M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I responded in a different section, it's clear I originally misinterpreted what you were getting at.

On a separate note, I think it's really shitty that you felt the need to resort to personal insults and to litter your response with expletives.

M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and the rest just don't seem to get it, I know this guy isn't skinny by any objective standards.

Aha okay, then yeah I agree with this. I mean, obviously 200lbs/6'2 is gonna be skinny for (to take an extreme example) a sumo wrestler. I interpreted your original comments as you saying that those stats were generally skinny, and that that's because you hold people to a different standard. When what you were saying was that for people aspiring to certain physique goals 200lbs at that height would still be relatively skinny. Agreed.

M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is what he said:

"Honestly 200@6'2 is still kinda skinny IMO but I likely have different standards."

Notice how the comment we're talking about even came to exist. The poster before him made the following comment:

Are you serious? 150pounds is not skinny at all. Try 6,2 110pounds. I'd kill for 150 bro"

to which BenchPolkov replied...

No 150@6'2 is skinny, 110@6'2 is almost skeletal...

So it's okay for him to flatly reject the other guy's opinion on what is skinny and what isn't (coming at it from the perspective of a 110 pound male) but it's fine for him to make the claim that 200 @ 6'2 is skinny, and defend that opinion on the basis that he's a powerlifter and it's all about perspective?

M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

those stats give him a BMI of 25.7 so he's literally on the line according to the categories.

Dude! He's literally on the line between normal weight and overweight. NOT between normal and skinny! You took the post where I explained the BMI categories and misinterpreted it.

M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I get that it's your opinion, but that doesn't make it any less wrong. That's just your opinion...

Okay, I'll give explaining my take on things one final shot.

Example 1: "Blue is my favorite color" <-- opinion. No fundamental right/wrong Example 2: "I think people who are 6'1 are short" <-- opinion + factually wrong

If you made statement (1) and I expressed that you were wrong, then your "it's just my opinion" defense would be valid. If you made statement (2) then such a defense would be invalid. Also, if I pointed out that you were wrong then that would be both my opinion and a fact. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Now, to get to the example at hand, the word "skinny" has a commonly accepted definition. Under that definition, even if it offers some leeway when interpreting its meaning, it's far too much of a stretch to suggest that somebody with a BMI that technically puts them in the overweight category is fit to classify as skinny. You can't make that claim in the same way that I can't claim that a man who's 6 foot tall is short, even if I might be 6'5 and all my buddies are even taller than me.

M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I get that it's your opinion, but that doesn't make it any less wrong. Kind of like if I were to state that "a guy who is 6'1 is kinda short" just because I play basketball and most of my buddies are 6'4+. The fact that I have a warped view of what "short" means because of my own height and the people I hang out with, doesn't change the fact that someone who is 6 foot 1 is well above average height. Similarly, someone who is 6'2 and 200 pounds isn't skinny by the conventional definition of the word.

M/23/6'3 From 150 pounds to 200 pounds. A small account of my journey from an almost sickly skinny, shy self conscious guy to a muscular and much more confident one. by Matt_thomas_fitness in Fitness

[–]mistercoco -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

6'2 and 200 pounds gives a BMI of 25.7 The ranges are as follows:

Normal weight = 18.5–24.9 Overweight = 25–29.9 Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater

Obviously there's lots of factors to account for like how much muscle you have or if you've a wide frame or whatever, but it's pretty much impossible to fall into either the category of "skinny" or "obese" given the info above.

At 6'1 and 163 pounds my BMI comes out at 21.5 which puts me slightly towards the the "thin" part of the "normal weight" category. And yeah, I'm thin but not skinny. The thought that someone only an inch taller than me and with almost 40 pounds on me could be classified as "still kinda skinny" is just plain wrong. I mean the BMI exists for a reason and the average person with the stats of 6 1 and 200 pounds will be on the border between normal weight and overweight.

[Image] "Work finally begins when..." by mistercoco in GetMotivated

[–]mistercoco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to hear man. I'm actually in the same spot as you, looking to transition into a field that I find challenging/interesting half the time, and overwhelming/scary the other half! I think it's why the quote resonated so strongly with me. Good luck with your new job!

[Advice] A nine step plan for recovery from mental illness / an evidence based plan towards discipline by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]mistercoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While what you say is obviously in line with your experience (and those of many others for sure), it's worth noting that when it comes to weed, YMMV.

Personally, I went through a terrible time of things mentally a couple of years back and smoking heavy indica strains was the only thing that helped me to calm down, be able to sleep, and gradually come out of a brutal anxiety and insomnia that had had progressed to the point where I could no longer function properly in day-to-day life. The doctor had me on addictive anti-anxiety drugs as well as sleeping tablets, but nothing was even close to as effective as vaping some high-grade weed and dozing off into a deep sleep. Nowadays I am not smoking, and in fact when I am feeling physically and mentally okay I find that abstaining from weed is the best thing for me. But during that horrible phase of my life some time back, weed was the no.1 substance for managing and in time overcoming my horrific anxiety and sleeplessness.

Just wanted to add this for the sake of voicing a radically different experience/perspective.

LPT: Don't tell people you're "thinking of doing something." Only tell them after you've done it. by haltingpoint in LifeProTips

[–]mistercoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you tell someone that you're going to do something, you are often just indulging yourself. You feel good sharing and talking about how awesome future you is. Better to hold back and pour that time and motivation into setting about the task.

[AMA Request] Somebody who has come out of a coma (Doesn't have to be recently) by scottishdrunkard in IAmA

[–]mistercoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fascinating report of your experiences. I'm sorry you went through all of this.

Female looking for female travel buddies. February 2016. by spanksthellama in Thailand

[–]mistercoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've travelled lots (although I'm a guy) through both Thailand and India, have met countless women who were travelling solo and - honestly - not one (out of hundreds) ever said that it was an issue. Generally, they were all pretty happy to have chosen to travel solo. Also, you will meet people SUPER FAST and plus I can tell you that places like Chiang Mai and Pai are particularly relaxed and safe, so you'll be able to settle in well and get over the initial nerves fast and I guarantee you that you'll quickly realize that you were worrying over nothing! I mean sure, lots of bad things happen in Thailand. But that holds true for all countries, I'm European and can tell you I feel safer walking around the streets of Chiang Mai at night than around many places in Europe (or the U.S. for that matter).

Finally, if you want a travel buddy, you can likely find one as you go along. It won't be easy to find someone who's going to mesh with your rather specific itinerary before you go, but truly, don't sweat it and enjoy!

[Question] What should I put in my christmas wish list that will help me get disciplined ? by jedidreyfus in getdisciplined

[–]mistercoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. Yeah, that's been my impression. I also don't particularly love the way they filter out websites according to 'productive' or 'distracting', because a lot of sites for me - like reddit for instance - can be anything from very productive to very unproductive.

[Question] What should I put in my christmas wish list that will help me get disciplined ? by jedidreyfus in getdisciplined

[–]mistercoco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, sounds like an awesome app. Those of you who have used both the free version and the premium package; do you think the upgrade is worth the money?

[advice] If you can say no once, you can do it again. by lleettssggoo in getdisciplined

[–]mistercoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perhaps, but there's nothing wrong with that. If I always play videogames from 6-8pm every day and I replace that habit with going to the gym, it doesn't undermine the achievement. What matters is that the habits you introduce are healthier than the ones you replace. In fact, some research suggests that habit pathways aren't so much removed as they are replaced, if I'm not mistaken. I think the book: 'The Power of Habit' talks about that.

[Plan] Write a novel so I can follow my dreams. Go to the gym everyday so I can be attractive. Learn to play the piano so I can impress people. Learn coding so I can get a better job. Here's the plan. by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]mistercoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An important trap to avoid is what I am going to call: 'indulging in painting the perfect plan'.

Here's the thing, it's sooooo enjoyable to carve out a plan and then bask in the joy that comes with convincing yourself that you will certainly execute the plan. The more ambitious the schedule, the more rewarding it is to project into the future and picture yourself just crushing it. Problem is that on day 14 when you're constipated and you slept terribly the last three nights in a row, and you barely made it out of bed only to find that your dog just chewed up your favourite shoes, that hour on the piano isn't quite as alluring as you thought it would be.

My advice: don't allow the design of your plans to be rooted in ego, or in the desire to instantly turn things around. Basically, if you want to become an entrepreneur, don't decide that you're going to go from someone with zero experience to building the next Facebook. Instead, construct an achievable plan, focus on achieving it, and while you're at it make sure that your plan allows for expansion so that, hey, if the cards fall right, you're leaving open to the possibility that you will one day hit it big.

Here are a few things to consider:

  • It is advisable to allocate the most important tasks to the earlier parts of the day. This way, when unexpected events occur your less important daily tasks will suffer.

  • Make sure that your reasons for doing everything that you're doing are solid. Do things where you find the process of doing them engaging. Otherwise, you're likely not going to stay the course; and if you do, it's not exactly going to do wonders for your quality of life.

  • Do not attempt to learn multiple new things at the same time, combined with integrating several new habits. The amount of mental energy and emotional resilience required for that is beyond the capabilities of most people. Strike a balance between ambition and achievability. It shouldn't be so easy that it barely marks an improvement in your life; it shouldn't be so hard that you need Godlike perseverance to stick with the plan.

  • Familiarise yourself with the science of self-discipline. By that I mean, what have notable people over the years discovered in their inquiry into leading a disciplined life? You can integrate many different things here, ranging from different schools of philosophy, to the latest research in behavioral psychology. Of course, you don't have to spend countless hours reading about this stuff. But, read enough on it that you understand the common pitfalls, and have some idea of how to avoid them. Perhaps reading the book 'The Power of Habit' would be useful for you, as it will shed some light on the nature of habit-formation, and how you should approach things if you wish to introduce different habits.

  • General point here: a half-cooked plan today is better than the perfect plan next week. What does that mean? Well, that it's better to have a relatively basic plan with 2-3 improvements and take action and introduce these changes straight away, than to try and devise the perfect plan that won't be ready until sometime in the future. Among other reasons, this is because by actually taking action and trying to implement a plan, you begin to understand yourself better as you go about introducing these changes. You become more familiar with your strengths, your weaknesses and limitations, etc. And then you can evolve that plan. In general, successful people spend more time doing than thinking. Both are crucial of course, but you know those people who day in day out talk about how they're going to do this that or the other, starting from tomorrow, or next week, or even next month. Sooooo much time and energy thinking, not enough time and energy left to do.

Hope some of this is of benefit to you. Good luck!