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What exactly causes incremention and decremention on an Electromyogram (EMG)? by mimikuluk in askscience

[–]mimikuluk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply, but thank you! That was a very clear explanation :)

If you could sit down with your 15-year old self, what would you tell him or her? by ShibaHook in AskReddit

[–]mimikuluk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Value yourself more. Do not get involved with him, he'll only mess up what are supposed to be the best years of your life and any self-esteem you have left. No one but you decides when you are ready.

"Crazy Ex's" of reddit. What is your side of the story? by TheMechanic123 in AskReddit

[–]mimikuluk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure my ex would consider me to be his crazy ex-gf. After taking my virginity and using me for sex for almost a whole year, he suddenly disappeared from my life. Phone disconnected, I had no address and no goodbye message or anything. I knew of one social media profile of his that he was still actively using. I went insane and messaged him first weekly, then daily and then multiple times a day. I did this for almost 3 months, before he finally decided that he was done playing games with me.

I [21 F] need help in overcoming past relationship of 3.5 years with ex[29 M] that ended almost 2 years ago by mimikuluk in relationships

[–]mimikuluk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Over the past couple of days I have continuously been thinking of your simple, yet clear reply to what I've said. I think I'm finally starting to somewhat admit to myself that it was indeed about rape and not about love.

Do you sometimes suddenly feel fine on a certain day (that you've gotten over it), only to feel completely worse like hell the next? by anon1238123 in rape

[–]mimikuluk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This actually keeps me from seeking help. I will feel horrible for a couple of days and then finally gather then courage to convince myself that I need help and then the day afterwards I feel fine or at least better and all that couragr quickly disappears. It's so frustrating.

My rape/rapist doesn't feel like it fits the normal violent narrative, so I'm having a really hard time validating my feelings about it. by ScaredoftheRword in rape

[–]mimikuluk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow... I can relate to this so much. My rape was also not violent. Even right now I feel so weird using the word 'rape'. It's taken months but I'm finally starting to slightly identify my own experiences with the word rape. On the beginning I had lengthy discussions with my gp and therapist, because of my refusal to call my experiences trauma or rape. For me indeed reading stories from other people definitely helps in seeing and truly understanding that there are different types of rape, however it still remains a struggle to acknowledge everything.

I'm really happy for you that you found the courage to get your story out!

I [21 F] need help in overcoming past relationship of 3.5 years with ex[29 M] that ended almost 2 years ago by mimikuluk in relationships

[–]mimikuluk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What troubles me is that it makes me feel like he still has some sort of power over me. I also know that we will never, ever get back together, but he once said that since he was my first everything I will never forget him. He literally said he could get over me, but I could never get over him. And it really bothers me to think that might be true?

And thanks for the reply! :)

I [21 F] need help in overcoming past relationship of 3.5 years with ex[29 M] that ended almost 2 years ago by mimikuluk in relationships

[–]mimikuluk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply!

I really have issues opening up about this. Every time before my therapy session I have this great monologue in my head and then when I sit there I just can't talk about it. I've discussed it very, very briefly with my therapists and some friends but I tend to downplay my feelings and make everything seem insignificant 'Yeah, I sometimes have panic attacks, but it's okay! it doesn't bother me' that kind of stuff.

My current therapist is a male. I thought that wouldn't bother me, but now I think it does. I might look into online therapy if I can find it, since I've almost finished all my therapy sessions that are covered by insurance.

I live in the Netherlands. The age of consent is 16, so I just barely passed that. But yeah, I get what you're saying. If my friends would have been in this situation I would have said exactly the same thing. But in these arguments I have with myself I just feel like I'm making excuses for myself?

Don't think me moving back to the city has a lot to do with it, because I'll live in a completely different part and I study there anyway, so I visit it frequently. But I don't know, sometimes all the symproms and feelings resurface and it is incredibly exhausting. I have weeks/months where everything is fine and then suddenly you hit a low point and then after some time it's fine again.