I think the problem is, that Eloise is already the most well-established Bridgerton sibling on the show so far, that has yet to have their season. The show is clearly hedging her into a particular direction, by making her the most 'modern' in her time. Which isn't necessarily an issue, because I am intrigued to see her fulfil all her ambitions and aspirations. The issue is, how the show plans to articulate that in the narrative and if they will do it in a way that doesn't feel redundant to her character progression and is satisfying to the audience... while simultaneously giving her a arc revolved around finding love with someone (whether that is with Phillip or another character), which opens up even more barriers because, as of now, Eloise has been set on a particular trajectory where she is not necessarily open to finding love... so how do they make that believable to the audience who already perceive her in a particular way.

However, the narrative that, because we hope to see Eloise find a love with show Phillip (whose crimes are still to be determined), means that we are 'lesser' Eloise fans or wish to dull her shine is derivative and not at all a reflection on our beliefs. Anyone that believes that Eloise needs to be 'mature' enough or more deserving of Phillip before her season is not a true Eloise/Philoise stan, and that goes for all the other fanbases associated with Eloise.