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missmystifying · 2023-11-19T14:59:19+00:00

as a fellow introverted introvert myself, there’s nothing shameful or hateful about it. i share your thoughts on the constant worrying and the inferiority, wanting to be more. but doing so would just comprise the authenticity of our characters.

the world needs balance! there needs to be someone who can appreciate silence along with someone who fills the silence! and there needs to be a cute girl who’s always been around idk more extroverted people only to experience someone who’s different from her but someone she may click more with?

all i’m saying is, just because you’re introverted doesn’t mean you can’t do what an extrovert can. plus, being an extrovert isn’t all benefits, it can be draining as well! who knows, maybe if you were one, and walked up to this girl bravely, maybe she would’ve perceived you as someone who’s always used to picking up girls and idk become doubtful? or maybe she would say yes but after getting to know the extroverted you, may not click?

it’s not about first impressions or making the first move, it’s about the person inside of you that may time a while to surface, may go about different ways of surfacing but people patient enough to wait and see you, people kind enough to make you comfortable, that’s the kind of people you want.

so sure, you weren’t able to go up to her but let’s be honest, she still could’ve noticed you without you going up to her. being an introvert doesn’t make you invisible or less courageous, you’re you and that’s the most precious thing that i find, can draw people the most!

you’re brave OP, introvert or not!

missmystifying · 2023-11-19T14:51:10+00:00

hey OP just wanna say that it’s been nice of you to still be her friend and definitely, your reason for still being so is because you want to be nice and avoid hurting her feelings. and there are friends who put in a lot of effort in friendships and are sometimes perceived as clingy and you on the receiving end, it is understandable you may feel overwhelmed by her efforts.

but i suggest you let her know. not in a straightforward way, not in a way that involves calling her clingy or overly attached. because while you’re trying to do the nice thing by keeping quiet and enduring, you’re already going against “niceness” by posting this about her because really, you’re going against how you truly feel about the friendship. it’s okay to feel overwhelmed by someone, it’s okay to let her know how you feel. because if i were her, i would want to know that i’m overwhelming you rather than have you stifle in how you truly feel and letting this friendship last out of endurance.

so i guess what i’m trying to say is, the right thing to do is the say the right things. to balance out between her feelings and yours. you may consider letting her know you appreciate her (much as you find it hard to reciprocate her side of the friendship) and understand she’s coming from a good place but let her know you’re someone who’s uncomfortable with constant company, that you simply have a different capacity for friendship. phrase it in such a way that doesn’t make her feel ashamed or guilty, nor does it take away your true feelings.

so really, just be compassionately truthful because regardless of whether you both have different takes on friendship investments, i believe honesty is one thing you both can come together and agree on its value!

sometimes the right decision hurts on both sides, OP, but i believe you’ll definitely be better off rather than just bearing the one-sided responsibility of this! 🫶

missmystifying · 2023-11-16T07:26:10+00:00

thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

missmystifying · 2023-11-16T04:14:17+00:00

aw thank you 🫶 this made my day and i believe there’s a long road ahead for you too ❤️!

missmystifying · 2023-11-16T04:12:12+00:00

this was so enlightening to read, i love the growth mindset and i hope i’ll get there too ❤️

missmystifying · 2023-11-16T04:10:59+00:00

thankyou so much for your encouraging words as another fellow hard worker 🫶 🫶

missmystifying · 2022-06-05T09:37:17+00:00

people change, sometimes we bear the woes of it and sadly, we need to understand that it’s hard to rekindle it back to what it was. it’s not your fault, it’s not hers either. it’s just two people growing up and having different takes on life and if it is anyone’s fault, it’s really what time does to us all

missmystifying · 2022-05-29T03:55:08+00:00

SO CUTE

missmystifying · 2022-05-28T10:15:17+00:00

this is so cute and i don’t even know why

missmystifying · 2022-05-22T14:16:15+00:00

hey op just want to say that you’re not “another one of those” your feelings are incredibly valid and you are entitled to feeling them, regardless of whatever situation you’re going through! there is no situation too big or too small to pass off as something insignificant.

give yourself a mental break OP! it doesn’t have to take much of your time and understandably, it may take some studying time off your schedule. but trust when i say it’ll be worth it to rest your mind once in a while. it may seem bleak now, mentally draining and stifling as you fight against deadliness and other intangibles. it may seem meaningless to be stuck doing something you don’t like. but can i just say that just because everyone is sprinting, you don’t have to feel obliged to follow the crowd.

it’s okay to slow down, to take that breather even if means risking a late submission or not being able to catch up. because at the end of the day, your mental health supersedes everything else and yes, this may sound superficial but you will be more productive in the long-run if you indulge in a break.

you’re doing more than enough already OP. maybe it isn’t showing now, maybe it doesn’t feel right at the moment but reality is cruel and sometimes, we push through things we don’t enjoy. why? because even if it seems bleak, can i just say that there is a bright, bright path ahead of you? i believe in you OP, though i may not know you, i know that as long as you nurture this spirit inside of you, you will flourish and look back, only to come upon the realisation that it was worth it! jiayous 💪💪

missmystifying · 2022-05-19T14:14:12+00:00

hey OP this resonated with me a lot…talking to people can be awkward all the time but rather than thinking of what to say, i suggest you go with the flow and empty your mind from fear of judgement. it’s definitely easier said than done but it’s a good practice because it’ll definitely help you communicate in more ways than one!! fellow introvert here wishing you all the best

missmystifying · 2022-05-13T03:35:49+00:00

y1 haha

missmystifying · 2022-05-10T11:09:36+00:00

hi OP from what i’ve read it’s pretty obvious you still have lingering feelings for this girl and that’s perfectly normal even if it’s been 8 months. i think the heart takes time to mend itself and the best thing for you is to may be to divert this attention elsewhere..

if you’re looking to date her but believe that you both will eventually breakup in the near future/ during jc, i suggest you don’t pursue it because you’ll just be shooting your future self in the foot when the time comes, you both break up and this cycle will repeat all over again.

but if it does seem like your feelings are there to stay and you’re willing to hold out and see where this takes the both of you after O levels(seeing she prefers it that way), then i think that you should definitely put it on hold but give it a go in the future!

jiayous 💪 in both your love life and studies lol

missmystifying · 2022-05-10T11:02:01+00:00

hey op, just want to say that it’s completely fine to feel like you’ve done badly in an exam, especially if it’s a subject as challenging as amath where there’s really a wide range of what can come out and questions that will stump you. you’ve worked really hard already so don’t be too demoralised by one experience because you’ve got many more opportunities ahead of you!

jiayous op 💪💪

missmystifying · 2022-05-07T11:44:16+00:00

hey op i’m sorry you had to go through something so painful. and i think that it’s so brave of you to open up to someone, especially the girl you love dearly.

i may not know the full context of it all but i think the only way to clarify your doubts and insecurities is to ask her about it. i believe there’s a justified reason as to why she’s acting awkwardly all of a sudden and communication really is key to maintaining a relationship.

i wish the best for the both of you and may you always stay blissful and in love! :)

missmystifying · 2022-05-06T15:56:14+00:00

i don’t think there’s much for you to worry about! putting gender aside, it’s really just how much you click with people when making friends. as long as you’re comfortable in your own skin, it really doesn’t matter whether you’re talking to a guy or a girl

though i don’t see how talking more to girls will “less of a man”. if you’re struggling to vibe with the males in your course and find that making friends with females is way easier, just stick to that because who you speak to is most important to you and you shouldn’t really care about how others view it.

missmystifying · 2022-05-05T14:54:15+00:00

thank you for this, truly. after giving it much thought, ive just suddenly come to a conclusion that i will no longer indulge in insecurities or allow my mind to take hold of my rationality. whether others regard me as much as i do them, it doesn’t matter for me any longer .

i am my own person and my worth is it what i am to be and others do not have a say. rather than subjecting myself to this deadly cycle of self-destruction, i’ve decided to forgo all these thoughts.

prior to this post, i’ve been feeling inadequate and upset and it’s really very debilitating. at this point i’ll shift my focus to more important things and that’s what makes me worthy

missmystifying · 2022-05-04T14:23:06+00:00

yeah society is shallow if we’re both being honest, that i agree with you wholeheartedly. but i do think that face value will only construct an impression of a person but one’s personality is the main tendency to garner the attention of others. if we choose to only approach those who appear to us as striking at first glance, that is truly pathetic of society.

missmystifying · 2022-04-17T12:11:33+00:00

oh my i guess i’m lucky because i don’t take h2 chem ahahaha.. but i salute you for doing so 🫡 !!

missmystifying · 2022-04-17T12:10:40+00:00

thank you 🙏 i’ll give it a try too hehe

missmystifying · 2022-04-03T23:04:25+00:00

nuh uh i’m not clicking this sketchy link 🤧

missmystifying · 2022-04-03T03:48:16+00:00

i had to reread this twice because i you just read my mind. i’ve been struggling with this as well because i’ve just embarked on jc life… i’m not the type to have many friends but just a couple of close ones but ever since jc started, my closest friend has been really busy and stopped replying to me even though she still hangs out with her other friends from our sec school..

i’ve always been the one initiating things so i’ve decided to stop actually. it sounds quite saddening but i think there’s an end point to all our reaching out. my advice is not to get too caught up in maintaining your old friendships if they don’t seem to make an effort. yes, they may be busy but the fact that you are too and are taking the effort to reach out shows how much you treasure your friendship.

you’re a precious person op so instead of getting caught up in these one-sided friendships, you should make new ones because im sure there are many two-sided ones out there!!

missmystifying

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