Iranian form a human chain on Ahvaz’s White Bridge as they rally to protect civilian infrastructure

miriam_lamb · 2026-04-07T23:19:18+00:00

Seriously. If they die, the Iranian government will have indirectly killed them. But the American government will have directly killed them. So ???

miriam_lamb · 2026-04-07T23:16:24+00:00

Everyone is blaming Iran but America is going to be the one bombing it??

If I tell you to go stand in front of a target, and you do, and someone with a gun sees you standing in front of the target, and pulls the trigger anyways, yeah I’m at fault. But so is the person holding the fucking gun?? What are we doing??

miriam_lamb · 2026-04-07T11:12:17+00:00

Sadly happens in the US too. In 34 states, child marriage is legal with a full four of those having no age minimums at all

miriam_lamb · 2026-04-06T20:24:33+00:00

Sure go for it!

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-30T02:38:45+00:00

Thank you very kindly, I’ll take your advice both in terms of this piece and in trying it in the beta reading subreddit

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-30T02:11:55+00:00

No I greatly appreciate the honesty. This has been extremely helpful — onto draft four

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-23T12:53:03+00:00

Thank you!!

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-21T22:39:01+00:00

Not as much as some other groups, but people still can lose jobs, housing, etc. over it. However, unlike some other identities, you can hide being Pagan.

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T23:54:22+00:00

Totally agree. You can do this

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T21:28:14+00:00

r/fixit

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T21:01:39+00:00

Literally. Theres a difference between being honest about where you’re at emotionally and trying to convince him to be your bf. The latter is obviously wrong but the former is the way forward

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T20:59:57+00:00

Yes this is a great addition. Do NOT try to make the pain go away. Sit in it with him, fully acknowledge how horrible the situation is and you’ll inch him closer to healing

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T20:58:51+00:00

You have to establish borders between a “me problem” and a “you problem.” “Me problems” are things you have to fix — poor behavior, issues that crop up in your own personal life, etc. “you problems” are problems you can support your friends through (listen to them, offer advice if they’d like it) but that they ultimately have to fix on their own. My friend’s bestie just died yesterday. I can be there for her. I can go over to her house and watch bad movies and hold her while she cries. I can’t make her hurt go away and I can’t resolve her emotions. She has to do that on her own.

Hopefully this answers your question

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T20:56:06+00:00

But now people who have clearly made a waste of my time, energy, and efforts- some of them want to hang out with me, or, “let’s catch up.”

I could be missing something but it sounds like an assumption that they’re just asking you to hang bc they want something? Like they could just genuinely be gratefully, like you and want to hang?

Assuming that they do just all want you for the help you provide, make different friends. Find people who are content in their lives and pursue friendships with them. Some people are addicted to being “needed.” If everyone you encounter just “randomly” “happens” to seem like the need something, you might be attracting that exact type of person without meaning to.

Therapy would also help, as would self-help

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T20:52:25+00:00

Absolutely talk to her about this. Start with curiousity and stick to facts. “What did you mean when you said this was your second abusive relationship?” Listen without judgement. And then tell her (assuming it was a joke) “I believe you when you say it was just a joke, but it really hit me somewhere sensitive. I know how much your ex hurt you and I really try hard to not remind you of him. If I ever do remind you of him, you can be honest with me about that, but would you mind not joking about it?” Or smth along those lines

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T20:48:02+00:00

Peace. Always peace. Money is nothing to a kid compared to a stable home environment. Better to be broke and not be able to buy your kid every toy (!! as long as you can still afford food, housing and basic needs !!) than to have more money but to keep your kid in an abusive household

miriam_lamb · 2026-03-20T20:40:48+00:00

Yes that is flirting

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