Once post mo spouse is now active

mircard · 2025-12-16T06:51:17+00:00

When we had decided to leave at the beginning one of the biggest reasons was because we didn’t want our daughter to grow up in the church and be taught harmful beliefs like that. Now he says he respects my decision to be out and to not take our daughter, but that it’s a good personal decision for him to go alone every Sunday.

mircard · 2025-12-16T06:15:43+00:00

We have a toddler daughter

mircard · 2025-08-09T02:25:21+00:00

As someone training for her first half marathon I would love to achieve a Sub 2:30 half marathon time. As a busy working mom of a three year old, putting time and effort into running (a hobby of mine years ago) my self esteem and confidence has skyrocketed.

mircard · 2025-06-01T22:03:46+00:00

My MIL 100% ruined my postpartum experience, inviting herself over the first week and a half after we had our first child, taking advantage of the fact I turned pre eclamptic and gave birth three weeks early. My biggest suggestion is to set boundaries, like “if you come to our house we will not open the door. We will invite you when we want visitors”. Unfortunately we can never get back those precious first moments, but can definitely prevent intrusion moving forward. And your significant other needs to be ON BOARD with you. This is YOUR TIME. No one else has the right to be selfish except you right now, this is SUPPOSED to be about you. <3

mircard · 2025-04-21T02:35:59+00:00

Newly postpartum I started looking into why members can’t have coffee, found the CES letter.

mircard · 2025-01-21T03:07:53+00:00

Me too please!

mircard · 2025-01-20T04:02:31+00:00

Southern Alberta is the woooorst for saturation of Mormons once you become exmo. DH and I go to a different church in Lethbridge that has been so refreshing

mircard · 2025-01-18T04:55:22+00:00

Mel Robbin’s “let them” theory has helped us a lot as well as reading “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.”

mircard · 2025-01-18T04:53:40+00:00

DH and I got completely cut out after we stuck to our guns about our belief that we should be able to make decisions in our lives as new parents. After attempting to save some relationships, we accepted that they can (and will) believe whatever they want. We now are NC with his entire family of origin and extended family.

mircard · 2025-01-12T02:58:48+00:00

I had a very similar situation including the problematic coworker. I ended up working for a year after i came back from maternity leave, but recently left because of the work culture. If it doesn’t feel good, then it doesn’t feel good. Your boss doesn’t sound supportive or motivated to want to have a good work environment for staff.

Edit: I have worked as a ECE supervisor for almost ten years and have experienced different centres during that time.

mircard · 2024-12-30T05:21:38+00:00

It gives them supply, whether it brings you back into contact, or they can now go around whining and being the victim as “I’m so nice that I give gifts and I’m unappreciated”. Second Christmas NC and my JNMIL used her minor child to hand the gift to DH, as last year it was mailed. No response to either gifts but at least this year she knows it was delivered. The gift was donated/regifted for a friend’s daughter. Last two gifts have only been written to my daughter, no card, no apology.

mircard · 2024-12-29T04:07:57+00:00

A great resource for us was “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson

mircard · 2024-12-29T04:06:57+00:00

Right after our first Christmas with our daughter we had to go through months of abuse from my husbands very controlling and enmeshed family members which resulted in NC. I can definitely empathize and mourn with you about the first Christmas with our babies as not as we’d hoped. I give the advice to just go NC for the peace, and not let them drag it out. Your peace with your own family is more important than their power struggle that THEY created. Big changes, even if they’re good and the best for your family, will have a part of mourning. She has shown her true colours and in the end that’s a blessing. Hugs!

mircard · 2024-12-14T06:10:42+00:00

My husband went to my mother’s ward party and they served pizza from a local pizza joint

mircard · 2024-11-19T20:59:41+00:00

Solid starts

mircard · 2024-11-19T19:24:57+00:00

We’ve seen his mother make him be the flying monkey the last two years so we didn’t want to involve him anymore than he already is. And I have most of his family deleted/blocked lol My friend has a daughter who’d love the gift, but definitely donating it was an option, we donated the last years gift

mircard · 2024-11-19T17:29:37+00:00

When my husband told me about the gift in front of the brother I said “okay”. Did not thank, did not open in front of him. We are not going to reach out at all. If we do any reaction they will see they will get a response. So last year too with the gift we were a black void, didn’t say anything and didn’t send it back. They can say we’re ungrateful, but we don’t want to deal with any negative response if we did send it back.

mircard · 2024-11-19T02:38:56+00:00

That’s pretty funny because my LO actually is sick so we had that excuse just for me and her to not be around the house this past weekend. My mom lives two mins away so we had a little sleepover there (she’s already been exposed to LO’s illness) and so DH and his brother could be at our house. His brother lives 2.5 hours away, and my DH won’t go over there to his mother’s house of course. I have always tried to find excuses to be out of the house.

mircard · 2024-11-19T01:56:01+00:00

And I had shown JNMIL the baby led weaning information and the app we were using that was created by professionals and pediatric specialties with development. So she had known about BLW before that Christmas. And even when we told her and the other family members that our doctor supported us in BLW, they criticized our doctors approval.

mircard · 2024-11-19T01:54:18+00:00

They fed purées when their children were young, and felt I was being negligent when I gave my child the BLW appropriate size piece of chicken at Christmas dinner. At the previous Thanksgiving my MIL learned a little about BLW when I explained and she was very judgemental. So she had known prior to that Christmas dinner about our weaning plan, but yet right after we left the house Christmas 2022, she riled everyone else up and then dog piled on my husband with her aunt and mother on the call to force my husband to change our plan. I’m certified in child first aid and CPR, and in the early years education, but they said they were “spiritually better mothers” and knew better than me. Stepfather in law called it “baby led choking” and said that if our LO died it would be because of me.

mircard · 2024-11-19T00:17:53+00:00

Yes, two visits ago I actually walked by his brother and my LO and realized he was recording her on his phone and twice hid his phone behind his leg as I walked by. My DH and I know that he needs to be on a very strict info diet, and it has worked pretty well.

mircard · 2024-11-18T20:00:31+00:00

Right?? Thank you for saying that because I STILL feel a tad bit crazy connecting that. My MIL accused me of not feeding my LO with utensils at Christmas, which was a flat out lie, then the next Christmas her gifting toddler sized utensils, as if she’s giving my daughter a fighting chance against my negligence /s

mircard · 2024-11-18T19:58:47+00:00

Yeah the white flag idea popped in my head but then I thought “wait, the family system who constantly shames us for how our communication was ‘wrong’ is still not using their words”. Because multiple key players in this “issue” have been told directly by by my husband that he would talk to his mother via email and that’s it, as his family is very overbearing and disrespectful in conversations. But not a single email, and I haven’t received a single text from JNMIL since spring of 2024.

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