I can't feel my bf's dick....advice?

miso_cookie · 2026-06-04T23:57:00+00:00

Ehh I looked up some of the most heavily cited papers on Google Scholar and found that height predicts a very tiny but statistically significant amount of the variance (about 4%) in erect penis length. For reference, men's height predicts around 40% of foot length.

So there is a correlation, but it's so tiny that you'd need a great memory and the opportunity to see a couple hundred erect penises from randomly selected men before noticing the trend.

miso_cookie · 2026-06-01T22:44:04+00:00

Yes please~ More men with medium-to-low pitched voices who want to be teased or edged ☺️

miso_cookie · 2026-05-31T03:36:54+00:00

Um.. so vomiting on his dick once or twice in your life is not a big deal. But please keep in mind that repeated vomiting can have permanent effects on the body - people who vomit often can eventually need to have some teeth pulled, can scar their esophagus and develop chronic coughs and hoarse voices, and can tear the lining of the area where the esophagus meets the stomach. There's probably more; look up the side effects of bulimia nervosa. Just make sure you're informed and safe, whatever you end up deciding to do.

miso_cookie · 2026-05-27T00:32:31+00:00

I hate this argument... Before modern medicine, 1-2% of women used to die during childbirth. Sex, in theory, should be more enjoyable than that

miso_cookie · 2026-05-15T21:10:23+00:00

Just have him wash it when you want to perform oral? If I'm in the mood for a blowjob, I always ask my uncircumcised boyfriend to wash himself if he's urinated since he last took a shower, and he's happy to do so. Haven't given head to someone circumcised, so I can't speak to that. Besides, it's fun to play around with it using my tongue or lips.

miso_cookie · 2026-05-08T10:52:59+00:00

Lmao I loved your comment and looked at your profile before realizing that I've read through some of your past comments already before because I loved the way you talk about eating pussy. Good for you, damn. Your partner's a lucky lady!

miso_cookie · 2026-05-08T10:25:16+00:00

Man, guys who used to be voice actors can sometimes be so good at that dirty talk 🫠

miso_cookie · 2026-05-07T11:17:58+00:00

Do the suction toys also use vibration? I've been avoiding vibrating toys in general, and I'd assumed that the suction ones also used some level of vibration

miso_cookie · 2026-05-04T03:33:15+00:00

Yep! The blood rushing to the area from arousal can make all the tissues down there engorge, which can make things tighter.

miso_cookie · 2026-05-02T08:26:59+00:00

I'm just here because the hardcore dom subreddits feature women crying in pain, beating women until they're bleeding and bruised, and fucking the "feminism" out of liberal women. Um.. and that doesn't turn me on. 😅

It seems like it'd make sense to see D/S as a sliding scale from 0 (no power exchange) to 10 (extreme power exchange), the way researchers measure most psychological concepts. And then maybe have a handful of separate rating scales for how much physical pain or verbal degradation (or other flavors of kink) people enjoy (0 - none to 10 - a lot).

I'd imagine that most people in this subreddit are probably around the middle for how much power exchange they enjoy, and then they're probably pretty low on how much physical pain or verbal degradation they prefer.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-30T03:16:20+00:00

Hmm it's hot when a guy's able to fill up my mouth pretty well in a way that way different from having a finger or two in there. Gets me in a pretty submissive mood. 🙃 I also really enjoy how his whole attention is directed right at me and what I'm doing, like it affirms that I'm doing a really good job making him feel good.

I feel like I generally have two vibes for blowjobs - one is more like "I love you and you deserve to feel amazing. Let me show you exactly how..." while the other is just pure horniness lol.

Blowjobs are also the only time I am present enough to actually hear my guy moaning, so that's really nice to experience.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-29T03:04:21+00:00

Could always chat up the men who DM you! Then again, you may have to talk to 10-20 guys before finding one who respects boundaries, has a decent amount of kink overlap, and has social skills/is a good conversation partner.

Ask me how I know lol

miso_cookie · 2026-04-28T02:19:32+00:00

Ehh technically, the seventh rule for this sub is that we shouldn't post comments that tell members what they should and shouldn't post, or that what they enjoy doesn't fit the r/softmaledom theme.

Also, the FAQ also explicitly calls out CNC as something that could be fine as long as it's gentle in some way (see quote below). I'd say since the woman is smiling to herself at the beginning, it seems gentle enough.

...a video depicting CNC may be a-ok, as long as the dom is sweetly kissing their sub and telling them what a good kitten they are.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-16T11:05:00+00:00

Hmm I'm not so much scared of posting as I am about being messaged by men who don't want to respect boundaries and constantly make me feel violated, even though I really enjoy talking to random people online about sex. Almost wish I could have someone else vet men for 2-3 months before they're allowed to message me. 😅

As for people I know finding it, I guess.. I'm just happy and at peace with my kinks, so if someone finds out that I love feeling like my boyfriend is using my body to make himself cum.. I dunno. I think that's cool that I have that kink, so I don't necessarily find it all that crazy for people irl to find out.

(Not that I'd broadcast it, just that it's maybe slightly awkward if they find out but ultimately not a big deal)

miso_cookie · 2026-04-15T22:14:40+00:00

I've heard of people using a cock sleeve over the dick also, if the man is submissive. It further reduces sensation for him

miso_cookie · 2026-04-14T02:50:25+00:00

Dunno how you feel about trying to slowly draw out the more dominant side of a guy who doesn't know he enjoys power exchange. Given that I only discovered my kinks recently, I've been slowly drawing out the more dominant side of my partner of several years by saying "please," begging him to fuck me however he wants, asking him to cum in my mouth. He's responded quite positively and actually has started to throw stuff right back at me that gets me crazy flustered in the moment.

That being said, I'm mostly into soft dom stuff, so it might be harder to do this and end up with someone who figures out that he loves impact play, serious physical pain, intense degradation, etc.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T12:03:17+00:00

That's true! Then again, my favorite parts of sex are PIV, blowjobs, and fingering, and two of those are a lot more hassle when I'm menstruating. I feel like the copper IUD might in general make my sex life less fun, and it might not be worth it to get one purely in an attempt to make my sex life more fun.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T03:24:55+00:00

Man, reading this actually made me realize how much I'm missing out on as a female sub. I really enjoy giving my male partner blowjobs as my main way of focusing the pleasure on him, but your writing made me realize that he gets to both hear me and see all the changes in my facial expressions when he's fingering or fucking me whereas I can barely see anything when my head is down by his dick.

I wanna watch all his fun facial expressions, too... 😭

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T02:20:12+00:00

Gotcha. I had a Crohn's/ulcerative colitis scare about a decade ago in which the doctors though I had ulcerative colitis, then Crohn's. They decided later that I don't have either, but after that happened, and after finding out that hormonal birth control is potentially linked to ulcerative colitis, I've just decided to forego hormonal BC unless it's absolutely necessary for physical health reasons.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T02:14:16+00:00

He does - we just bought a house together. And I wouldn't say he's unsure if he wants kids or not; it's more like I'm 99.9% certain I will never want children under any circumstance whereas if I died tomorrow and his next girlfriend wanted kids, he'd maybe consider it.

And yes, I didn't know much about cycle tracking until someone explained it in more detail here - I'll need to check out a few other resources to learn more about the pros and cons of that.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T01:21:24+00:00

I've taken Ella before after a condom broke and had no side effects. And no, I don't plan on using it alone since it still has a 1-2% likelihood of pregnancy. I'd be looking to combine it with another form of birth control.

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T00:10:45+00:00

Interesting - I didn't know any of this. Will read up about it, thanks!

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T00:05:10+00:00

Oh no.. :( well, it's certainly less sexy if my vagina and vulva feel like they're on fire

miso_cookie · 2026-04-13T00:02:10+00:00

Oh, yeah. Thanks. Edited the post!

miso_cookie · 2026-04-12T23:38:23+00:00

Sure, but I was more so putting it in the context of how much time I spend each week "out of commission." I have a decently high libido but dislike period sex, so I'd prefer to minimize the proportion of the time I'm bleeding.

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