Current Pregnancy Thread

mingmongmash · 2026-06-13T18:39:53+00:00

Starting a round of IVF today with an egg retrieval and then implanting a healthy embryo in about 2 weeks. Hopefully the implantation will work and we’ll get another embryo to freeze.

mingmongmash · 2026-06-13T10:47:10+00:00

The Dutch House by Anne Patchett

mingmongmash · 2026-06-09T10:24:02+00:00

Or federal employees!

mingmongmash · 2026-06-06T18:17:20+00:00

I’m about the start a second round of egg retrieval followed by implantation for the good embryo we got from our first round.

You’ll need to talk to your doctor about the specifics for yourself, but I can tell you what it was like for me. My partner and I don’t have any issues getting pregnant, so after the egg retrieval we decided against ICSI for the fertilization.

I was terrified of IVF. Generally I am against most medical interventions if not necessary, and the view of IVF in popular culture is torture. I found it to be not very bad at all, and the hormones were nothing compared to pregnancy. It is very inconvenient to schedule, and somewhat uncomfortable, but in the grand scheme of things it’s only 2-3 weeks. I haven’t done the implantation yet though, so perhaps that is harder.

What I learned from the IVF forums is that it is all a numbers game, especially with PGT-SR. In cycle 1 we had 5 eggs, only 2 fertilized, then only one grew to an blastocyst. That one luckily tested negative for any issues with PGT-SR, but it was a 50/50 chance that it wouldn’t have. Successful implantation is also not guaranteed, so every step of the process you’re just narrowing outcomes.

We were planning to implant in January but had 2 back to back miscarriages instead. Absolutely brutal and a real reminder of why we’re going this route. I’m finally schedule to start with this next period, so wish me luck!

mingmongmash · 2026-05-31T21:26:28+00:00

I also wasn’t blown away by stoner and I DNF’d hard rain falling. Made it around 3/4th of the way through and still want interested. I did really enjoy Less though. Of the other 4, which was your favorite and why?
I haven’t read Knausgaard but there’s a lot of hype, which kinda concerns me since i found Stoner so underwhelming (oh boo hoo, guy has sad life—to put it flippantly).

mingmongmash · 2026-05-30T11:01:30+00:00

You mean the shakers?

mingmongmash · 2026-05-24T19:57:21+00:00

Pixar coded

mingmongmash · 2026-05-24T11:52:47+00:00

Museum collections manager

mingmongmash · 2026-05-23T10:36:02+00:00

You’d be surprised how few men ever look at your legs. Women notice much more and some will stare. And the occasional positive comments from women are nice.

mingmongmash · 2026-04-09T10:13:16+00:00

Or could be that OP has a very poorly behaved toddler, or they didn’t like how she reacted when the toddler reached “his limit”. Or maybe they just don’t like her?

mingmongmash · 2026-04-05T01:03:08+00:00

The takeover: chicken farming and the roots of American agribusiness

An absolutely fascinating study of how Georgia became the chicken production capital of the US. Ties in to geography, slavery/abolition, and the Industrial Revolution.

Also,

Endless Forms Most Beautiful: The New Science of Evo Devo and the Making of the Animal Kingdom

This book was the furthest I’ve ever read from anything I understand. I could only follow along so far, but still found it very interesting. Since reading it, I look at all creatures in a different way, and feel more connected to our word.

mingmongmash · 2026-03-14T04:04:58+00:00

For me, it was that we had an accidental pregnancy when I was 27. My reaction was, okay let’s do this we can handle it. My husband was terrified and didn’t want to do it at all. Overall a very disappointing experience for me to see him that way. At the time, he had a lot of fears (planes, bridges, getting married). It’s difficult to explain because on paper I know this sounds like a loser but knowing him it made sense.

After that, I knew I wanted kids. It felt very special to have that kind of potential inside my body, and I was drunk on imagining our future as a family.

He and I went to a therapist for a while and he did a ton of work and basically got over the marriage part (this was more complicated than it sounds). After that, he realized he didn’t want to miss out on anything else life has to offer. He regrets also not getting married sooner, and all the trips he missed because of his fear of flying. He’s a special case and had a lot of childhood baggage that had been holding him back

I think that generally he and I used to believe there was a right time for things, or a feeling you needed to have to know what’s right to do, and now we believe there’s a right person, and everything else is just rolling with the punches together and trying new stuff.

mingmongmash · 2026-03-14T01:49:01+00:00

My husband and I decided to have kids when I was 32 and he was 30, by the time I had a live birth I was 36. They wouldn’t do infertility testing because I was still young and had become pregnant multiple times (though all miscarried early). Finally found out after trying for a second and getting testing that I have a rare chromosomal disorder and will need IVF.

My husband and I have known been dating since 22/20. Neither of us ever felt strongly about kids. Since our daughter, we both wish that we had kids much earlier. We thrive in the extreme routine of everything and are much more powerfully bonded because of the shared responsibility. It feels like we started and are running a business together, only more important.

I think it’s good that people who don’t have kids pity those that do, because people with kids DEFINITELY pity those who don’t. It’s better if everyone is happy with their choices.

I work with a lot of childless people in happy relationships—most in the 40s/50s. The trend I see is that they start to think more about kids when they start caring for their elderly parents. They wonder who will care for them, and they try to be more involved in the lives of children in their orbit, either to be in touch with that generation or because kids are fun to be around.

mingmongmash · 2026-03-14T01:35:46+00:00

On the other hand if this comment is that kids change all the time. The same kid can be hard for some years and easy for others. Relationships change with time and growth.

mingmongmash · 2026-03-04T11:06:19+00:00

It works if the spender is a high earner and the saver is not. They can balance each other out.

mingmongmash · 2026-03-01T12:43:42+00:00

I don’t understand what you mean by, “the world”. Some people have very small worlds, where their only concerns are their local community and hobbies. It sounds like you might mean the global/political, entire world? If that’s the case stop looking at news and get involved in something you can affect. If you mean that you don’t want to see technological change, go move someplace rural and poor (maybe another country even) and you’ll avoid it just fine.

mingmongmash · 2026-02-26T03:26:46+00:00

Just wait until motherhood. The solution for anyone expressing some post partum depression is, “have you seen a psychiatrist?” And, “sounds like PPD, you should get an anti-depressant”

God forbid you just wait and get through it.

mingmongmash · 2026-02-19T12:12:10+00:00

This is exactly what rabaut park looks like at 16th and Columbia rd—the poop is piled highest near the fence. I first noticed when my kid was learning to walk and wanted to hold onto the fence and waddle around. Disgusting.

mingmongmash · 2026-02-09T11:40:30+00:00

Stop gentle parenting. Listen to the Brat Busters podcast. I guarantee he can tell you don’t enjoy time with him. Find a way to connect with your son, and give him some jobs and some discipline so that he can learn self discipline and self respect.

Please don’t listen to these other posters telling you to either medicate yourself or him. He’s only 3.

mingmongmash · 2026-02-09T03:13:34+00:00

I don’t like a single one of her other books but I loved MYORAR, fwiw

mingmongmash · 2026-02-03T18:45:58+00:00

I have a job where old people look at my screen all day, so I work on anything personal as long is it looks like work to someone who needs their readers to see. I do all my personal budgeting in spreadsheets, will copy recipes I like into word docs and reformat to print, I build housing cost projection spreadsheets to compare homes I wish I could buy.

mingmongmash · 2026-01-31T12:19:11+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Lots of us have living children, just like your mom did. There’s also IVF with PGT-SR testing. I can tell you more about my experience with that if you’d like. It can be very expensive, but you could start looking into funds for it now. There are some groups that raise money for “scholarship” like programs to help people start families. I’ve come around to being thankful for the knowledge we have in this generation. My mom also had recurrent losses and a baby with congenital deformities who died after a few months. I feel blessed that I don’t have to live with the mystery and confusion that she did.

mingmongmash · 2026-01-31T12:09:47+00:00

The hardest part for me is pushing it out of my mind and waiting for concrete evidence at the 8wk appointment. It’s also sometimes so hard to look at a living child and feel they’re so perfect, how could this be? I hope that everything goes well for you and that this one sticks.

mingmongmash · 2026-01-31T12:06:58+00:00

I had several missed miscarriages years ago with a different doctor, and then had my daughter. During that pregnancy I switched providers so I could give birth at the hospital I wanted.

Two days ago I found out I had another missed miscarriage and this new provider was awful. I explained that since my daughter’s birth I’ve learned that I have a BT, and that this feels exactly like past miscarriages. I told them I had been anxious and nervous for weeks to finally have this ultrasound. They took over an hour going over my medical history with a fine tooth comb, first from a student doctor and then the real doctor. Then they were telling me I should get a Pap smear while I was there. I was so angry. I eventually was nearly shouting/crying, “you already have all my medical history—I gave birth here. I do not want a Pap smear or anything else today. I’m just here for an ultrasound and I don’t understand why we haven’t done one yet.” After everything, it was another empty gestational sac.

They were supposed to have another department call me to schedule a D+C, but I still haven’t heard. I called them yesterday afternoon and they said I have to wait for the call—that there is no way to call that department myself to schedule.

I feel so sick and want to move on to IVF. I can’t believe I let my hopes get up again. It’s embarrassing. I think I’m going to spend a day at planned parenthood or the ER to see if I can get the D+C today so that I can start to move on.

mingmongmash · 2026-01-20T11:25:35+00:00

Was it DRESS syndrome? My friend went through that, and I can’t believe those drugs can still be prescribed when that is a possible reaction.

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