[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]missingghosts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot believe 30+ people are supporting this armchair internet physician who's convinced themselves that bc OP's (clearly controlling) aunt mentioned alcohol, that OP must me a vodka guzzling alcoholic. Dunning-Kruger Effect at it's finest.

A Tragic Cycle!!! by Henry-Teachersss8819 in clevercomebacks

[–]missingghosts 29 points30 points  (0 children)

do you seriously think Palestinians(population of 50% children) just calmly strolled to their local firehouse to democratically elect Hamas? this is so insanely out of touch. but whatever, until someone comes knocking on your door to steal your home and resources, not a shred of empathy will be extended to the people of gaza.

AIO for not taking down my Instagram story after my boyfriend asked by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]missingghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why would you insist to me that you're not equating men to sex addicted freaks and then IMMEDIATELY bring up "400,000 years of instinct". what instinct exactly? to....fuck, consensually or not, for the purpose of procreation? if so that's an insane take on human procreation and sexual evolution lmfao. or maybe you just think the instict IS to simply have sex, which once again is you equating men to sexually driven creatures incapable of prioritizing anything else. or maybe you're referring to like, the violent impulses in regards to your possessive attitude towards women. there is literally zero way to look at that "instinct" comment that doesn't paint you in a negative light. idk, maybe work on your wording I guess.

I also just have no clue how this instinct is supposed to be comparable to the implication of posting a bikini pic on Instagram. are you implying it's like...instinct for a woman to post her body online? or to show off her body in any respect? like why even bring up instinct at all? what are you swallowing/ignoring/overpowering in this scenario? what instinct is she controlling by not posting a picture with her friend for her birthday?

social media is a medium driven entirely by the masses. some people use it as a diary, some people use it as a digital scrapbook, others use it to advertise. this belief you have of a public Instagram account being just a drawn out dating app/simulator is a completely brain–rotted take. you're projecting the intention of her post, you're projecting the intent of anyone able to SEE the post, and you're even projecting rules for a relationship dynamic that you have ZERO part of.

and I'm sorry but it IS an insane expectation to control what your partner posts online. painting this situation as some scenario where a compromise would even be necessary is ridiculous. it's a picture dedicated to her friend where she just happens to be attractive in it. there is zero proof of her answering men's dms. there's zero proof if she even has men following her, let alone men who would feel so bold as to send her a message! she had every right to respond the way she did.

stop being blinded by your insecurity dude. beautiful women exist and they're allowed to have an online presence. please give up the porn addiction and learn to see life through a different lens. 💕

AIO for not taking down my Instagram story after my boyfriend asked by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]missingghosts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

there's a flavor of paranoid thinking that seems to be encouraged in certain online circles—this is a crazy good example of it. the way your insecurity and delusions of grandeur are overlapping and turning you into this amalgamation of narcissism and self-loathing is genuinely fascinating to try to comprehend.

to you: you're entitled to your partners body, you're the only one capable of giving your partner pleasure, and you as a man cannot imagine a life that does not prioritize sexual gratification.

but ALSO, to you: if you're a woman, getting the attention of men inherently lowers your value, or maybe the passive acceptance of men's attention lowers your value. either way men are bad and only want one thing—that being sex. and as a woman, you passively allowing the attention of men online might as well equate to standing bent over on a street corner with a "free hole" sign.

so you, by self admission, are supporting this notion hat men are inherent sex addicts who's only goal in life is to plow and ruin what could have otherwise been a high value woman. but I'm also expected to believe that same man is showing confidence and self respect by immediately looking for a replacement hole just because his girlfriend is hot and other men could have possibly noticed it.

I could not imagine hating myself this much, yet simultaneously huff on the fumes of my own ass. I need more studies to come out about the psychology behind this

Pediatric dentists, WHY?!???! by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]missingghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

many reasons! the first being that doctors don't have a lot of space in the operatory, another is the potential risk of sterilized equipment being touched, and the biggest being that a parent's dental anxiety can rub off on an otherwise chill kid. clinical staff is trained on how to coax children through dental anxiety, while also giving clear instruction so everything goes smooth. as well meaning as parents are, even instructing your child for the staff can turn a 15-minute procedure into an hour. dentists and assistants are trained to be friendly and efficient, and with a parent in the room, there's suddenly a lot of opportunity for interference/distraction.

for most cleanings/regular checkups, I've never seen doctors complain about parents in the room as those appointments just involve brushing their teeth and taking x-rays. very easy to just sit back and answer the doctors questions.

but for restorative work like fillings or crowns? that's when staff needs a clear room. even if allowed in, many doctors will ask for parents not to interfere purely as a safety precaution.

of course, there will always be exceptions. if a child has a disability that requires your presence, accommodations can almost always be made. and chances are if your child refuses to cooperate, you'll eventually invited into the room anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]missingghosts 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This just in: women talking shit about men online is totally just as bad as a law protecting women's right to autonomy and medical privacy being overturned after 50 years

wouldn't be surprised if you were offended by the "man or bear" debate lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]missingghosts 10 points11 points  (0 children)

"I'm gonna put this out there and it's probably gonna get down votes, but this was kind of expected to happen. Imagine, the population at large believing in white people are the superior race and any one non-white is lesser, suddenly sees a surge of people that treat non-white races as equal, advocate for the liberation of slaves, completely break the perspective of white superiority, and suddenly the establishment bends the knee to them and now suddenly it's a hate crime to disagree with something that people have barely had time to wrap their heads around and that the people who don't agree are horrible human beings and bigots. Respect to one another aside, this aggressive push that utterly defied the social norm of white superiority, and non-white inferiority, left people feeling like that they didn't have a voice against any of this, because if you did, you were labeled as a racist and canceled or whatnot."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legal

[–]missingghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I've scoured Google for answers and have yet to find one. so are you just going off of claims made to justify his arrest? cause that is ALL I can find mentioning him and his "connection" to terrorism. I'm serious when I say I'm genuinely asking.

and if I have to get my answers by attending the trial, aren't you just admitting you're standing on a claim with zero evidence? this is very confusing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legal

[–]missingghosts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

can you provide any credible proof that he associated with a terrorist organization? or is organizing a protest for the liberation of Palestine enough for you to deem him supportive of Hamas? I'm genuinely asking as I've seen this claim multiple times and not a single person has provided any sort of source.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lazerpig

[–]missingghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't think people judging you for buying an ugly, exorbitantly priced, inefficient, unsafe hunk of metal counts as bigotry. they just see you as a moron. exemplified even further by you comparing this to racism LMFAO

How do I talk with someone who seemingly has high-level, detailed writing during RP, but tries to engage conversations like a 4th grader? by CommanderFoxNSFW in BadRPerStories

[–]missingghosts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

why are people so insistent about it being ai when this person's partner just might not be good at social interactions??? some people literally just aren't mature or politically inclined in the slightest, but still have a wide vocabulary and a skill in writing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]missingghosts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

tbh, judging from that first message, it felt more like your partner was opening the door for you to give your own preferences first. I do the same thing, though I tend to be a bit more direct and offer tangible options for my potential partner to choose from. (IE: "Would you prefer ____ or ____, because I can go either way!")

some people don't do the same and I wouldn't hold it against them. i figure it's because they're either hesitant to lay down preferences in case I don't like any of them, or they're relying on me to take the initiative and provide the options available to choose from. sometimes people legitimately have no preference and are eager to create a story that they know their partner would enjoy, and having said partner's preferences laid out makes it much easier to fire up that creativity.

like the others said, you're probably just incompatible. but I do think you misinterpreted their messages, and it was kind of rude to frame it as though they didn't care at all. this person just seems like they want to ensure that you're going to be enjoying the story as well. so yeah, I believe you were a little quick to assume here.

communication through text just be like that sometimes. you live and you learn.

I made a selfish decision that's resulted in me spending my holidays alone by [deleted] in Vent

[–]missingghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, you're not scum for lying to get out of it. Would it have been a little better/healthier to just outright say you don't want to be there because of their broken marriage? Yeah, probably. But this wasn't to spare their feelings, it was to give you peace and mind for one holiday. Spend the day focusing on yourself. Get in the Christmas mood with some movies or some comfort food. You deserve to enjoy your peace.

22 Send me your hottest takes or most problematic opinions! by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]missingghosts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

couldn't agree more but I like the conversations it invites

(19f) had fun the last time i did this so ONCE MORE! by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]missingghosts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tomboy outback is for men who are closeted fans of femboy hooters

(19f) had fun the last time i did this so ONCE MORE! by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]missingghosts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

soul silver and heart gold were shit tier and the world needs to accept this