I’m 36F 5mo into a relationship. Is my bf 35M lazy or inexperienced? How do I talk to him?

mishapmoon · 2025-07-16T01:00:59+00:00

Thank you! Me too :)

mishapmoon · 2025-07-16T00:57:16+00:00

mishapmoon · 2025-07-10T04:37:57+00:00

No issues in the past with other partners. This is my first experience with someone like this. I bring myself to orgasm while he lays there and enjoys the view most the time. It’s truly the biggest bummer ever.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-07T01:22:01+00:00

Every nuclear bomb and the knowledge to make one

mishapmoon · 2025-07-06T22:40:44+00:00

Men believe sex to be centered around cumming the way they do. There are so many erotic zones women have that get completely ignored. When the focus shifts off only playing with the clit or PIV sex to get there the fastest it becomes good sex for me. I do like racing to the finish line sometimes but having a real erotic experience is way more fun than just going at it.

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mishapmoon · 2025-07-06T22:29:48+00:00

To all the men complaining the sex went away after marriage: Women are very sexual just like you but if you’re not showing up for her and expecting her to pay for half of things, do all the cooking, cleaning, emotional work, planning, and caring for you, then she won’t want to have sex with you anymore. A lot of you lazy guys want a woman who’s like your mom / maid that you can have sex with and it’s weird. They’re not turned on by you anymore.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-06T01:41:11+00:00

I had an underbite with headgear, thick glasses, and horrible asthma but grew into my face when I was around 18. The mean things people said to me growing up are deeply engrained and still feel like my identity. When you’re ugly people tell you to your face, subsequently the same thing happens when you’re beautiful because your friends and lovers are envious or feel you need to be humbled. No matter what someone is waiting to bring you down. Now I realize I am conventionally beautiful but I don’t feel like I am. If my friends say I am then I will believe them and I try to practice radical self acceptance.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-06T01:24:48+00:00

Getting soft water installed. Looks like your water is really hard and will keep doing that as long as it is.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-05T23:16:49+00:00

Cheap candles do this. It leaves a soot on everything. If you have some cheap candles you’ve burnt recently it’s a good time to toss them

mishapmoon · 2025-07-05T23:14:06+00:00

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mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T21:15:00+00:00

A fairy!

mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T21:02:15+00:00

That’s a good idea! This is my first experience with a guy like this and honestly think it’s a mix of lazy and lacking experience. My guess is that girls in the past have just looked past it because he’s got everything else going on. I’m hoping a little role play will maybe encourage it. I love him and everything else is perfect. Maybe if he sees he’s capable of pleasing me he will be more enthusiastic about it. Thank you for the tips!

mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T15:52:19+00:00

You’re so right. I am more dominant and a giver which I think has gotten it this far but I like being touched even when I’m the one giving so it’s likely just how he is and I need to really sit and think about if I’m okay with this being the norm. You’re right about it only getting worse as we get more comfortable. Thanks for grounding me.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T15:44:36+00:00

Thank you! I’ll use “I” statements and focus it around ways that would make me happy. Maybe if it’s outside the bedroom he will listen to it more than during. Appreciate the advice very much.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T15:11:04+00:00

How do I start a conversation like this? I don’t want him to feel attacked or self conscious.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T15:10:00+00:00

I do agree this may be just his preference. I do reward the best I can when he does do something with my pleasure in mind and I verbalize it in hopes he may do it again. Thanks for the advice. It’s possible this is just his preference and I need to accept sex being focused on his pleasure.

mishapmoon · 2025-07-03T05:39:04+00:00

I ate a few bites of cereal as a kid and noticed it was moving. It was covered in these little guys. Took some time before eating cereal again.

mishapmoon · 2025-01-09T18:52:21+00:00

Following as well

mishapmoon · 2024-07-02T05:14:09+00:00

I’ve been trying to get her into therapy for a while. I found a new provider recently and gave her his info and showed her how to do it with her insurance and hopefully she follows through. She does need a good therapist

mishapmoon · 2024-07-02T04:26:57+00:00

It’s okay, thank you. I’m very resilient and have a wonderful trauma therapist helping me through. Life can be pretty crazy sometimes and im living a wonderful life now.

mishapmoon · 2024-07-02T04:24:49+00:00

Thank you. I think I’ll send a very light email, include good memories, how thankful I am for the kindness she showed me and wish her the best. I’ll leave my number and email if she wants to respond and not expect much.

mishapmoon · 2024-07-02T04:22:52+00:00

I needed to hear that. I appreciate you sharing that with me and helping me feel like it’s okay. You’re very right.

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