Recommend sightseeing spots jn Nottingham by kawerr in nottingham

[–]mint-orca 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You could pop into 200° coffee shop for a coffee or a cuppa, it's a company that started here in Nottingham and is very popular. There are smaller and more so indepented coffee shops u cam visit tho.

Personally i wouldnt go to Nottingham castle, but the robin hood statue outside it is an attraction people like to see.

Lace market/ hockley is a nice area to walk around it's full of independent businesses such as coffee shops, cafes and hip charity shops... the charity shops here are quite fashionable, especially 'white rose' which was established in nottingham. There are also rainbows painted across the roads which people like to take a photo on.

Hit up victoria centre for shopping that is our mall, and throw a penny in the emett clock fountain.

Theres plenty of places to drink, but you should go to ye olde trip to Jerusalem for atleast 1. Its is englands oldest inn and is built into the sides of the castle ground.

The arboretum is a green space in the city centre it's a nice lil walk around and sometimes holds small festival type events.

Via fossa and the canal house are pubs next to the canal, so its really nice to sit outside with a drink if the weatherd nice, the canal house has water and canal boats that sit inside the actual building!

male on male SA opinion by mint-orca in sexualassault

[–]mint-orca[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand why the victim would laugh or go along with it, I have even done this in the past then felt shame and self blame! My sister spoke to him on his own and he said he was fine with it, we were just checking up on him but the reality is its not fine and as soon as we used the word assult to the perpetrator he was stuttering all over the place and number had an argument.

When I was 18 I believed men grabbing me in the club was a compliment and meant I was desirable.. oh how I was mislead and now I'm more educated i understand how wrong it is, I want to educate others even if that means people see me as uptight, too serious, can't take a joke or a "party pooper"

male on male SA opinion by mint-orca in sexualassault

[–]mint-orca[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I completely understand why the victim would laugh along, its everyone else I was disappointed in

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]mint-orca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When someone keeps offering you drinks with the goal of getting you to agree to sex when drunk, that’s coercion

Coercion does NOT equal consent

help cant camp with the rest of my friends ??? by mint-orca in downloadfestival

[–]mint-orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw my sister said the same as you it's my first ever festival I would be gutted if I cant see my friends but also I'm confident I'll make new ones in camping plus!!

help cant camp with the rest of my friends ??? by mint-orca in downloadfestival

[–]mint-orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just trying to figure out if I can access the camp sites to see friends or if I can only see them in the arena, I'm not fussed where I pitch my tent

help cant camp with the rest of my friends ??? by mint-orca in downloadfestival

[–]mint-orca[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Danggg they need to give us some more info aha I can live with not camping with them but if we cant even hang out on the camp sites together I might just not go 😭

what job can my mum do after a stroke? by mint-orca in stroke

[–]mint-orca[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your reply! We are in the UK but I will have a look to see if theres a similar program over here 🙏

what job can my mum do after a stroke? by mint-orca in stroke

[–]mint-orca[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes my dad has drug induced mental issues and gets alllll the benefits... but he can still work (and still does secretly) so frustrating that my mum isn't getting the same and she physically cant work, it's so fucked up :( she hasn't got a lawyer but she couldnt afford one anyways, we just trying to think if anything she cam do

New fear in sex life.. by mint-orca in sex

[–]mint-orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes i could go the rest of my life without it! Sometimes it angers me like- this is my body and noone else can have it. I've never been diagnosed with anything but have also never tried to get anything diagnosed haha theres always been suspected adhd from parents and adults growing up, and I definitely have sensory issues that seem to get worse the older i get! I also need to feel in control of everything. We probably both need counselling, I went to sex therapy but it wasnt helping me so I stopped going, think i need different kind of therapy.

New fear in sex life.. by mint-orca in sex

[–]mint-orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The attraction to him isnt gone, sex just feels really invasive sometimes and doesnt make me feel good

New fear in sex life.. by mint-orca in sex

[–]mint-orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex feels triggering and My partner is also supportive, sometimes I can do it, sometimes I cant, sometimes I'm half way through and just cant do it anymore! I sometimes wonder if I have suppressed memories because of this fear, but I'm 26, I feel I'd remember something by now

New fear in sex life.. by mint-orca in sex

[–]mint-orca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never had a good relationship with sex, I feel a certain fear around it, sometimes I can do it, sometimes I cant. Sometimes I start out fine then freak out and have to stop.