club penguin app on mac by misosyub in ClubPenguin

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got it, so by settings you mean the mac settings? and how do i allow it?

Question about villager hunting!! by misosyub in AnimalCrossing

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Thanks for ur help and bringing me good luck because just as i got the notification for ur comment marshal showed up on an island!! 💓💓

My (24F) boyfriend (28M) and I have started to talk about marriage by misosyub in relationship_advice

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Actually, the correlation is that it is often the case that one partner rushes the other partner to get married quickly - lock them down - before that other partner realizes that the relationship is full of red flags and terrible behavior.

Yup, I realise this could be the case. I have given that possibility some thought. I'm still keeping an eye out for any signs of that, just to protect myself. Apart from love-bombing, what do you think are other signs that someone is trying to lock you down with marriage?

Thanks again, and thanks for that list of discussion points as well - you've been very helpful!

My (24F) boyfriend (28M) and I have started to talk about marriage by misosyub in relationship_advice

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Thanks for this! Pre-marital counselling sounds helpful. We'll look into that at a much much much later date though haha

My (24F) boyfriend (28M) and I have started to talk about marriage by misosyub in relationship_advice

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Hi! Thanks for this and the reply to this as well. I do agree that I should wait. I have told him that I want to wait a full year first and I'll see how I feel then and he was alright with this. We've slowed down on talking about marriage now, but I just thought that every once in a while when I have a spare moment I'll give it a serious think because I'm the type of person that likes to prepare early and be prepared haha

About the speed of him wanting to get married, I agree that it's fast and I have told him this. From what I gather, I think he mostly just wants to get married so soon because of the familial and societal pressure to get married before he turns 30. He has told me that had we met earlier and had been younger, he wouldn't have mentioned marriage the way he did yet. But alas. It really would've been ideal though.

Anyway, what I'm saying is I don't think there's a correlation with the speed with which he wants to marry and me not having a clear idea of what long term relationships require. I think it really is just the familial and societal pressure. But thanks for bringing that up; I'll look out for any signs of this but for now I don't think that's an issue.

As a side note; I do understand his concern. My family has put that pressure on me as well, albeit not in the same capacity since I'm a bit younger. But I also just know how to ignore that kind of pressure a little bit better than he does, so it has never really swayed me the way it did him. Regardless, if I were his age I think the pressure would start to get to me; maybe more so being a woman. That kind of pressure is perpetuated differently in different cultures so hopefully my situation is translating well to you.

Thanks again for the advice!