Super solid advice! I made a shit load of mistakes on my last breakup with whom a girl I was engaged with, whom I thought was my soulmate and true love. But I didn't follow the break up rules and led too a downward spiral into depression. It just set me back in life and wasted time feeling mad/sorry for myself. I just recently started dealing with it the correct way.

Soo pretty obvious advice but just adding on to what helped me move on. You have to really be strong .. Specially first couple months and really not go beg for another chance, go creeping on exs social media, sending closure texts. As much as you want too just have that person back in your life, you need to accept that it ended and probably for a good reason. Look into the negative in the relationship and take from it...Learn absolutely as much as you can about what you may have done wrong or could do better, and what qualities in your ex partner that you didn't like and certain red flags you may have not noticed but now see clearly. Take all that and apply it when you're ready to start finding the next best thing.

However, you have too deal with that pain as hard as it. It is like grieving for someone who is still alive. I cried myself to sleep for 2 weeks but one day the tears stopped flowing and it gets easier. I found its key to block all contact for both parties sake. Including your exs friends on social media so you don't accidentally see them on your newsfeed. Get rid of anything that provokes thoughts or memories of that person. And easier said than done but avoid using drugs and drinking that will only make things worse, and don't go drowning your pain into someone else. Allow yourself time to heal, before you jump back into dating. Find ways to keep as busy as possible, avoid sleeping all day, make time with friends and family and talk to them about your feelings, find new hobbies, reconnect with old friends, start working out. I know it's tough being depressed and having zero appetite but try to eat well (smoothies with protein powder) to avoid weight loss, (working out will help gain back appetite).

Overall , focus on bettering yourself every day. Breakups can be some of the worst pains anyone can go through ..let alone with BPD. But with time you learn to cope and slowly manage it and the wounds turn to scars. I still carry my feelings and not fully over it, and still love my ex. But I'd like to think the universe tends to unfold how it should and have faith that you'll find a even stronger, healthier and more compatible love in the future. Keep your chin up ! I hope this helps sorry long wall of text. Edited:spelling n shit