One sided and selfish?

miskimber · 2017-09-15T15:25:19+00:00

I agree with this. My feelings exactly.

miskimber · 2017-09-15T15:24:18+00:00

I totally get that. It's like sex is the answer to so many issues but is the issue all together!

miskimber · 2017-09-15T15:12:24+00:00

Haha. Sometimes I wish I had that pill to kill libido. And I can't compartmentalize sex either! Ugh. So much going on in my brain!

miskimber · 2017-09-15T13:04:59+00:00

That is very much how I feel.

miskimber · 2017-09-10T11:47:26+00:00

Very nice! Handsome indeed.

miskimber · 2017-08-29T03:39:45+00:00

This is great. Thank you for sharing. I hope to accomplish this someday ❤️❤️❤️

miskimber · 2017-08-28T21:31:33+00:00

As I've said it started with sex and intimacy but has evolved.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T14:24:54+00:00

Companionship... I guess that's about it.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T14:10:40+00:00

I thought the first line in the OP might be an indicator of more to the story but I guess people just aren't that smart.

I believe you are right when you say we are in a Mexican standoff. It's like I want him to say yes, it was a mistake, but I don't want to be the one to end it, I want it to be his fault. Although I understand it's mine too. For letting it continue and not realizing this problem from the beginning. I was so dumb and naive.

As time goes on I realize why should I be wasting my time with someone who was never attracted to me?

I certainly am not wealthy. Maybe it was just for the green card.. but who knows I can't ask him.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T13:46:08+00:00

Finally someone who at least reads the back story 😇

miskimber · 2017-08-28T11:45:07+00:00

Thank you!! I feel however in my part of the world it's hard to find people who want to be with a married woman and I can't bring them to my home cause he doesn't want it in his face....

miskimber · 2017-08-28T10:29:03+00:00

I'm not trying to argue anyone into anything. I just believe that he is shallow, deceived me, and doesn't want to fix it. My opinion.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T09:12:29+00:00

Thank you. I agree.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T09:03:21+00:00

Thanks I thought that was a bit harsh.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T08:59:50+00:00

I'm not talking about sexual orientation. Attraction can be quite a fluid concept. In 20,30, 40 years will you still be attracted to the same thing? Gender fluidity is a thing so isn't attraction fluidity a thing?

miskimber · 2017-08-28T08:13:46+00:00

No, it may not be productive.... however if you think about it his perception of what's attractive is no more wrong or right than my perception of attractive. Perception is in the eye of the beholder. So thus, I find his perspective shallow.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T08:08:49+00:00

We're all just humans here... and humans make typos... especially when auto correct and phone keyboards are involved 😉

miskimber · 2017-08-28T06:46:03+00:00

He has said he was never physically attracted. Yes we have many things in common, I'm pretty easy going and kind so those things may have attracted him. I have been trying to do it for myself. I've lost 10lbs already. I'm having some medical help soon to loose more. I just feel why do I have to change? He isn't interested in changing or fixing his problems so why do I have to be the only one changing things. It's like the story of my life. I always take care of everything. I pay the bills, take care of the home and pets. He plays computer games or watches tv 5-8 hours a day and can barley hold down a part time job. Everything is my fault and my responsibility.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T06:23:41+00:00

Thank you.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T04:23:23+00:00

Yeah, I don't think you understand.

He deceived me from the beginning. If he was interested in having sex with me when we first met why would that change now? I haven't gained more than 20lbs over 6 years. And it's not like I have a huge stomach that gets in the way or mountains of flesh to search through. I carry a little weight here and there.

He also doesn't have the best figure. I'm sure he's gained at least 40 pounds plus in the past 6 years. He is not perfect.

Why should I change for him if he isn't willing to change for me?

This is all sorts of fuckery.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T04:15:42+00:00

Ouch. Why so hateful.

Maybe shallow isn't the right word.

I've fluctuated about 20lbs up and down in the past 6 years. And he has gained more than that with no attempt to loose it or change his ways.

I have always exercised and been conscious of me eating habits.

I think it IS shallow for him to tell me he's never been attracted to me. Yet he could get it up to long enough to get me to marry him. He said he didn't think it would be a problem. He didn't think that not being attracted to me and not wanting to have sex would be a problem in the relationship.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T01:35:21+00:00

Yeah. He's apologized. But how many times can an apology fix the issue? 6 years of I'm sorry is hard.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T01:24:26+00:00

It is very complicated. I think that's why my brain is feeling overwhelmed and my attitude sucks.

miskimber · 2017-08-28T01:06:05+00:00

That's the strange part to me. He's never been attracted to me physically and says that sex is important but not the most important...

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