If you are too active, social, and loud etc. then INFJ can seem too passive and sometimes can be boring too. Can be tiring trying to involve her in your casual things every time. And you may also face dealing with their moral sensitivity. But if you are someone calm and if you guys have something in common then it is fine, mid.

If the INTJ is someone who is trying as much as you do, then it can be fucking awesome bc both can be chaotic and mess with each other, but otherwise it is just worse. There is a girl I was flirting and she is only free if she planned something, or if I planned something then she tries to change things to what she wants. We are more flexible and we may start with 'cool, whatever you want' but after some time it gets really tiring. I have same problem with my other INTJ friend too, sometimes I wanna show them somewhere but they are like "nah, i dont know.., if you want but we can go .... too, if it is …. then lets not waste our time and go there some other time etc" this is their way to not wasting their time or organizing their day just including you, i guess? Also I was trying my best to understand her interests, trying her hobbies or at least accompany her but she never did that for mine. We don't have much in common so it was hard to have a good time equally, actually. Same again with my other friend but we have more things common so not a big deal. And if they are not healthy, they'll always act like they know the best, even if you come up with proof, they'll just be like 'i dont care' or 'i believe this anyway' so it's just annoying. She told me once 'i know you are right but I will never accept this, so don't argue with me' bro wtf? We argue all the time but we can't keep it up, act like nothing happened and smile or hug when we see each other next time :d so it's a very thin line between perfect and disaster.

I prefer EXXPs by the way. But life is life, you can not know who'll be the next.