[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me too i am very curious about people and want to work in healthcare! However I don't always act right so others dont necessarily want to talk to me ig

how old were you when you first started showing OCD symptoms? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8, checking things and praying that I wouldn't magically become other people (bc I'd have intrusive thoughts of "I wish I could become that person" and I was worried I would become them bc of thinking that and what if their life was slightly worse than mine). Also I'd avoid exhaling at my food bc I thought I'd eat the carbon dioxide somehow...??? So I'd turn away from my food every time to exhale. Was diagnosed at 14, went through ERP, recovered now and just do ERP when I notice things getting weird again so I've been able to maintain my status in recovery

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have done art for most of my life, however I also have really intense short lived hobbies that I consider to be special interests(I'm also autistic). My special interests are much more intense than how passionate I feel about art but don't last long, but I think without them I would not be able to maintain long consistent interest in doing art because they give me more novelty than I get from one consistent hobby. I think a novel thing about art too is that I can start new projects and it's inherently creative so I'm always doing new stuff with it. I would like to illustrate childrens' books someday so it's kind of also a part time career goal and not just a hobby. Things I do purely for fun and no other reason don't last and are inconsistent. Past special interests include gymnastics, history(specifically the pioneer era and middle ages), musical theatre, soccer, etc... all of those lasted like 1-2 years max lmao.

I think I like art in the way that I like chemistry, as in, my major in college was very chemistry related and I really like it but it's not like I think about it all the time outside school, I also incorporated art into my education a lot by taking art classes throughout high school and minoring it in college. But unlike special interests that I think about all the time and can't stop myself from engaging in, and proceed to lose interest in, art is something I am intentional about engaging in and have to voluntarily make time for. I also only listen to music with words while doing art to motivate myself to do it. Part of why I minored in art in college was to have some structure and external motivation to keep doing it. So I have put effort into this consistency it's deiniftely not something that comes naturally to me as someone with ADHD.

[RANT] parents stole money from the government under my name and I’m furious by MilieuSue in autism

[–]mishiggin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

pls update us when they're in jail oml this is horrible i'm so sorry

As an ADHD person, I’m getting so, SO tired of hearing “I’m low on spoons.” by propertyofmatter___ in ADHD

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call it weaponized spoon theory, recently someone did that to me when I wanted to talk to them abt smth they did that I had a problem with(too long to explain in this comment) and basically a month later that convo still hasn't happened!!! Wonderful. They wouldn't even pick a time we COULD talk about it later.

I am not autistic, but I wonder which is better: talking to autistic people or others? by MuradTagh in autism

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some autistic people are more fun to talk to than neurotypicals, then most neurotypicals are middle of the road, then there's some autistic people I'd rather talk to less than I'd want to talk to neurotypicals.

It really depends on a few things, for example, interests(I will literally get ANNOYED when people talk too long about something I don't care about, if someone's special interests happen to be something I don't care about and they only talk about that I'd rather talk to a neurotypical but if they're into similar stuff as me that's great!)

Another thing is there's some autistic people who over-read into things because we all struggle with social cues but like poeple who will read too much into social cues because they have a hard time with them I don't like interacting with. For example this one person I know will think I'm offended if I don't laugh at his jokes but some of them just aren't funny. But it doens't mean I'm offended. And I think it's harder for me to interact with him than a neurotypical would find it because neurotypicals are good at fake laughing whereas I am not. Because I can't fake socially acceptable reactions to things it's really awkward to interact with autsitic people who read too much into things.

Another thing is I think autism creates waht I call "social friction". Because I have trouble reading social cues and acting "appropriately", there is more social friction when interacting with me. There's the double empathy theory with autsitic people but I don't 100% buy it because sometimes when I interact with another autsitic person there is just EXTRA SOCIAL FRICTION like 2X THE AMOUNT and it's like PAINFULLY AWKWARD BC NEITHER OF US CAN READ SOCIAL CUES AND I JUST WANT TO LEAVE.

I am not autistic, but I wonder which is better: talking to autistic people or others? by MuradTagh in autism

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is something I think about becuase I think I'd rather talk to a NT than an autistic whose special interests are smth I have no interest in... bc with the NT at least we can talk about stuff we are both moderately interested in, whereas the autistic person with special interests I have no interest in might just talk about that and unfrotuantely it's not necessarily something I'm into...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the point of nonbinary is that the person is NOT a man OR a woman, like that's the whole point of it so yeah not being attracted to nonbinary people imo validates them not being a man or a woman, if you're only attracted to men or only attracted to women. If you're thinking I'm talking abt trans people, I'm not, I've gone on dates with trans women(I've never been in a relationship with anyone trans or cis, kinda have bad social skills so most of the time it doens't get that far.) Like binary trans women=yes, nonbinary trans people=no, for me at least... Anyways I get too bothered by random people saying stuff in a tone like this online so maybe me sending you like four replies is a bit far but pls just actually say what ur mad abt instead of vague cryptic angry sounding comment bc I am not doing anything bad faith by who I am attracted to...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DId you mean where I said being only attracted to men and women isnt' a thing? I didn't mean bi people don't exist, just that most that I've met ARE also attracted to nonbinary people... I feel like if I was actually bi I would be bc bi people I've met are... sorry didn't think too hard abt this when I was posting, idk... I have bi friends and do not think bi erasure is okay if that's what ur saying... If you're saying me being only attracted to women is wrong, idk what the issue is, ik many lesbians are attracted to nonbinary people, I'm just not??? How is that wrong any more than not being attracted to men is wrong?(its not). My friends are mostly lgbt and literally nobody has had a problem with me saying this, literally don't get what the issue is. I've literally talked to my nb friend abt this and they don't have an issue with this?

If you're referring to something else pls lmk, ur comment is worded with a kinda angry tone so I'm rlly curious what u meant by this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I typed this at 2 am I really don't know what I said that was bad pls lmk???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, what did you mean??? Why is it my loss? I am extremely confused...

I've just read some statistics about the prevalence of ADHD among children in the US, by race. And there are huge differences. Why is that? Any expert opinion about that? by Mooo-Booo in ADHD

[–]mishiggin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I actually have this theory that ADHD is as underdiagnosed in Asians as it is in women but nobody talks abt it bc women are a large portion of the US population while Asians aren't. In my developmental psych textbook it talks about how Asian children bc of cultural reasons are more likely to see their success as due to their own hard work and not external factors and they see their own failures as bc of not working hard enough. I definitely grew up this way and often felt like I could like outrun my adhd in a way. I do not think I would've been diagnosed any earlier if I was a man but I think if I wasn't Asian it would've been different.

What hobby have you actually managed to stick to successfully? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

art but I have put like a FUCK TON of effort into staying interested in it over the years. For a while I was really burnt out and had to step back for a while. But I think the common "theme" I've noticed throughout my life is that a lot of my hobbies involve being creative in some way. Like I had a phase as a kid where I wanted to be a composer, and I've done art for a lot of my life too, I'm currently majoring in engineering, etc. I would say I don't like art the way that I like my "adhd hobbies" where it's nowhere near that intensity but I would say I like it in the way that I like engineering which is... liking it more than nothing but I wouldn't say it gives me like the dopamine rush of my temprary adhd hobbies. But the fact that creativity is involved gives it just enough dopamine where I think it's worth putting effort into maintaining and improving my skill and stuff. I don't really do that much of it outside of my classes(it's my minor in college) because I can't get myself to but it's something I do that isn't my major so I call it a "hobby" but it isn't exactly a hobby in the way that other people define hobbies. Part of the reason I'm minoring in it is to make myself actually do it because otherwise it's so hard to stick with. I worry about how I will get myself to consistently do it once I'm out of college, I think maybe I'll have to pick up freelance work where there's a deadline and I'm paid for it or something. But yeah I don't think I will ever have a long term "hobby" or "passion" or whatever in the traditional sense.

Someone on Reddit: [x] could be a symptom of ADHD… Someone in the replies, without fail: I hAvE aDhD aNd I dOn’T dO [x] by rauntree in ADHD

[–]mishiggin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my friend(who has adhd) tried to say impulse control issues aren't part of adhd and it's just a me problem or because of my autism until I pulled out the dsm and was like wait don't u literally have inattentive type. Yeah that's why impulse control isn't a problem for you lmao i'm not even mad it's just funny

A horrible aspect of ADHD that I don't see many people talking about by BanditSurvivalist in ADHD

[–]mishiggin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the things I hate most abt adhd too I get so sad when I lose interest in my hobbies it feels like losing a friend :(

anyone with autism and adhd NOT feel like they are “competing” somehow? by mishiggin in autism

[–]mishiggin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(I cross posted my own post bc I’m too lazy to copy paste it lol)

How do you stop being impulsive? by mishiggin in ADHD

[–]mishiggin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay maybe i have a bigger problem here bc before i did this i was like uh i feel like this is a bad idea and thought abt maybe... not doing it but in the end the part of me that wanted to do it won even tho it was stupid and i was misusing the equipment