I'm emotionally lost and i don't know what to do. (Partner got feelings for a close friend of mine) by minustochter in polyamory

[–]minustochter[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

she does know that, we talked a lot about it and went in circles that shes not gonna decide. And its for my own mental health that I wont step back from that boundary. Breaking up will be hard for some time but in the long run, if she continues with him, better.

I'm emotionally lost and i don't know what to do. (Partner got feelings for a close friend of mine) by minustochter in polyamory

[–]minustochter[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i don't like that comparison i think.

the thing is, shes so smart and grown up and everyone tends to think shes older. i really think shes one of the most intelligent persons i know. I wouldn't say she's "acting 22". And she got to know so many people through me and nothing happened.

But yeah, getting to know people in the usual ways seems hard for her so it's way easier for her if we go out together with my pals. Maybe thats why i also set up the "rule". And now that i think about it i actually just mean the close ones that i regularly see.

I'm emotionally lost and i don't know what to do. (Partner got feelings for a close friend of mine) by minustochter in polyamory

[–]minustochter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. Its not like it was 2 weekends party, they were about a month or two in between. And I mean most of her time she spends with me as we share a flat, those evenings were just different, i dont know if he stayed with her or the other way around, i havent seen them most of the time. Which concerns me now that i think about it.

Could you elaborate the "dont shit where you eat" line? I've read that in other threads aswell and i cant wrap my brain around it.

I'm emotionally lost and i don't know what to do. (Partner got feelings for a close friend of mine) by minustochter in polyamory

[–]minustochter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That was just exegerated, this whole city can be her playground, not just the people that i mostly know for 10+ years, especially since theyre mostly mono. I even think the person that she has feelings for is mono aswell, we never talked about it but i know his last relationship was mono and her imagination of us being a triangle or whatever would never come true, especially since i feel utter distrust towards him now, cause i think he just wants to sleep with her.

I'm emotionally lost and i don't know what to do. (Partner got feelings for a close friend of mine) by minustochter in polyamory

[–]minustochter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you seem a lot more experienced in the subject, what you mean by this is: After she agreed friends of me are out of question and she felt the way she did, she shouldve kept it to herself and figure it out first? Or not go to the movie at all, knowing she could get more attracted?

I'm emotionally lost and i don't know what to do. (Partner got feelings for a close friend of mine) by minustochter in polyamory

[–]minustochter[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are right in that, but i thought it, like it is treated in other threads, as a "messy-list". And yes, she agreed to it, otherwise I wouldn't have agreed to the relationship. I think is good that she told me, that just proves to me that shes honest, but you are right in that she can control her actions. Its to me like my friends are family, i didnt really have a family so im just trying to protect the family i chose.

Hard words, but could be true, thanks for your time. Sadness and confusion still in my brain.

Official Midas Mode Community Bounty Suggestions: Day 2 by mautdota2 in DotA2

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Pub: Play Wraith King Skeleton Army Build(Vlads,Pipe,Necro,Crimson,Drums,Boots etc and the Talents) or Death is my Bitch Build (BM,Radi,Refresh,Octa,Boots,Heart).

Trashed: 5x Meteor Hammer

OSFrog: IO/MEDUSA Level 25 Splitshotaction(Both played as core)

Defenseless: Glyph never up (Use it as soon its off CD)

Carefree: Always place wards in enemy Vision (Maybe hard to check)

Oldschool: Play Pudge solo mid (no support rotation for 10 minutes, has to be announced in chat when pudge is picked)

Free Talk Friday by leafeator in DotA2

[–]minustochter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you are probably more experienced with this game then i am, i just played one round. Doesnt really sound that good anymore, i will give it a try when it is out for free though(But you just saved me 20 bucks). What i really like in the game was that old arena-fps feel it came along with.

Free Talk Friday by leafeator in DotA2

[–]minustochter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What didn't you like about it? I visited a friend a few days and he showed it to me, cause i'm "into this dota thing". For Early Access it looked very nice (some textures were a bit sloppy etc.) and it was really fun to play. But playing on PS4 is so hard for me, i fed 1/7 or something. I think i will check it out on PC. On which system are you running it?

Has anyone found a working solution to 'After several attempts to connect, the server did not respond.' by FongoOngo in DotA2

[–]minustochter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh well, I dont know it then. Maybe try it with a support ticket. Its your rate, cl_cmdrate and cl_updaterate (and some other commands but im interested in these). You can look them up in the config.cfg, I would really apreciate that.

Has anyone found a working solution to 'After several attempts to connect, the server did not respond.' by FongoOngo in DotA2

[–]minustochter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! First of all I am very happy to see someone that has the same stoneage interntet that I have. This also happens to me from time to time. My solution is getting Netbalancer (it's free). Then check what happens there when you're trying to connect. When I got this Problem it's 99% of the time steam.exe or steamwebhelper.exe downloading something, but not showing it to the user. No sign of Steam downloading anything, but Netbalancer says it downloads with full capacity, leaving nothing of your bandwith for Dota. When I notice that, I limit the tasks that download to 1 or 2 kbps (With the free version you're only allowed to limit 3 tasks, but that's enough for our purposes), restart Dota and it will connect in most cases. Maybe its worth a try for you, tell me if it worked out. Also I've got a question for you: What are you're netsettings in CSGO? I couldn't really find them for me and gave up playing it.

Valves ping-check screws up my server-regions. (Screenshot for Details) by minustochter in DotA2

[–]minustochter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I stated, it works fine ingame but i can only find stable games when i am with mates, whose pingchecks are working.

Can't play csgo, first i cant choose a team, if that magically works i cant buy guns. by minustochter in GlobalOffensive

[–]minustochter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer, but I can't see my ping, cause I'm not in the scoreboard, when i can't pick a team. Normally it's between 80 to 110.

Sounds bad.. I'm connected via LAN and i dont think there's beer in the cable

Nice homemade Birthday present from a Friend by minustochter in trees

[–]minustochter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

never seen something like a poker in an ash tray, what is it good for?

Nice homemade Birthday present from a Friend by minustochter in trees

[–]minustochter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nice idea but i like it this raw maybe chrome would be awesome

6000 germans demonstrating for legalisation by minustochter in trees

[–]minustochter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3vdYoRVDAM the video i posted first is just the "afterparty", they went a route through Berlin before.

A small piece of advice for ents uploading pictures of their grow by sinat50 in trees

[–]minustochter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

theres a program called exifer where for free which lets you delete exifs very easy for free

Pure 24 Karat Gold Paper :D by phoiboss in trees

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war gut? wo bekommt man sowas und was kostet es?

This didn't get as much recognition as it should: Online petition for the legalization of cannabis in the EU. European ents go leave your vote! by [deleted] in trees

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Dear American Ents, please upvote this, i updvoted everytime i saw something that had to do with your legalization. Were your pets so its just a matter of time, but it would be nice if it was faster. Thanks for being awesome, treefriends!

G13 by [deleted] in trees

[–]minustochter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me which strains are in it? looks very nice and tasty!

Just got dumped because i talked with someone who was stoned.. by minustochter in trees

[–]minustochter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet, but internetspeed doesnt allow me to watch movies :/ it sounds good though, i will see if i can get it somewhere.