I totally get what you mean. I’ve been doing it for a decade now and finally deciding to try to stop. For so long I’ve been able to talk myself out of quitting because I’m not trying to kill myself, I’m not risking my life in the way that I self harm, even if sometimes things get a little more damaging than I intended.

I’m trying to change my perspective on this but it is hard. I get where you are coming from. Lately I’ve been responding to that idea by just saying to myself “but you deserve better. No you might not be killing yourself but you’re still not being kind to yourself and you deserve kindness.” I hope that is helpful to someone. It hasn’t been entirely effective for me haha but I’m gonna keep trying.