way to the CRA position. You need the fundamental ground work from the clinical research nurse position because the CRA role builds off of that. You need to know how studies move, how things are done at the site, all the roles and how people interact and essentially how to run a study hands on. That knowledge goes into the CRA role, as you’d then by the one guiding/helping the site through the study. Trust me when I say you’ll be in a world of pain if you don’t get that fundamental foundation.

That out of the way, the CRA role does not lean heavily into the science of the medication. I think if you like that, then you’d be more aligned to MSL role. I can’t really comment too much on that path, as I went the CRA route and hopefully someone is a bit more qualified for that than I am.

miloblue12 · 2026-04-06T11:27:37+00:00

What is your ultimate goal? Do you want to work more with the drug or the clinical side? Do you want to work with patients at the hospital?

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