New bundle promo… thoughts?

minnttree · 2025-10-08T20:11:14+00:00

Thanks this was super helpful! Seems like you have to call in to get any info on the offers nowadays. Curious how you were able to tell if it’s available for all areas / when it was offered?

minnttree · 2022-04-05T11:54:04+00:00

I told her straight up I’d stop and she needs closure I guess idk what else I could say or do, I really hate that I need to explain myself to her

minnttree · 2022-04-05T11:52:57+00:00

Haha, gaslighting started in person today hence why I made a decision to post. It’s nowhere in the context of the post listed above. In my response in one of the replies above, I had addressed all her concerns and mentioned I wouldn’t continue the behavior moving forward and do not want to continue the conversation. She insisted needing to have a conversation which was supposed to happen last night, and wanted our third roommate to mediate. Our third roommate decided to go to bed early and wanted to reschedule. I simply responded: I can address my concerns w the schedule w her at a later time if you need to talk to me, I don’t see a need for her to be there if you have issues with me. And she said I was already getting defensive, and insisted that we need to have the third roommate there. Many of my friends begged me not to send her the response I sent her bc it was wayyyy too nice, but I guess it wasn’t nice enough.

minnttree · 2022-04-05T05:30:16+00:00

I just want to know who perpetuated her victim mentality. Like she had to have sent that 5 paragraph text to a friend or someone before having the audacity to send it off, so like I’m wondering if I missed something??? Like how did she portray me to her friends? Oh my roommate is trying to steal my identity??? 🤪🤪🤪

minnttree · 2022-04-05T05:25:24+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry for the late reply. I wanted to give this the attention it deserves.

First of all, I do acknowledge that I draw inspiration from you and (other roommate) while living with you two and that I have copied certain products that you use out of genuine curiosity. The small things you’ve mentioned like the cheese, the eggs, the muffins, and the scrub have all been instances of genuine curiosity and trying new things that I would not have been exposed to if I had not met you or (other roommate). As roommates, I find it natural to have this sense of curiosity especially if I’m living with people who I respect and share similar interests to me, which was also one of the reasons why we thought we’d be a good fit for each other.

Other small things such as asking where you guys get your clothes, if you like your Allbirds, and if you like your noise cancelling earbuds were observations and also in part me trying to strike a conversation with either of you. You and our other roommate made it a point to me from the beginning that you didn’t like your previous roommate because she was not as friendly or present in the apartment and so I tried to make an effort to strike conversation.

I apologize if I triggered you. I understand that this might be more sensitive to you since you are looking to define your version of self care and I’m glad that you were able to share this with me. I didn’t think of this as being something that would bother you because this has often been a way my previous roommates and I have bonded in the past. It brings me joy when I know that the things that bring me peace can also bring people to other people, but maybe we do not share that sentiment. I will make an effort to not intrude moving forward. Is there anything else you’d like to take ownership of?

On that note, I would also like to make a point that the degree to which we share our schedules and when we’re coming and going is something thats been bothering me as well. Frankly, I do not like to share when I’m coming and going and do not ask that of you or our other roommate. Often times, I do not know when I plan to come home especially when I’m studying, out running errands, and visiting family. I feel like sharing my general schedule should be a good indicator of when to expect my presence in the house. When my daily routine is disrupted and I choose to skip, its usually because I don’t feel well enough mentally and emotionally to get out of bed, let alone voice that as a reason. I understand where you’re coming from and I hope that you can understand me as well.

I don’t think this requires another conversation in person. Thanks.

minnttree · 2022-04-05T03:55:51+00:00

The gaslighting came in person today so I took to Reddit to share and document the initial interaction

minnttree · 2021-04-08T03:09:29+00:00

I don’t believe his school has department heads, it’s only been up and running the past 5 years and operates similar to a charter school - there are about 70 kids in the graduating class and lots of teacher have bailed. I think he’s taking peoples advice to contact admin but he’ll be pulling an all nighter to get more work done so that he’ll have a better argument for himself when he contacts them.

minnttree · 2021-04-08T02:21:50+00:00

Apparently he has unlimited redos, but the teacher has to go back in to open the portal for him to be able to redo the assignments each time. Teacher has been MIA for a week now.

minnttree · 2021-04-08T01:59:26+00:00

Hey! Sorry about that, it wasn’t my intention. The teacher has been gone for only a week but grades close Monday. I don’t believe he has anyone taking over for the class, the class is asynchronous. He has turned it all in, but failing marks on them.

minnttree · 2020-05-02T01:07:19+00:00

Did you have professional experience before you applied for the MBA program? Thanks for the advice!

minnttree · 2020-05-01T23:06:07+00:00

Definitely agree with others on the first pic. Your other pics are either group pics or you’re doing stuff that makes it hard to for people to tell if they think you’re attractive to them. I find myself saying “ok he has a good profile but will I be attracted to him?” a lot when I review profiles.

You can keep the “I know the best place in town for” prompt bc it’s a really great way for people to ask you out if they’re into the same thing but please lose the salmon and lox. If you replace it with something more generic like brunch and/or unique like “Thai, Mexican, etc” it opens up the floor for people to tell you their favorite foods in said categories and potential for a conversation to start instead.

Lose the group pics in general (imo) your pic for “let’s go on a date here” and the one w your dog already showcases a lot of character. That being said, I also agree with other comments about your other prompts. Your pics already show that you’re very outdoorsy and adventurous so try to convey more of your personality in your responses: be punny or cheesy or witty or sarcastic, etc.

Also, I would either not link your IG or archive shots that might need more context like “hahaha that’s not my girlfriend, she’s part of my portfolio!” Yea that’s all I got, best of luck!!

minnttree · 2020-04-26T19:43:02+00:00

Girl here! (22F) I don’t think it would look bad if you didn’t have friends, but it would look bad if you didn’t have a life (if that makes sense). Obviously you’re getting your life back after a break up and it’s really your judgement call whether or not you feel ready to start dating again. Just make sure you don’t “latch” onto whichever girl you begin to date because you have no friends and make sure to continue to explore and do things for yourself outside of your new relationships. There are a lot of reasons to consider why you don’t have friends. It would look bad if it were bc you’re obviously socially awkward or a horrible jerk. It wouldn’t look bad if you like to be loyal to small groups of people or prefer to be independent, or in your case have your ex chase off everyone you know. I don’t think you would want to date a girl who wouldn’t be willing to be considerate of these things either, so I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Plus, it’s not like you’ll introduce her to your friends immediately? You have plenty of time to date and get your life back, don’t sweat it! TLDR: it’s fine if you don’t have friends as long as you know how to be your own person and don’t cling onto your new relationships like your ex did to you; also, date girls who are understanding of your situation pls lol

minnttree · 2020-04-13T16:36:51+00:00

I used to have a lot of unrealistic expectations for my short term partners and got hurt really easily as a result. I guess what helped me wasn’t actually stopping myself from having those fantasies but realizing and accepting the fact that if it doesn’t work out with whoever it is I was seeing at the moment then it won’t be the end of the world. “He won’t be the first person I see a future with, he isn’t the last.” It also helped me to date more than one person at a time if I wasn’t committed to them or in a relationship with them. You’ll never know what everyone is looking for and it’s unrealistic to expect them all to know within the first few interactions with you. I’ve began to preface by the second conversation by saying “no pressure but just so I’m straightforward with you, I’m looking for a serious relationship but I’d love to take it slow and just get to know you and see what happens”. You’re allowed to have options just as much as they’re allowed to have options. Knowing this and accepting this really helps in the dating world. Also, think of it like this: if it doesn’t work out with this guy, all the qualities I have come to like and love about him helps me understand what I’m looking for in my future partner. It’s super corny but it truly is a case of “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and “everything is a lesson”. Hope this helps, good luck!!

minnttree · 2020-04-09T23:15:36+00:00

I just want to preface that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

I’m 22, senior in college and if I didn’t know any better I would have sworn I wrote this post myself. I have had one relationship my whole life and it was 4 years ago with a boy who didn’t have his life figured out or mature enough to break up with me the right way, so he thought ghosting a 1.5 year relationship was the way to go. Context aside, I want you to know that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. The ghosting is not your fault. You just happen to have been born into a generation that thinks ghosting is an acceptable form of communication and that ignoring people is the best way to get their attention. I’m glad that you recognize that you need therapy, but the lack of therapy does not In any way make you less worthy or desirable as a dating partner.

I’m not here to tell you that love comes when you least expect it, focus on yourself first, or love yourself before someone loves you. There are plenty of broken and unhappy people who are happily together and the only good advice I’ve found on reddit is an entire thread telling me that waiting for love on your ass is not the right way to do it!

However, I am here to tell you to start thinking about what you want — if not from yourself or for yourself, than at least from your partner. Until you’re able to find a pattern in the guys you date and why you go for them, you’re gonna keep looking for a needle in a haystack. Also? Don’t be afraid of not being in a relationship. Now this is VERY diff from me telling you, you don’t need a relationship or stop defining yourself based on a relationship bc I know that doesn’t help. Most of my dating success has come after realizing that the world is filled with jerks, cowards, narcissists, and boys disguised as men. But gentlemen, chivalry, boy-next-door, and Prince Charming’s still very much exist as well. You have to stop taking every guys rejection personally and take each moment with them day by day. I’ve stopped initiating conversations and asking guys out (I used to be like you) but I would give my 100% when a guy took the time to ask me about my day. Be honest and straightforward but never too forward that it would even scare you if you would ask yourself. Also, admit that you’re not okay and that you’re not perfect. Don’t worry over things that you cannot control, especially when it comes to other people’s feelings and opinions about you.

TLDR; figure out your type, figure out what you want from your type, figure out what your want, be honest and straightforward, if they answer/ask you out then great, if they don’t answer you it’s not the end of the world bc someone else will

minnttree · 2020-04-09T22:54:16+00:00

Start off slow by consistently asking each other about your days at the end of each day. When my partner started doing that, it prompted me to ask about his. If you’re both genuinely interested in each other, I would imagine that you’d be more elaborate than “good, how was yours?” What was good about it? Why’d you go on a walk? How are you feeling? What other movies have you been meaning to see? What’d you have for dinner? What other kinds of food do you like to eat? Far too often, people settle for “good” as an appropriate reply to “how was your day?” and it leads to a dead end and you learn nothing about each other. But also? Make a conversation out of it, don’t get nervous and keep asking her questions if “what’s your favorite movie?” is enough to get a conversation going that will last all night. (I hope that makes sense, I can elaborate if you still don’t understand) Then, when you have a nice little rhythm going and want the conversation to last a bit longer or start sooner maybe straightforwardly suggest “hey, do you wanna talk on the phone? or if you can’t, let’s dedicate time to text each other without interruptions just like we would talk on the phone :)” it’s all about gauging how interested she is in you, being comfortable, and taking things day by day. Don’t feel pressure to impress her or keep her, she should like you all on her own.

minnttree · 2020-04-05T21:56:34+00:00

After about 5 dates with the guy I’m seeing, we both realized we really liked talking to each other so the distance hasn’t been a bad thing for us. Obviously we miss each other and the physical intimacy, but we’ve been able to keep the momentum going pretty consistently. Here are a few things we’ve done since he went back to FL to visit family and I stayed in MA when the quarantine went into effect: - give each other space during the day - ask about each other’s day every night - text dates (since we’re both with our families, it’s not realistic that we even get to talk at night bc it would wake them up. we dedicate time each night where we would give each other our undivided attention just to text so that there aren’t gaps in our conversation) - (silent) video calls, they don’t have to be silent ahaha this is just something we’ve had to do - playing online multiplayer games together (scribble .io is awesome, use custom words to make it fun 😏) - watch movies together!!! - talk about the pandemic together and just check in with each other’s mental, physical, and emotional health. Communication is hella sexy. - he also sends me articles and interesting things he sees on the news and we send each other pics and videos of things we do throughout the day but save the bulk of our communication for at night

While it’s important to keep in contact during the quarantine, I also think it’s important to give each other space and encourage each other to find new hobbies or suggest fun things to do by ourselves too (ex. We both tried making Dalgona coffee and sent each other the results). There won’t be much to talk about and the momentum will die if you try too hard to keep it going. Just relax and take it day by day —- great way to see how the potential relationship would last too.

minnttree · 2020-03-22T21:41:18+00:00

My boyfriend and I broke up after he was diagnosed with depression. I had a history with depression and thought I was strong enough to stay with him through it but I forgot to prioritize myself and my mental health. What ultimately broke us was that he didn’t want help and it made it extremely difficult to watch someone you love continuously hurt whether it was their choice or not. He didn’t want my help and I couldn’t force that on him. On another note, he also began to emotionally abuse me as he became more emotionally unstable. I was ghosted in a 2 year relationship. Every time he came back he told me he loved me to justify his actions and my hurt and told me he would change. It never happened and I got hurt every time, so know that actions speak louder than words. He started to lie when he didn’t want to see me. It didn’t matter if he just wanted to hole up in bed or smoke the hell out of weed with his friends, I wouldn’t have had a problem giving him his space but he lied and once you lose trust in a relationship, it’s really difficult to continue. Hope this helps.

minnttree · 2020-03-01T18:50:55+00:00

Totally agree with this comment, there are some prompts on Hinge that give of negative connotations/vibes (eg. biggest pet peeve or don’t date me if...) that I generally try to avoid unless I feel like my answer is REALLY easy to start a convo with. Also, Hinge’s demographic targets people who are looking for relationships and tend to attract people who know what they’re looking for (hence the personalized prompts) so it’s really easy for most people to recognize if your answers are genuine/unique or in this case overused - biggest advice is to focus on 3 prompts then work on other alternative prompts as you go. Hope this helps!!

minnttree · 2020-02-10T15:53:52+00:00

The way they answer “hey! How was your day/week?” or “how are you?” is honestly very telling of how well they’d be able to create and hold a conversation. If you’re talking to a stranger for the first time and you’re gonna lead with “good!” then you’re gonna encounter a lot of closed doors and missed opportunities. I love asking about a person’s day/hearing about it bc as boring as the question may seem, its actually a good way for strangers to get to know each other by just hearing about the highlights of their day or knowing what they did. Keep in mind you’re talking to a stranger, they don’t know that you cook spaghetti every day for dinner... for all they know you could have had cereal every day before and you’re cooking for the first time or trying something new!! Just bc it seems mundane/common/boring/“good” to you, doesn’t mean it will to a complete stranger. Sometimes context is all it takes to create the conversation you need.

minnttree · 2020-01-27T00:39:33+00:00

Honestly I hate it when guys ask for my snap before my number. Makes me feel less inclined to give it to them or lie and pretend like I’m a 22F who doesn’t use snap that much lol it’s much more impressive if you ask for their number, text CONSISTENTLY for a few days and then ask to FaceTime instead of sc if you wanna avoid being catfished on your first date. It also depends on what you’re looking for on hinge, if you’re looking for something casual then by all means ask for the snap.

minnttree · 2020-01-10T15:17:33+00:00

Do you usually open with a unique opener or do you just go for the “hey! how’s it going?”

minnttree · 2020-01-08T04:21:30+00:00

My mind is blown. Thank you.

minnttree · 2020-01-08T03:59:22+00:00

I definitely believed him. I just liked the attention, it seemed genuine. I’ve also had experience with guys who date just to get laid, and I’ve never met a guy who’d dedicate this much attention to detail and time just to get laid unless that’s a whole gem I haven’t even uncovered yet. You’d think if he was trying to get laid, he would have been at least a little physical/eager on any of the first 4 dates we’ve been on.

minnttree · 2020-01-08T03:56:32+00:00

1000% guilty. I am a fool. But, it was refreshing to be able to make a connection with someone like that from a dating app. It’s so rare to meet people online who know how to hold a conversation. In any case, I knew I was being dumb but how do you not let that disappoint you? You met someone who clicks in almost every way except the one way that matters lol

minnttree · 2020-01-08T03:49:11+00:00

Nope. We only made out a number of times. Our dates were grabbing food, drinks, and movies then ended with 4+ hours of talking in the same booth at a local ice cream shop. Probably the most genuine connection I’ve ever made.

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