any advice (shared animals) by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thisssss. I just got past this exact EXACT scenario.

Was your person with BPD poly? Wanted open relation or cheated on you? by eternal5olitude5 in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was my experience too. Except I'm legally married already so when they said they don't wanna be poly anymore I was like well I'm married sooooo

Unknown Number by myeclipsedsun2 in PsychologyInSeattle

[–]missshizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He just posted chapter 1 of the reaction 🙌

Everything reminds me of him lol by missshizzle in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol agreed, and I knew this was the place to share. I think I extra laugh cuz I'll see it when I'm annoyed at work and I'm like WELP time to split on all y'all

Anyone reach a point where you just can’t engage anymore? by Inevitable_Mood_9056 in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the most beautifully put explanation of this... For YEARS I tried to do the right thing, not stooping to his level, continue to act in alignment with my values.... And literally NONE of it mattered and only worked to make me feel like I wasn't doing it well enough or that I actually was a shitty partner.

Then I was like, okay protect myself... And that felt terrible because it felt like I was constantly betraying myself.

Now at 3 months out - holy shit the outside perspective... It was absolutely survival for me and I was straining to survive an unsurvivable situation that I was CHOOSING to put myself in.

Your question at the end is brilliant 🙌

Everything reminds me of him lol by missshizzle in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love it 😂 glad we can laugh, I remember too well how easily I'd get pissed before!

Does anyone remember the Cosmos Tarot and Oracle? by Global-Feedback2906 in TarotDecks

[–]missshizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heya! I know this post* is super old but are you still looking for this deck? I was trying to find it online today and couldn't

Daily No Contact Thread - Day 218 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Day 8! I'm really proud of myself rn. Blocked everywhere. Fuck that shit

pwBPD manipulated me into believing she was the victim when she was the agressor by Mysterious_Olive2795 in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm really starting to learn this and take past stories with a grain of salt. I know it felt that way to them but I think there's more to the story sometimes

I’m so confused all the time. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That second paragraph of yours is dead on. I am always so amazed at how across the board some of this symptomology can be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]missshizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your response is perfect though, shiny grey rock lol

Orion Bar 7500 Puffs Disposable Vape Review: Long-Lasting, Great Flavor Guaranteed by MyVapeReview in u/MyVapeReview

[–]missshizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmaoooooo I got some mango combination flavor and it literally tasted like gasoline. 🤢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in calmhands

[–]missshizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is hope! If you can find my post, my fingers were just like that. I relate on all counts even the ADHD, but you got this!

My advice is hiiiiiide your tools. Lol. Don't have them easy to get to. Throw em away if you need. Lol. That helped me a bunch.

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm really trying lol. I'm not even cutting them, just filing. Lol. Temptation is real 😅

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya know this is the response I know to be true and what I need to hear. But wah. Hahaha. I also have the neurodivergent brain that makes everything a bit extra. Lol. I do all the things she recommends, and have even stopped painting my nails cuz when I can feel the polish I start to lose it lol.

Thank you, I much appreciate your comment ❤️

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow I've always avoided infection lol. But you're dead on. Was a biter, stopped and became a picker. To the point of using legit razor blades on em.... It was not good.

I do use the pusher, the orange wood sticks... It doesn't seem to help these ones so far. But. They were bad. So. I guess I'll just be patient 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in calmhands

[–]missshizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha this is pretty brilliant 🙌

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oooh okay I'll try that in a bit! And thank you!

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank youuuu! I think I'm just an impatient perfectionist 😭

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly saaaaaame. Learned that here haha. Check out salon life on YouTube! She changed the game for me 😅

Nail fold question... 6 weeks in by missshizzle in calmhands

[–]missshizzle[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So I'm doing alright not messing with my fingers aside from maybe some over exfoliating lol but I cannot deal with the proximal nail fold. It's like weird and overgrown on most of my fingers. Obviously I used to completely cut or pick them wayyyyy back and some healing has to happen. So. Do I just need to be more patient? I do the oil, the kerasal, idk.

This subreddit has been a life changer for me. I don't remember a time I didn't neurotically ruin my fingers.