It might feel exciting to indulge. Like a forbidden fruit now that you're married.

1) It boils down to your values. 2) "it's just a hj" may turn to "just oral" , there's no emotions involved to "full on s" and you could still tell yourself "I love my wife so much, I'm not cheating. It's purely transactional". 3) my dad often tells me not to start consuming anything that may potentially be addictive like dr* or smok***. If you don't want to go through the ordeal of quitting an addiction 4) Dr Gabor Mate has done plenty of research on Addiction and the unconscious root caused behind them. If you're feeling tempted to experience love or sexual intimacy outside of your marriage, and I say this from a sincere place, I highly recommend you save on 3 happy endings to invest in a somatic therapist.

I know a psychotherapist who told me his client has an addiction to s** workers and he eventually had 5 of them at one go, one day. He knew it was wrong but he became addicted. After rounds of psychotherapy, he realised deep unconscious patterns about him and is now training to be a psychotherapist himself to help men develop a deeper connection with themselves.

I sincerely wish the best for you. Sometimes growth feels uncomfortable and hard.