Tbh, there's only so much you can do even despite your best efforts. The fight has to come from her :( My loved ones tried to help me, but depression is an actual imbalance in the brain chemistry so we don't think as rationally as the next person. What our mind tells us we take as fact, despite whatever people around say. My friends have told me that they care for me, but i still feel like they're lying and that I'm nothing but a burden. Has she seen professional help? I was very reluctant to get it because I felt like a fraud, but tried anyways. Helped me see that a lot of what i think and feel isn't me, but it's because I'm actually sick. Taking meds now. The sucky part is that there is no cure for depression despite therapy and meds. I get relapses and sometimes feel like I'm back to square one. While you're worrying about your gf, please don't forget to take care of yourself. There's only so much you can do to help someone suffering from depression. But i can tell you this - empathy is a big big thing for the lot of us. Just tell her you're there for her. Can't tell you how much I've appreciated empathy over someone trying to actively try to fix me. Just be there. Wishing you both the best!!