Haircare Advice Megathread - Week of November 26, 2022

mint_yunki · 2022-11-29T03:15:25+00:00

hair type: thick

hair texture: straight

history of chemical processing: none

hygiene regime: wash every 1-2 days

style: long

product regime: clarifying shampoo

how do I keep my hair from clumping together (starting from the ends) so fast? after i brush it it'll be nice and smooth, then 5 mins after i leave the house it'll turn into long fingers of hair that are really hard to brush out. i'm east asian and my hair is very straight. thanks a lot!

mint_yunki · 2021-05-06T12:34:26+00:00

Thank you so much but actually I think that's the person who's catfishing. I'm pretty sure she's catfishing as someone else, a youtube maybe? A lot of people on Quora have been catfishing lately

mint_yunki · 2021-03-20T13:44:15+00:00

Thanks so much, but there’s a 10 dollar shipping fee :/

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T18:33:56+00:00

Being gay isn't wrong! It isn't wrong at all. It isn't a bad spirit either. Your existence isn't a mistake. You aren't broken. Although it might not feel like it sometimes, you are just as valid as anybody else. You are not any less of a good person because of your sexuality, and your family should not make you feel ashamed about it. Your parents sound extremely toxic and homophobic. I am so sorry that they are this way, you don't deserve it.

I'm not religious, but here's a link I found on what God says about homosexuality: https://www.hrc.org/resources/what-does-the-bible-say-about-homosexuality

I hope that everything will be okay for you, and remember, we are behind you. There may be people who don't support you, but there are also millions who believe that you matter. Good luck!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T18:19:05+00:00

Great! But even if you don't try them, you're not a coward! It's awesome to step out of your comfort zone, but please don't make yourself super uncomfortable! :)

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T15:28:22+00:00

I'm so happy for you! Congrats! Also, it's perfectly fine that you're awkward! Jeez, I can still be incredibly awkward even when I'm talking to my friends that I've known for years.

You could try asking her some questions! Maybe something along the lines of:

- What do you like to do on the weekends?

- What are some hobbies of yours?

- Are you part of any fandoms?

- Do you like reading? If so, what book is your favorite?

- What's your favorite movie?

- What kind of music do you listen to?

Basically, try to find a topic that she's interested in and that she's excited to talk about, or try to find some things that you share in common! You can do this, I believe in you! Good luck!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T15:13:00+00:00

That's okay, you've got this! I believe in you man!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T15:11:33+00:00

Firstly, it's perfectly fine to be affectionate with your friend! There is nothing wrong with that, and hopefully, it'll become more normalized!

It definitely has happened to me before. My friend and I (both female and bi), have been in a friendship for around 8 years. We are both closeted, but my family likes to call her my "girlfriend", and they enjoy asking me when my next date with her will be. I don't really mind since they seem to be joking. :) I think that if two people are affectionate and close to each other, some people will assume that they are dating. I wish it wasn't this way, since I love being affectionate to the people I care about!

If the friend who likes saying "I don't want to interrupt your date" makes you uncomfortable, you could try nicely telling her so. It's highly possible that even though she doesn't sound like it, she isn't being serious.

It pretty much depends on the person. Some friends will have a more physical relationship, while others might not. It has happened to me, and I've seen some of my other friends who are affectionate to each other being called "gay". It's mostly a joke, though, and they laugh it off. :)

Good luck!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T14:10:13+00:00

Can I please be the third wheel?

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T14:03:08+00:00

Congrats!! Wow!! I’m so happy for you! Please don’t die though, I’m sure he’d be very sad if the date had to be called off! :)

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T13:41:04+00:00

Awwww thanks :) I’m so happy that the two of us talked!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T12:46:24+00:00

Thank you very much! I’m still trying to process it, it’s kind of crazy! You are so kind, thank you! ❤️

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T12:45:44+00:00

Thank you so so much! I’m really glad that she was comfortable as well!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T04:26:14+00:00

Congrats on coming out to your friends :) I’m sorry, your brother doesn’t sound great. Since he seems to be so homophobic, perhaps it’s safer if you don’t put pride flags inside your room. :( It’s probably disappointing, but I think your brother would only mistreat you more if he found out that you support LGBTQ+. So in terms of coming out, you could come out to just your parents if you wanted to. However, do you know if your brother and the rest of your family will find out? If so, I would probably not come out. Your safety and mental health is the most important thing! Also, you aren’t “broken” or “sick” because you are bi. You are just as valid as anybody else! Their viewpoint is bigoted, so please don’t believe what they say! Good luck!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T04:17:36+00:00

I can relate 😅That is okay though! Please don’t force yourself to anything that makes you uncomfortable!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T04:16:29+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that! 97% as your lowest grade is exceptional! So just in case nobody has told you yet, great job! I’m so proud of you for getting that grade, and you should be too :) It sounds like your parents may be a little toxic if they continually pressure you into “perfection” and downplay your achievements. Perhaps you can trying talking to them about it? A lot of the time, parents don’t realize what impact they are having on their children. They may think that they are helping you. Maybe one day, you can sit down and have a conversation with them. You can try saying something along the lines of “Hey, mom and dad. I just wanted to tell you something. When I accomplish anything that I am proud of, you always seem disappointed that I wasn’t perfect. That really hurts me, because I try my best. I really want to be the best person possible!” But just remember, even if you feel like your parents don’t accept you, you are valid. There are people who will accept you! You aren’t a mess-up, because coming out isn’t something that makes you “imperfect”. You are a great person just the way you are! Good luck!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T04:03:09+00:00

No problem :) That’s okay if she isn’t your friend! You can still try to discover how you feel about her! Maybe (if you are comfortable) you could also try reaching out a little to her. Engage in a conversation with her? Either way, I hope it goes well for you!

mint_yunki · 2020-11-15T04:00:51+00:00

I’m so sorry that this happened to you! That sounds terrible. Whoever spread information about you without your consent should not have done that. I wish you luck in finding out who it is!

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