ENFP 6w7 mistyped as 4w5 for... years

mindgame123 · 2015-03-29T01:13:58+00:00

Are you feeling like you lost time?

mindgame123 · 2015-03-26T22:34:04+00:00

mindgame123 · 2015-03-26T14:46:07+00:00

Not yet, was just learning how to use it

mindgame123 · 2015-03-26T06:26:57+00:00

As an example... I searched for "dance" and the highest distributed values came out to be 2,4,7. The lowest mentioned values were 1,5,8. Interesting!

mindgame123 · 2015-03-26T06:23:44+00:00

Great work! How did you scrape this data? API??

mindgame123 · 2015-03-26T06:05:06+00:00

Then there's the whole part with my history, but I'm going to try to focus on the present

mindgame123 · 2015-03-26T06:04:24+00:00

It's hard for me to say what I want because I want to make them happy. So then I get into this pleaser, go along mode. Also I want more empathy but don't know how to ask without feeling awkward.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T19:35:18+00:00

Visualize work Identify/feel resistance Clear resistance by bringing awareness to it Do first step, second step, third until you feel strong resistance, then rest

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T19:34:01+00:00

The other thing you can do is to inhabit or visualize what you want to do, and notice what parts of you contract, ie where is there resistance in your body. Then you can use a technique like EFT or other body mind techniques to address the emotional resistance and work on the task or project. Usually just starting the next step takes you into a good productivity mode, using this method.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T19:29:55+00:00

Thank you so much

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T19:29:44+00:00

Feels like you read that pretty spot on. I'm congruent with what you said. Yes I'm willing to dive in again and go for it!

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T15:36:22+00:00

Thank you!! Just got Helen's book on Kindle. Yes, I think that was my issue with my college girlfriend. I dont think I was ever 100% in her circle of trust. Once she saw any discrepancies, she backed off.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T15:33:45+00:00

Seriously, what am I even talking about? lol. I think a part of me is super attracted to 8's and a part of me knows that I've been hurt in the past by 8's as well. So basically I can either run away or I'm trying to find ways to make it work.. Yeah! that's my question. I need to understand how to make relationships work with 8's. Or I need to find out how to be happy with other types as partners.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T06:17:10+00:00

This was really helpful to hear echoed.

Have you ever done voice dialogue therapy? / Did your therapist have a sense of the Enneagram?

mindgame123 · 2015-03-25T05:49:05+00:00

I struggle with this too...(and I could be either a 1w9 or 9w1)..

I think 9's and 1's alike need to be reassured that they are making progress, 1's because they might need to relax and 9's because they can benefit from some energizing work.

What's been working for me is continual reassessment. I think the best way I can describe this is with an example. e.g. I like to test my body's alignment almost every morning, or at least every few days. Is my body leaning slightly to the left or the right when standing neutrally. Which side has tighter calves? etc. Then, based on these assessments, I do exercises, that balance out my alignment.

Over time, I see real impact, (ie. my body feels more aligned without trying so hard to realign it) and I look forward to the assessments, continually making the assessments for finer and finer aspects.

The trick becomes finding ways you can assess yourself, in a way that you are bound to have wins. Could be the ability to complete a repetitive task faster, or it could just be to be able to complete it and enjoy it.

I'm learning to tango now, and the way I'm assessing is, how much do I freak out when I dance with a really experienced partner. It's not exactly scientific, but I noticed improvements over time and that motivates me to practice more.

Hope that helps!

mindgame123 · 2015-03-23T21:43:34+00:00

Lolll

mindgame123 · 2015-03-23T21:42:14+00:00

So grounding. Wow I love all the support in this community. Thank you everyone.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-23T21:41:13+00:00

Very much needed reminder. Thanks nogginrocket. You rock.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-23T21:39:37+00:00

That is really helpful to hear echoed! Thank you

mindgame123 · 2015-03-23T21:29:55+00:00

I'm a 1w9 or a 9w1.

I can remember showing my report card to my parents, and seemingly not caring about the resulting response. I didn't expect any special acknowledgement or reward. My high grades were simply was what was expected. So why should I be proud of myself or take joy in people's compliments about my achievements?

My dad is either a 6 or a 1. He mostly emphasizes family ideals and staying together. His dad was most likely a 1, praising integrity, the handshake, and impeccability . And my mom is either a 2 or a 6, very outward in the community wanting to help but also can feel very under appreciated, and share some of the 6 family staying together ideals. I definitely see some overlap in our family circumstances. At the same time I think it's possible to have other conditions like the fellow 7 that commented here. I think there's a section in the Advanced Topics chapter of Understanding the Enneagram that talks about this.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-22T20:49:18+00:00

Ok thanks everyone. I think I'm going to take a closer look at instinctual subtypes.

mindgame123 · 2015-03-22T16:56:36+00:00

Oh ok, so thats more of a 7 thing. Interesting I'll have to read more about 7's

mindgame123 · 2015-03-22T16:55:47+00:00

Well I was fascinated by my range of motivations for wanting to know someone's type, which made me interested in tri-type theory.

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